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Peter242
1 day ago
Straight Male, 68
0 miles · England
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Advanced Wordsmith
Hi,
Trust is essential. Once with someone you trust then as a sub there is something so unique to being tied down - preferably over a spanking horse with wrists and ankles in leather grips.
I do like to be able to release myself. I never do, nor have to, but the ability to do so somehow makes me more relaxed. The pain is more enjoyable when your choices are taken away. That is why trust is essential.
Best
Peter
Trust is essential. Once with someone you trust then as a sub there is something so unique to being tied down - preferably over a spanking horse with wrists and ankles in leather grips.
I do like to be able to release myself. I never do, nor have to, but the ability to do so somehow makes me more relaxed. The pain is more enjoyable when your choices are taken away. That is why trust is essential.
Best
Peter
Advanced Wordsmith
Hi,
Lisad83 has got it right. Pain gives /heightens sexual pleasure. As an adult we know we can object and resist. Part of the acceptance of pain is that it does also give pleasure. I particularly like lying across a dom woman's bare lap. I like to be naked to show my submission. I prefer the woman dom to be dressed but bare legged. The skin to skin contact adds to my desire. The stinging of the cane or flogger gives unique sensations that are so hard to duplicate.
I don't need to be told off as I am disciplined. Conversation is great, then periods when the more serious discipline is dispensed and the pain prevents conversation - as both of us are focused on the receiving and giving of pain.
More recently I have dommed as well. Beforehand I had no sexual joy from spanking someone else. However, when with a woman I trust, and who trusts me, I have achieved serious arousal from spanking her. I also know she has been aroused being on the receiving end.
Interestingly, we differ in our ability to switch back to our more common roles. Me as the sub and her the dom. It takes several minutes in fact for me, and even longer for her. I have put that down to the depth of feeling we experience.
In many ways it isn't natural to be both a dom and a sub. There is a natural tendency to be one or the other.I have to force myself to dom, whereas being the sub is natural. When I do dom I get satisfaction from the gasps and groans from the sub, and from taking her to a limit and making sure I do not over step it.
I hope this helps.
Best
Peter
Lisad83 has got it right. Pain gives /heightens sexual pleasure. As an adult we know we can object and resist. Part of the acceptance of pain is that it does also give pleasure. I particularly like lying across a dom woman's bare lap. I like to be naked to show my submission. I prefer the woman dom to be dressed but bare legged. The skin to skin contact adds to my desire. The stinging of the cane or flogger gives unique sensations that are so hard to duplicate.
I don't need to be told off as I am disciplined. Conversation is great, then periods when the more serious discipline is dispensed and the pain prevents conversation - as both of us are focused on the receiving and giving of pain.
More recently I have dommed as well. Beforehand I had no sexual joy from spanking someone else. However, when with a woman I trust, and who trusts me, I have achieved serious arousal from spanking her. I also know she has been aroused being on the receiving end.
Interestingly, we differ in our ability to switch back to our more common roles. Me as the sub and her the dom. It takes several minutes in fact for me, and even longer for her. I have put that down to the depth of feeling we experience.
In many ways it isn't natural to be both a dom and a sub. There is a natural tendency to be one or the other.I have to force myself to dom, whereas being the sub is natural. When I do dom I get satisfaction from the gasps and groans from the sub, and from taking her to a limit and making sure I do not over step it.
I hope this helps.
Best
Peter
Advanced Wordsmith
Hi, As a dedicated sub, who has recently enjoyed switching with a lovely lady, I believe both the sub and the dom must each enjoy what they are doing / are having done to them As important, at the same time both must be happy the other is having as much fun. It should not be a chore for either.
Whether you are a sub or a dom is inherent in yourself. Giving and receiving pain must be erotic for both.
Whether you are a sub or a dom is inherent in yourself. Giving and receiving pain must be erotic for both.
Advanced Wordsmith
Just to be clear, when thinking of a dom it is not just a male preserve. Women are great at being the dom. Why be humiliated? Well when you are across the ladies lap or bent over waiting for the cane the adrenalin is really pumping. If you have to face the wall with your hands on your head while she berates you, or sit on the floor at her feet, or stand still while she slaps your face, then the adrenalin still runs fast and you get a high. Well I do anyway.
Advanced Wordsmith
For most of my life I have been a sub. However, for a while now a lady who has dommed me for some years wanted to switch. I agreed, tentatively at first, and did not expect my delight in spanking her to last. However, it ha,s and now I really do go at it. Her bottom is beautifully red when I am finished.
She always has me spank her first, and in a way I find that exciting because I know the harder I spank her the harder she will deal with me. To be fair, she only likes to be hand spanked, whilst she gets to use her hand as well as paddles floggers and the cane on me.
Anyway, the point is I now understand how you can switch and enjoy both.
She always has me spank her first, and in a way I find that exciting because I know the harder I spank her the harder she will deal with me. To be fair, she only likes to be hand spanked, whilst she gets to use her hand as well as paddles floggers and the cane on me.
Anyway, the point is I now understand how you can switch and enjoy both.