I have three true loves in life. In no particular order, they are women, writing and music.

The avatar is me, Grace, as writer/Buddha. I have lost my left leg about halfway from knee to crotch but I am sticking with this one though, you will just have to imagine me sans leg

Men: If I do not know you DO NOT WHISPER. I regard unwanted whispers as an invasion of my privacy and a physical assault. If I am abused, short of an immediate apology I will tell the asshole and the world at large that he is a fucking wanker. To mods, I am sorry if this does not meet with your expected behaviour, but I will never again sit on my hands in the face of abuse.

Note: If I do not answer I am AFK or writing. Or another beautiful woman has my undivided attention.

I am a lesbian, widowed, then divorced, and now married to a wonderful man who is disabled. I have been his nurse for 17 years until death do us part. I meant it. However, 17 years without sex is a long time. I'm trying to catch up.

I have realised that BDSM is not important to me. If you want to domme me and don't hurt me much I can thoroughly enjoy it. If you want me to domme you and don't expect me to hurt you much that too can be a trip. Mostly I don't know where I'm going with a new lover and I'll do what comes naturally. Tell me what pleases you, what makes you scream. That is what really turns me on.

== Partial Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Exhibitionist
100% Switch
100% Voyeur
72% Experimentalist
61% Vanilla
59% Dominant
53% Non-monogamist
1% Masochist
1% Sadist
0% Slave
0% Degradee
0% Degrader

Men. I am becoming less paranoid of men on here. I've met several who appear to be perfect gentlemen. That said, I do not do men and I cannot stand to be touched by men. Never. If I like you we can be friends but you gotta ask and you gotta be nice. If I don't know you and you send a chat or friend request, or whisper, I will block you.

Ladies. Sometimes I do ladies. Mostly I like ladies. If I am in and free I will respond to chat and friend requests. Please bear in mind that it always says I'm online but I may be away from my computer. If you have a husband or boyfriend and you suggest it would be nice to bring him along, trust me it won't. I don't do men. Not even my own. Goodbye.

I prefer to retain my privacy, so please don't ask for photos or identifiable personal information. We will never phone, video chat, exchange addresses or meet in the flesh, so don't even think of asking. What happens on Lush stays on Lush.

"If any of you ladies are having trouble in the clitoral department see me after the show. I'm not a gynaecologist but I'll have a good rummage around." Roy Chubby Brown.

Love is all we need.

Grace

Interests
Internet, Lush, cars, Lush, building and renovating houses, especially low energy houses. Women. I like to keep in shape, round is a shape.

Favorite Books
Flowers for Algernon. The Postman. Stranger in a Strange Land. Everything by Bradbury. It by Stephen King. The Thieves World shared world collection. The Jokers Wild collection. Most everything by the lawyer whose name escapes me at the moment. (Still can't think of his name. Be patient, I'll get there.) John Grisham! And to My Nephew Albert I Leave the Island What I Won off Fatty Hagan in a Poker Game. Dealing: or The Berkley-to-Boston Forty-Brick Lost-Bag Blues by Michael Douglas. Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency.

Favorite Authors
Ray Bradbury, Tolkien, Robert Heinlein, Spider Robinson, Marion Zimmer Bradley, John Grisham, JP Donleavy, AA Milne, Philip K Dick, Douglas Adams, Terry Pratchett, Kurt Vonnegut. Pam Ayers.

Favorite Movies
The Ballad of Lefty Brown, As Good as it Gets, If by Lindsay Anderson, La Cage aux Folles, A Clockwork Orange, The World According to Garp, Awakenings, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, August Rush, Good Morning Vietnam, The Usual Suspects, The Sixth Sense, Blazing Saddles, The Sting, Tootsie, Saving Grace (2000), Labyrinth

Favorite TV Shows
Longmire, The West Wing, Last of the Summer Wine, The Big Bang Theory, Dexter, Married With Children, Saving Grace, Designated Survivor, Soap

Favorite Music
I like both kinds of music, Country and Western. I also like Talking Heads, Pink Floyd, Grateful Dead, Dr John, The Eagles, blues, jazz, in fact almost anything that isn't crap (the c is silent,) or the heavier metals. Or smooth jazz. Smooth jazz is an abomination I will not tolerate. If given a compulsory choice between sex with a man or an hour of smooth jazz I think my head would burst.

Everything on my video wall is, in my opinion, of very high quality. And yes, that does include The Newbeats. Swine Lake (It's a Pig of a Ballet) is not up for musical quality, but it is precious.