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I think that porn stars and situations vary. Some do. Some do not. I tend to prefer porn where people appear to be turned on and into it. Whether they are or just acting I can't definitively answer.
It's a job. There are long hours. There are a bunch of crew who are waiting around to get things done, go to lunch or go home. No doubt that many would find it a difficult environment to get turned on.
I don't but thanks for trying to speak for me. What makes you think they're "MUCH better"? It's entirely different to me and there are good and bad on both sides. The industry doesn't make one better or worse.
Citation? I haven't seen any conclusive evidence one way or another and people seem to just assume what you've said.
The majority of the industry is certainly geared towards men but porn consumption among women is on the rise from what I've read. Women who enjoy porn aren't as rare as you make them seem.
It's a job. There are long hours. There are a bunch of crew who are waiting around to get things done, go to lunch or go home. No doubt that many would find it a difficult environment to get turned on.
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who when you stop to think about it MUCH better actresses than MOST "main stream" actresses
I don't but thanks for trying to speak for me. What makes you think they're "MUCH better"? It's entirely different to me and there are good and bad on both sides. The industry doesn't make one better or worse.
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For that reason, MOST females do not find watching porn arousing.
Citation? I haven't seen any conclusive evidence one way or another and people seem to just assume what you've said.
The majority of the industry is certainly geared towards men but porn consumption among women is on the rise from what I've read. Women who enjoy porn aren't as rare as you make them seem.
Quote by ForumChatterDepends on what's going on. Sometimes it's good to hold them down. Sometimes it's good for the other to grab hair, hips, etc. Sometimes it's hot to have my back clawed. Sometimes their hands should be on my cock. Sometimes it should be on their own parts. It would be weird for hands to be in the same place all the time.
Where would you like his/her hands to be placed during sex?
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Can you enjoy this and be straight or bi
Of course. One could also be gay. Orientation and enjoying anal masturbation are two different things. Neither mutually inclusive nor mutually exclusive.
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Also have you tried it or would like to try it?
Have tried, currently do and will do so in the future.
Versatile. One or the other is just too limiting. There's fun to be had with both.
Both need to know what they're doing. A bottom that just lies there isn't any fun either.
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I'm versatile, but if I am going to bottom for a guy he best be hung and know how to swing that big bat. There is nothing worse that a guy with a big cock that thinks all he needs to do is shove that cock into me to rock my world.
Both need to know what they're doing. A bottom that just lies there isn't any fun either.
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The problem is that there are now porn companies such as Raw that are either paying established stars more or recruiting from places like Eastern Europe to make bareback. Not a very good example to make.
That's a different issue and not something inherent to bareback porn. Bad examples can be found with any topic.
Never had problems with it but context matters. I've been to many events where nudity is a regular and accepted thing though not the focus of the event itself. Haven't really been to a nudist beach or similar. I'd like to but I'm really not interested in being nude around a bunch of strangers.
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Any ideas on how to snap her out of it
There are no magic solutions to problems like this. Some thing or several things are at the core of your issue and you need to find what those are and address them. They may have nothing to do with sex.
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Not going to bore everyone with a lot of back story.
All that backstory and other stuff in your life is where you need to look. It's very difficult to give meaningful and specific advice without knowing you, your wife, your relationship and your issues. An objective third party perspective would probably help.
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I have a lot of mixed feelings on this. What are your thoughts?
I'm not sure they're germane as it's not me or my relationship. I've tried polyamory several times and have found that I'm ill-equipped (or maybe I need to learn and grow a bit) for giving multiple partners what they need and deserve. Do you both have past experiences that you can leverage to make this work? Do you know how each of you functions and responds in a dynamic with more than two partners?
What are your thoughts and feelings?
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I'd love to try it but the wife's not up for it sadly. I'd love to have something rub against my prostate! Sounds fun
There are prostate toys, massagers, butt plugs, etc that could be worth checking out as well.
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I was making the point that gender and sex are not the same thing. I thought they were until I was pulled up about it, I did a bit of research and found that I was wrong.
Sorry, that wasn't clear in your prior posts. Your quoting and reply seemed to indicate that I was stating that they were one and the same.
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No, gay is not defined by gender it's defined by sex.
You're misrepresenting what I said. Sex of the people sexually attracted to each other is definitely relevant. A dildo, on the other hand, is an inanimate object. It has no gender and no sexual preference so it can't be straight gay or bi.
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My point is a guy taking a cock shaped object up his ass is a gay act.
I fully understand your point but your reasoning is flawed and you're projecting your preferences. You might not be able to appreciate that a straight man could enjoy a dildo (and have no interest whatsoever in another man) but that doesn't mean that it is not possible. Strap on sex can be a straight sex act. It can be a gay sex act. It can be a bi sex act. It can be a lesbian sex act.
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If it wasn't the object wouldn't be cock shaped!
That's circular reasoning. Being like something does not make the thing into the something.
Fact is that most dildos are representational. There are some non-representational ones and people certainly use them. Either way the general shape is very good at the job. However, that does not define it as gay -- or any sexual preference aside from preferring a dildo in the ass.
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The fact that a man has a pseudo penis in his anus is, to my mind, quasi gay!
Precisely why I said you perceive it as gay. Perception and reality aren't always the same thing.
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For example: this position would *max* the depth of entry. It also gives the guy complete freedom to go as hard as he wants at a downward thrust which makes it more intense because you've got that downward momentum thing going.
One of my favorites (the boots and tan lines are very nice touches) and a good one if it works for you. Probably not for the one that started this thread though. Still, there are many other good positions to choose from!
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I have had enough relationships, life experiences, and setbacks in my life to know what I want and what I don't from a spouse and partner.
Have you had relationships where you've lived with the other person? If your religion and/or morals don't allow for that I apologize. I just find that I learn a lot about my significant others when living with them. Sometimes dealbreakers.
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Why I asked the question was I approached the wife about it and she couldn't understand why I would want a naked massage with another female.
Women and the relationships they're in with men can vary. I've been with partners that were ok with that and those that were not.
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It feels like he's in too deep and "at the end" of my vagina, it hurts every time he thrusts , like, a quick, sharp pain.
That's probably the problem. Doggie's one of those positions that allows for deeper penetration.
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What's wrong?
It's possible that nothing's wrong and that's just the way you're built.
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Am I bi?
Yes but labels aren't really all that important. Enjoy sex! You don't have to constantly tag and label things.
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Is it normal to have all of these new wants at this point in my life?
It's normal to have them at any age. It's normal to not have them. There isn't just one option for every person out there. Don't worry about what is or isn't normal. Your sexuality is yours and you define what's normal for you.
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Although I agree that the OP is bi it doesn,t always follow that because you have, had or are having sex with males and females you are bi. I was having sex with women for a few years but I was always a gay man.
It's more of a matter of where you are at the given point in time and who you're sexually attracted to.
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There has recently been an increasing amount of bareback porn. How do you feel about this? Do you ever bareback or are you condoms only?
Hot for porn and fantasies but that's all those two are. In the real world condoms are a must unless in a committed relationship with a guy I know is clean.