My baby girl is back home and recovering. Thank you all for all your prayers and well wishes this community has been wonderful to both of us through our entire relationship. Lots of recovery to go, but together my baby girl and her Daddy will get through this.
Thank you both for your kind words. I just got word that the problems were caused by a medication that was prescribed that should not have been and it had an adverse reaction causing a heart related issue.
They have said that my precious baby girl skye will be able to go home tomorrow.
Thanks for the prayers and for everything.
I know this is personal but I had to just talk to some people about it.
Many of you know that for almost a year now skye, has been my prime and is my precious little one. Well two days ago my pet was admitted into ICU. There is very little I can do, and I feel helpless. This is the one area where even as my baby girl's Sir, Master and Daddy, all my power, control and strength pale in the face of mother nature and people of science that know more than me.
I have no other reason for posting this other than I needed a place to just get out how I was feeling.
ProfessionalMaster
This is the topic that doesn't end.
And it goes on and on dear friends.
One person started writing it because of what it was.
And people kept responding forever just because.
This is the topic that doesn't end......
The post little_kitty is referencing was posted by littlebirdie92.
After typing that I had to pause for a second.
I agree with Ravyn it is not like picking out a ripe watermelon or any other fruit or vegetable. It is about asking questions of people and learning about yourself. I would say that the fact that you know you have limits is a good start. If I had a nickel for everyone that said "I am willing to do anything" let's just say I would not have any financial problems ever.
But feel free to bend the ears of people on here that you are friends with. Don't be afraid to reach out and ask questions of people. There are people here who are labeled as Masters and some of them are very willing to just answer questions and help people.
People like Ravyn or Skye who are very comfortable with who they are and know a good bit about the differences and the path in the lifestyle can be great people to ask about feelings and in some cases what to avoid.
I will always answer questions from anyone wanting to learn. I feel that is something that is completely necessary in figuring out who you are.
Very glad I could help. Any time.
First of all ShyLittleWolf, let me just echo that everything Sprite said is right on the money.
First of all if you feel something, whether by need, want or desire. That is completely okay. There is no reason in the world for someone to shy away from what it is they feel they need to be happy or reach a place of contentment
Secondly, I would say that you should never be afraid to ask questions. There are people on here that are incredibly knowledgeable and caring and will give you the right answers based on nothing more than what they have seen, lived and experienced with no premeditation or ulterior motives.
Sprite is on of them, Skye Blue is one of the of them and so is Ravyn. This is not an exhaustive list, just three that I highly respect and with reading their comments, writings and in the case of Skye her being mine; I have come to truly respect and know that they see this as a place to help, reach out and guide.
I welcome you to the site, I hope that you find what you are looking for and the answers to the questions that you have. I will always answer any question you may have as well.
You know the truth of the matter is, you never know when you are going to get a piece of knowledge that truly works to start changing the way you think.
Not long ago I was having a conversation with someone who I consider a good friend. They were speaking about how they had just taken their kids to their grandparents house and had a great time but on the way home one of the children asked their mother "How come it always seems like Grandma and Grandpa never fight".
Needless to say this led to a discussion later that night between the parents.
That really hit me and then I started thinking about some of the things I have run into on in the BDSM community, this site over the year I have been involved and other sites.
As most of you know I am not the most prolific poster. Nor am I the kind of person who is going to just start a topic out of the blue. But after a year here I have seen a consistency and I just had to vent.
I worked long and hard for my title of Master as many of us that have been in lifestyle for a at least 5 or more years have. And I was always taught on my way up that there was a standard that you lived up to when you carried that title. One of the things that was most important was to always have "your house in order".
Before you can exercise a full power exchange relationship with another person. Before you can take on the responsibility of having someone TRUST you with their mind, body and soul. You have to be able to trust yourself with your own.
It means that if you are in a relationship, you need to make sure that first one is solid and that you have established ways to talk before you go back to training or trying to expand your presence as a Master or Mistress.
Even the best of us make mistakes, take risks and sometimes have relationships that don't go the way we want. But I think the true measure of how effective one is as a Master or Mistress is how those people relate with you after they are no longer a part of your lifestyle life or family. And how your lifestyle family treats them.
None of us are perfect, but as Master's and Mistress's we have a responsibility to those that we proudly call our subs or slaves to work hard at trying to achieve that perfection.
Am I there. No.
But I just don't know if everyone still believe's this way that carries the title of Master or Mistress.
So that leads to this vent and the obvious can of worms it is going to open. But I would like to know who else might agree that the community seems to maybe have lessened what we are looking for out of someone we call Master or Mistress.
Now see being in the lifestyle for 16+ years (just had my birthday April 16th so it had to change) this is by far one of the more interesting topics I have seen here in a while and brought me out of my self imposed non commenting hiatus on this board.
First thank you for defining RACK and SSC for those that might not have known what it meant. I think anytime we talk it is important that we make sure that anyone that reads the posts have a complete understanding of the terms being used as that is key in any level of communication.
