First, please don't misunderstand, this is a serious question, I am not some jerk trying to feed my ego.
Is it possible for a woman to become uncomfortably over-excited?
A couple of times now during oral sex on her, my girlfriend has abruptly pulled away saying "that's too much, I can't handle it". She seems to almost lose her breath then I notice her rubbing her clit while trying to calm down. Then she'll say something like 'we can't do this all the time..I can't take it...". Of course I try to stop when she says too, but have I pushed it too far? Is it possible for a woman to be uncomfortably over stimulated? is it unpleasant? How should I handle this.. I want her to be happy, not uncomfortable.
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The most famous would probably be Liz Taylor. But the circumstances made it especially interesting.
Went on a 'poker run' with a local motorcycle club back in the late 80s. When we got to the party site, Malcolm Forbes showed up with his group (Capitalist Tools) and he had Liz with him. I was surprised how petite she was.
It was cool watching her hang with the bikers.
Went on a 'poker run' with a local motorcycle club back in the late 80s. When we got to the party site, Malcolm Forbes showed up with his group (Capitalist Tools) and he had Liz with him. I was surprised how petite she was.
It was cool watching her hang with the bikers.
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I'm sorry, but this is borderline offensive to independent escorts and you would probably get roasted alive by the ones that I know. They are not livestock being sold by someone and would not see themselves that way. That analogy might work for a pimped street prostitute, but an independent escort is doing it of her free will on her own terms. She would see herself as a freelance contractor selling a service, that service being time with her. She puts a value on that time and service based on both the market and the value she puts on her own body and sexuality. They are, in short, independent enterpreneurs whose service happens to be providing companionship and, yes, sex.
Agreed. this is a service, and when well provided is well worth the expense. They deserve appreciation, not rude arrogant words... I do my best to let them know how I feel.
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The thing I like s is that there is a kind of honesty missing in many casual dating relationships, She knows why I want, I know what she wants. No need to worry about being too direct, or hide motivations behind romantic facades.
And no expectations about calling her tomorrow or meeting her friends.
And no expectations about calling her tomorrow or meeting her friends.
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First, remember that 'natural' does not mean safe. Plants evolve chemistry for their own purposes (many plants are deadly), there is no reason to expect that something from a plant is safer than a product that's actually been tested.
I would recommend L-arginine. It's an amino acid that is part of the erection cycle that helps regulate blood flow (also used by body builders before exercise) that tends to get to lower levels with age. It's not a drug, it's simply bringing the level up to when you were younger.
I'm 70, but it helps me keep up with my erotic dancer girlfriend,
[stay away from youimbe. That can cause liver and nervous system effects]
I would recommend L-arginine. It's an amino acid that is part of the erection cycle that helps regulate blood flow (also used by body builders before exercise) that tends to get to lower levels with age. It's not a drug, it's simply bringing the level up to when you were younger.
I'm 70, but it helps me keep up with my erotic dancer girlfriend,
[stay away from youimbe. That can cause liver and nervous system effects]
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Many times. Even watched her give a lapdance to some of our male AND female play friends.
As I mentioned earlier, my gf has a full time job, but for years she has danced (stage/lap) one afternoon a week for de-stress from her regular job.
Interesting quote, I was out of town for a week, and she said that she missed me and just "couldn't get into doing any dances'" while I was gone.
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Not a problem in itself.
I was with a woman for quite a few years who had a very active history (but was clean). It never bothered me. we eventually (peacefully) went separate ways because she was becoming more involved in BDSM and had a thing for cross dressing guys, neither of which were of any interest to me.
We still keep in touch, though.
I was with a woman for quite a few years who had a very active history (but was clean). It never bothered me. we eventually (peacefully) went separate ways because she was becoming more involved in BDSM and had a thing for cross dressing guys, neither of which were of any interest to me.
We still keep in touch, though.
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Sometimes I think it's tougher when you actually like your partner.
The problem of a major serious problem in our extended famiy (including messy legal issues and 'reverse' racial discrimination by child services) as well as wife's deteriorating health has killed our sex life, even though we get along well otherwise. After a while I stopped trying.
Don't judge me but, some years ago I connected emotionally with a woman in the most unlikely of circumstances, and it evolved into a very intense discreet relationship. Neither she nor I saw this coming, but she 'sends me to the moon' and back (both emotionally and sexually) like no one I've ever know. We keep a low profile but text whenever we're apart (our texting is more 'love notes' than 'sexting', interestingly)
I don't know where it's going. neither I nor my lover really want this to hurt the wife but I don't know what the future holds (I'm 70 now)
The problem of a major serious problem in our extended famiy (including messy legal issues and 'reverse' racial discrimination by child services) as well as wife's deteriorating health has killed our sex life, even though we get along well otherwise. After a while I stopped trying.
