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black1
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 61
0 miles · England
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When I go out I am always overdressed and my wife corresponds . It works both ways . Just the simple removal of a jacket can make you look more casual if you should feel overdressed. I too see some couples were the lady has made an effort and probably spent, a good couple of hours in the bathroom , whilst the guy literally has just thrown a baggy T shirt and scruffy jeans, with shoes that are better seen in a gym. Its probably why I get some admiring looks and compliments from ladies of other couples .
Try both ways and keep your options open. As the others have stated there are downfalls of both ways. But as Simplicity has stated don't give up and keep trying. Sometimes fate ( as in my case) brings people together. That checkout person serving you at the supermarket could be your next partner .
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Meeting or talking to someone online is a chance. you never really know who is behind the screen, who you are really talking to. But I will say, I met my husband online. We are very happy, more so than the man i met in the "normal" way and was married to for 35 years. Milik is a very special person. But we took our time, we talked online and on the phone for over a year before meeting in person. So I will say not all dating or online relationships are bad. Just be careful. I was lucky, I found a wonderful man. Dont give up yet..
That is a nice story on how you met your partner . Perhaps a thread on "How you met your partner" would bring up similar nice stories.
If she is not paying attention it could just be that she isn't attracted to you because you are possibly not her type. Just try and talk to her in friendly terms and see if any of her body language confirms that she is into you or not. I would be vey careful about jumping in and telling her how you feel it could possibly affect your friendship. IMO you need to be certain. Some people are best just kept as friends .
Thanks I know what your saying and I am probably very much in the minority .
However having lost 6 and half stone ( 91 pounds) and exchanging the "English" beer belly for a 6 pack , I do see the benefits. I am fully committed, but, I would still rather be doing something else with the time than working out. Your are probably bang on the money and I perhaps do see it as a job.
However having lost 6 and half stone ( 91 pounds) and exchanging the "English" beer belly for a 6 pack , I do see the benefits. I am fully committed, but, I would still rather be doing something else with the time than working out. Your are probably bang on the money and I perhaps do see it as a job.
Good advice from the others already given. As you admit your not very good at signals I presume either giving them or receiving them , I would check out the various videos that centre on body language and eye contact and learn . A lot of women are better than guys at using it and reading it. IMO once you are able to read body language and eye contact it will add a string to your bow in your quest to find a new partner.
As the other posted suggested. Socialising could be a good way forward even if its just for platonic friendships. We see regularly a very fit and good looking 78 year old guy on our night out circuit and usually ends up in the same night club/cabaret club for the over 30s. In respect of his late wife he will not form any long lasting relationships with other women but does enjoy a night out socialising with them and perhaps escorts them to their awaiting taxi after. He has spent some time with my Mrs socialising of which I do not mind as I trust them both . For the sex side of things you could try getting a Fuck Buddy. The F word isn't a word I like using but is correct in this context . Its is sometimes shortened to FB or F Buddy . You will need to do some digging on the internet for details of local hook ups etc. I have never used one but I dare say others would be better placed should you need any further details on this topic.
Depends which way you want to do it .
First of all age is just a number . Its how you look and feel that counts.
As the poster above has pointed out they could be a good start and perhaps other dating websites. I would be tempted to go for the subscription types as there will likely be more genuine people on there. Some of the free sites have plenty of timewasters and married people on there going off some of the feedback I have seen on other forums .
The old fashioned way of going to a late bar is still relevant today if you live in a large town or city . Local searches should help you find the hot spots . I wouldn't go alone unless you are very good at socialising and a very good conversation starter. I would take a wing man who can keep you company and keep you talking and help to keep your feet on the ground .
If you have been out of the dating scene for some time I would look at the various 30s and 40s and over style videos . This will help you with your image should it need tweaking . Also learn about body language and eye contact. Many women practise this art and are better than us guys at it . Knowing how to read it could help you get the foot in the door. All these can be found on Youtube. Remember you need to be better than the competition and not just one of the crowd.
The final tip is that its not a race and take your time and try to look your best at all times. You never know that checkout lady at the supermarket could be your Mrs . Fate is as strange as that sometimes .I met my Mrs by fate so I do know it happens .
Best of luck
First of all age is just a number . Its how you look and feel that counts.
As the poster above has pointed out they could be a good start and perhaps other dating websites. I would be tempted to go for the subscription types as there will likely be more genuine people on there. Some of the free sites have plenty of timewasters and married people on there going off some of the feedback I have seen on other forums .
The old fashioned way of going to a late bar is still relevant today if you live in a large town or city . Local searches should help you find the hot spots . I wouldn't go alone unless you are very good at socialising and a very good conversation starter. I would take a wing man who can keep you company and keep you talking and help to keep your feet on the ground .
If you have been out of the dating scene for some time I would look at the various 30s and 40s and over style videos . This will help you with your image should it need tweaking . Also learn about body language and eye contact. Many women practise this art and are better than us guys at it . Knowing how to read it could help you get the foot in the door. All these can be found on Youtube. Remember you need to be better than the competition and not just one of the crowd.
The final tip is that its not a race and take your time and try to look your best at all times. You never know that checkout lady at the supermarket could be your Mrs . Fate is as strange as that sometimes .I met my Mrs by fate so I do know it happens .
Best of luck