As for me personally, I think all my slaves and subs, those that are mine, those I have trained for others and those I have rehabilitated know that it is always Safe (as defined by the guidelines of the relationship), Secure (with all safety precautions taken, including quick release in bondage situations) and in ALL CASES Consensual (hope I spelled that right).
That said there is always a Risk (if it were completely safe there would be no reason to take precautions), they are always Aware (they know what they are getting into from the beginning), Consensual (see above point as it can't be made enough. It must ALWAYS be Consensual) and I could have now misspelled that three times. And it would be hard not to admit that it is Kink (just by definition alone).
I would say that it is less one or the other and more a combination of practice from the SSC side and awareness from the RACK side and so both parties may be in the same relationship and see it from one side or the other.
Biggest hits in my book. Jennifer Lawrence for Best Actress in a leading role. Great character, great movie and fantastic to see her rewarded for that role. Also Anne Hathaway for Supporting Actress for her role in Les Mis.
I loved the speech by Ang Lee director of Life of Pi. That was an awesome moment as well.
As for flops. Christoph Waltz.... REALLY? That should have been Tommy Lee Jones all the way. The speech by Quentin Tarantino was just the most self aggrandizing I have heard in a while.
But the thing that pained me the most was the beginning. The whole bit with William Shatner and Seth MacFarlane call me crazy and old fashioned if you must but to say that a show sucked before it even really got started... that seemed to me to put a damper on the whole evening.
50 Shades of Whey - The Further Stories of Little Miss Muffet
50 Shades of Ben Gay - The Story of Shaquile O'Neal's Career
50 Shades of Stay - The True Story of Rin Tin Tin
Safe words online are a must if you are doing serious play. Because the mind is a very fragile thing and you can damage it psychologically with play that you can't stop. As for closing the window of course you can. But then you have to avoid Online Messages and all the other possible ways you have let that person get in touch with you. Just set up a safe word. It is "SAFER"
I choose the top in a heartbeat. I prefer tits and ass. And the top has both. The dick is something that is completely additional.
Top and I think the name says it all.
By the way I think that imitation is the greatest form of flattery. I like your tag line findingnichole.
Wow, this is a huge question. Not just rambling I think, but the flowing thoughts of someone who has truly been hurt deeply. As I read through that, I get a stream of consciousness mentality that almost cries for help. I won't have any guaranteed answers. But I can give my opinion based on the 15+ years I have and maybe somewhere in there is something that will help.
First, when you put time and effort into something that shows a level of caring and passion. I would say that means it was something that in the very heart of you, you cared about. Not just with the person you were with but as a whole. In BDSM just like in a 'Nilla relationship, things happen. In my case it was twice this year. I lost a former slave named Lindsey, when she passed away. She was truly the first slave I ever really truly loved, then I recently lost a slave named Princess who I started mentoring, but now she is talking with others and she may end up being mentored by someone else.
Why? Because that is what she needs. And while I would love for her to stay. She needs to grow. That might very well mean casting off the very person who introduced her in the first place.
Would that feel good? No. BUT.... If it is what is for the best then by all means it is what needs to happen. I say all that too let you know I can sympathize and if you will let me even at some level empathize with you.
But my concern is not in the way you will deal with the loss. Why? Because loss while tough, is something that we overcome a lot in life. What I am concerned with is that it is driving you back to where you "were before it all".
That to me, and once again this is an opinion.
Seems like it is throwing the baby out with the bath water so to speak. I mean if you still love anything about this lifestyle there is going to be someone else in it for you. If you have doubts, I can speak again from experience. I never thought I would ever care about a sub/slave again when Princess left. I was hurt to the core. And then a chance email from someone who read my posts. Sent a friend who had experienced a loss to me. And a Master deserted another incredible sub/slave and once again we began to talk. Now I have two incredible girls that I care deeply for, that both love me and I them.
Two that I think most people might have never thought would end up with *takes two thumbs and points at himself* this guy.
I do not know the extent of the loss and so I was a little hesitant to post, but then I figured, if you were truly trying to get some sort of focus back that maybe just a few opinions offered here and there and you might find the words that speak to you and allow you to move forward.
As always if you want to talk on a more personal level feel free to send me a PM.
I hope this helped a little.
See I don't have to post often just effectively. The win is mine.
If you are a sub and posting after me, realize that you are directly spitting in the face of a Master and I hope your Dom/Dommes treat you accordingly.
That said I win.
I refuse to laugh. So there I win.
Thanks for keeping the place warm for me. I win.
Nope I am back. And I am calling on all my family members to help me win.
Just showing you how it is done. Now it is won.
For all the guys saying organic, I can tell you now there are women that are getting augmentation done and you can not tell. Just because it is natural doesn't mean she was "born" with it.
The most beautifully crafted structure in the word is the woman's body. I like attention to be drawn to that. I think nails are one of the ways to do that. I explain that so you will understand.
1 inch minimum, 2" is ideal.
Red as red can be.
Fake as can be
Slutty as can be