Hands up if those of you who answered guilty are now getting friends requests from guys who mention the webcam thing.
I'm starting to feel insulted. Just because I've done it once doesn't mean I'll do it with anyone.
Uhm, well, I like Highwaymen and Pirates, but there don't seem to be too many of those around...
I'm sorry, this makes no sense...can you clarify?
Do you mean, can you batter a woman's self-esteem down enough for her to accept a date off someone she wouldn't normally go for?
Guys without a strong sense of self get passed over. Note this does not mean 'completely selfish' - immature people may confuse the two. Challenge us first - the worship can come later.
Must agree that Secretary is an awesome film and has saved me many an explanation of my preferences, and why.
Done it once...can't do it for long. Also I'm a singer and scared of damaging something.
get a selection together and wear them at intervals throughout the evening. It can be interesting to see the variety people will respond to.
No Ugg boots though.
I didn't believe in it either until a boyfriend found it by accident...first Vajayjay orgasm ever. Bloody amazing. THAT's how you know when you've found it - there's no mistaking it. Sadly - it has eluded me ever since. But I know it's there...
I think some women have a bit more success using something firmer than fingers, but if you are sensitive in certain places that may not be the way to go. It helps if you have a guy who is happy to help you 'explore uncharted territory' - would probably be a huge turn-on for him.
But otherwise, don't worry about it too much. Nature has given us other ways to get off and we're all different. I think it's so important not to assume others' sensual experiences should work the same for you - that's a one way ticket to sexual neurosis. We are all snowflakes....
Thank you for all the thoughtful and understanding replies. Going to try to mix the two up a little bit - perhaps be a bit more restrained online, and a bit more wild offline, and see if I can't find the happy medium that way.
Ladies, do you ever feel this way or do I need to look at my self-esteem?
Online - I totally cut loose. I am erotic, expressive, daring, confident, get into some wonderful and naughty conversations with men. It feels like an equal playing field and I feel like a woman through and through.
Offline - I feel like a complete imposter. I'm prudish, nervous, self-critical and if any of my nearest and dearest knew what I was up to they'd either fall over themselves laughing or disown me completely.
But...
Which one is the real me? Is the net my mask and everything I am here is dependent on being online? How can I combine the two...I would hate to be misrepresenting myself, I'm not into deceiving people at all.
Your thoughts please, as to what's going on?
Because some of us are related to Lilith, the first Vampire, and the holy essence of masculinity nourishes us.
Wow. Uhm. Well there's lots of things that can affect this -
Could it be as simple as familiarity breeding contempt?
Sex became routine and you're not sure how to spice it up?
Maybe, just maybe you've got 'too close' and have stopped seeing her as a sexual being and more an extension of yourself?
Or is there a thrill at tasting forbidden fruit...when something is available on tap we tend not to want it as much so go looking elsewhere - Thrill Of The Chase?
This would definitely be time for a chat with a sex therapist IMHO.
I know that one technique they use with this kind of thing is to place the couple on a no-sex-for a month ban, the idea being that a reverse psychology kicks in and when the month is up you can't keep your hands off each other.
Or maybe even one of you going away for a little bit so that you start to miss her and the desire comes back that way?
Does she know you feel this way? Please don't cheat - what if this is just a temporary thing and you lose her forever?
Christian Bale and Trent Reznor. Johnny Depp is providing the lube.
is a secret agent working for the Russians, and is knocking off David Cameron while Nick Clegg watches.
CellarDoor's profile is interesting, visually attractive and she shares similar tastes to me. So I hope she accepts my friend request.
Wales. Would rather be in Birmingham.
Hey, I'm not judging you, hun - every circumstance is different. As some people above have said - on some occasions if you do find a sensitive way of approaching the friend about it, she might well say 'go ahead', and may well appreciate that you took the time to consider her feelings by asking. Actually, to go out with the guy I'm talking about, his ex was a friend of mine and I did ask her permission, and she did say okay. Lol she did warn me he was an asshole though - I should have listened.
I hear you. Had way too many boyfriends who were freaked out by it. But I think it's down to a lack of understanding as to what submission means. I think a lot of guys stereotype D/s behaviour based on society, porn and unimaginative friends so it's up to us to explain what it really means.
Some guys possibly see it as welcoming disrespect for women? I, for one, can see why that would freak out some men.
I am currently getting over a relationship lost in this way. My boyfriend went off with my best friend. She would say it was justified because he had finished with me, but the reason he finished with me was for her and it seems they were spending time together behind my back before this.
I will never ever forgive her. She knew what the relationship meant to me. I had ample opportunity to do something similar to her and never took it. Ultimately it's about the pain you are likely to cause. There is no 'fair game' IMHO if you know you will be hurting that friend, and you have no right to call yourself a friend any more if you act on any feelings you may have towards someone they care for.
The dreaded fanny fart....not so much in itself but am frequently unable to continue due to laughing hysterically.
I'm going to go out on a limb here but...when you were growing up, was your father around much?
Everything you are describing is psychologically attributable to an absent father figure, and you are definitely not the only young woman to feel this way. I relate greatly to the huge yearning within you. It is a yearning, isn't it?
It's good that you have identified that there is this issue, early on. But I would also say, please be careful. In elevating male attention to this level of importance, you are putting yourself at risk of some really unhealthy relationships that will drive you down even further - you are already more likely to settle for something that is no good for you simply because you need to feel wanted. It's going to be harder for you to work out when a guy is really into you - as you have already found out.
I'm telling you, being with a guy just for the sake of being with a guy is going to make you feel worse. It's just like a fix for an addiction. You get a hit of satisfaction that doesn't last and you want more, but that magical fulfillment never comes. In fact some people do describe this as a 'love addiction', and if you google it you'll find you're not alone.
But this isn't to say you've brought this on yourself, it's not your fault and you are NOT lacking as a person. People are the way they are for generally good reasons. I think it would really help for you to see a counsellor or therapist and talk this through. It can change, and you can feel stronger. As we heal past hurts, then the things we desire change in line with that healing.
It's hard to see people around you in couples, laughing, doing all that romantic stuff, it can make you feel completely unlovable and wonder when it will be your turn. Your turn WILL come.
Take care sweetie x
well, there is strength in being alone (doesn't feel like it though) 
Thank you Bizarre magazine!