Don't judge me but, some years ago I connected emotionally with a woman in the most unlikely of circumstances, and it evolved into a very intense discreet relationship. Neither she nor I saw this coming, but she 'sends me to the moon' and back (both emotionally and sexually) like no one I've ever know. We keep a low profile but text whenever we're apart (our texting is more 'love notes' than 'sexting', interestingly)
I don't know where it's going. neither I nor my lover really want this to hurt the wife but I don't know what the future holds (I'm 70 now)
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It all goes back to natural selection (evolution). Men who preferred men were far less likely to reproduce. Men who were ambivalent would wind up more often with men who were easier and quicker to seduce than women, hence they would be less successful reproductively. Men who were strongly hetero were the ones who would actively pursue women and so the majority of our male ancestors fall into this category. And those men often simply don't want to watch other mens' bodies.
On the other hand, women who were sexually ambivalent could still mate enough times to be evolutionarily successful so were not at a reproductive disadvantage.
On the other hand, women who were sexually ambivalent could still mate enough times to be evolutionarily successful so were not at a reproductive disadvantage.
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It all goes back to natural selection (evolution). Men who preferred men were far less likely to reproduce. Men who were ambivalent would wind up more often with men who were easier and quicker to seduce than women, hence they would be less successful reproductively. Men who were strongly hetero were the ones who would actively pursue women and so the majority of our male ancestors fall into this category. And those men often simply don't want to watch other mens' bodies.
On the other hand, women who were sexually ambivalent could still mate enough times to be evolutionarily successful so were not at a reproductive disadvantage.
On the other hand, women who were sexually ambivalent could still mate enough times to be evolutionarily successful so were not at a reproductive disadvantage.
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some years ago I had a relationship with 62 year old woman I met online. She had a dysfunctional marriage with an alcoholic husband (and ex husband) whol now lived elsewhere. She said she believed she was physically frigid.
When we finally met up, something clicked and the dam burst. That first meeting was explosive, I eventually started visiting her on weekends and at the end of the weekend we'd count the number of times, typically 15-20. I was getting a bit older at that time and would never have believed I could function like that, but she had some magic.
When we finally met up, something clicked and the dam burst. That first meeting was explosive, I eventually started visiting her on weekends and at the end of the weekend we'd count the number of times, typically 15-20. I was getting a bit older at that time and would never have believed I could function like that, but she had some magic.
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Depends on the cause. If it's simple aging, it could the nitric oxide cycle has been reduced in your body. In that case regular doses of L-citrulline can be helpful. It's NOT a drug, and quite safe, simply an amino acid that is normally in your body and essential to erection. (check webmd for details)
It's also used by body builders before workouts because of the blood flow improvements.
It's also used by body builders before workouts because of the blood flow improvements.
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I was married for some years to a bisexual woman (she told me when we were first dating).
While the relationship was monogamous, there was plenty of allowance for both of us to flirt and play with others. It didn't bother me when she flirted with men, but I was never really comfortable with the woman thing..
We eventually parted on friendly terms to follow our own separate directions (she by that time was getting pretty heavy into BDSM, which also left me cold).
While the relationship was monogamous, there was plenty of allowance for both of us to flirt and play with others. It didn't bother me when she flirted with men, but I was never really comfortable with the woman thing..
We eventually parted on friendly terms to follow our own separate directions (she by that time was getting pretty heavy into BDSM, which also left me cold).
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People can be too quick to judge. Circumstances are often not as simple as yes/no. A marriage that is sexless (health issues) over an extended time puts a log of pressure on the healthy member. For the past two years I've had a relationship with a woman who understands the situation and has helped me out. Without the frustrations of celibacy, the tension with my wife is reduced...sleeping sexlessly next to her is no longer a period of frustration and tension.
Does she suspect? maybe. She has told me on various occasions that there are certain things she does not want to know about. So I need to be discreet whether she knows or not..
How will it play? I don't know.
Does she suspect? maybe. She has told me on various occasions that there are certain things she does not want to know about. So I need to be discreet whether she knows or not..
How will it play? I don't know.
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My ex wife was bisexual, but she told me that before we were married.
Never fully adjusted to it. It was not an open marriage but flirting some making out was mutually accepted. It didn't bother me when she flirted with men, but I was never comfortable seeing her with women.
Never fully adjusted to it. It was not an open marriage but flirting some making out was mutually accepted. It didn't bother me when she flirted with men, but I was never comfortable seeing her with women.
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Interesting bunch of stories.
We have had virtually no sex in over 2 years (largely due to her medical problems). She figures I'm probably into places like this and porn, but doesn't want to know the details. What she doesn't know, is that after sampling a few strippers and massage girls, I've kind of hooked up with a regular stripper-with-benefits who takes care of me leaving me breathless and very happy (yes the stripper knows about my home situation). This has helped me to deal much better with my sexless marriage.
[Side point... several of the guys hide same sex relationships, my ex wife would have enjoyed that concept... She liked that sort of thing. One of the reasons we went our own ways, it wasn't for me at all]
We have had virtually no sex in over 2 years (largely due to her medical problems). She figures I'm probably into places like this and porn, but doesn't want to know the details. What she doesn't know, is that after sampling a few strippers and massage girls, I've kind of hooked up with a regular stripper-with-benefits who takes care of me leaving me breathless and very happy (yes the stripper knows about my home situation). This has helped me to deal much better with my sexless marriage.
[Side point... several of the guys hide same sex relationships, my ex wife would have enjoyed that concept... She liked that sort of thing. One of the reasons we went our own ways, it wasn't for me at all]