It depends what you are looking for. For a long term relationship chemistry is most important . For a quick fling then its geared more to physical attraction .
It starts with physical attraction, and I'll have sex on that basis alone. Chemistry just makes the relationship last.
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Thirding black1 and Beffer. Chemistry can keep things going long after the lust of initial physical attraction has worn off. I'd say physical attraction gets me into bed, chemistry keeps me coming back.
Quote by GraceW I am a tart. Chemistry is a bonus.
Ever the contrarian, eh? I do get the appeal of going purely on attraction, it's just that it only gets me so far. Purely physical sex bores me after a couple go-rounds. Even when I was enjoying "professional companionship", I preferred ones that I clicked with on more levels than just physical. One lady who was my "go to" for a while was also a fantasy fan, for instance, and we would chat about that during lag times.
Chemistry matters to me and I learned this in spite of my lusty desires.
A couple of quick stories...
Many years ago, I and a couple of friends went to a cheap whore house. When it was my turn, I went up to the room. There was an attractive young black woman in a negligee (I'm white but black was a fantasy of mine). She asked if I wanted 50/50. I'd never been to a whore house before (or since) so I asked, what's 50/50? She said, "Half sucking, half fucking." I said 50/50 would be good. She started sucking but I couldn't take my mind off the fact that this environment had nothing to do with eroticism. It was very cold and had only to do with the sale of a product (sex) in exchange for money. I couldn't get it up. She began defending herself, saying she did everything she could. I said, "I know. It wasn't your fault," and I tipped her anyway because she did do everything she could. I was the problem - not her.
After I divorced my first wife I thought, now I can fuck 'em all. I had three "one night stands" within a short period of time. The first two women weren't very attractive but they had the necessary plumbing so I went for it. When it came right down to it, there was nothing about these women that turned me on so again, it didn't work. The third one was cute but she was drunk on her ass. I would have felt guilty taking advantage of her so that didn't work either.
I've had one night stands that were wonderful - because the chemistry was right. Admittedly, I was interested in more than a one night stand because of the chemistry, but anything more than one night of sex just wasn't in the cards.
yes it matters. I need the emotional as well as the physical attraction otherwise the physical is meaningless and fleeting for me. Marking love with someone you care deeply for and who cares deeply for you is much more satisfying than a transitory fuck.