There's an old saying common among craftsmen (woodworkers, carpenters, painters, etc) -- "Only an amateur blames his mistakes on his tools."
I think the corollary is also true in the bedroom. If you focus on your partner, you will be fine.
Nope, not anymore. I had flings with married gals earlier in my life, but I've changed my tune as I've gotten older (and married.) I may do a little teasing and flirting, but I'd still be upfront about the fact that it's not going anywhere beyond that.
A little macabre, but I'd have to say the femur that the proto-sapiens use as a weapon in Kubrick's 2001; its use as a visual segue to the future is truly iconic.
You're assuming that the man knows that he's got slow and/or few swimmers.
Unless the guy has had reason to be specifically tested for sperm count and motility, he's really gonna be clueless. And if he has been tested, then you'd probably want to discuss why that seemed necessary; he may be carting around a lot of baggage you'll want to deal with before having him father your child.
Now, if he does know then he needs to share that relatively early in the relationship.
I was looking for an image that a glance conveyed personality traits. Hobbes works for me: Irreverent, loyal, sarcastic, playful, etc.
Depends on the setting and the mood.
Unsuspectingly discovering that the wife's gone commando and is already wet? Pretty lucky find.
Slowly teasing her through her panties until she's begging me to take them off of her? Also pretty fun.
Bottom line, it's not an "if/or" question. Both can be rewarding in their own way.
Nope, it doesn't do anything for me or my wife.
We often refer to each other as Mommy and Daddy, but that doesn't extend into play time.
If it works for them, then hurrah for them.
I think a lot depends on what kind of relationship exists between the man & woman involved.
If my wife came to me and said she wanted to explore outside of the marriage (with either a man or woman), I'd be hurt. That would be grounds for some serious discussions about what exactly she found lacking in our relationship, and whether or not there was a way for us to remedy the situation while maintaining our monogamous attachment.
If she professed a desire to be with another woman, then of course that's something that I simply cannot do myself. I'd be more willing to swallow my pride and give her my blessing to explore, but I'd still be a little concerned about development of romantic attachments outside of the marriage.
No matter what she & I agree to, I would expect/demand full honesty on her part. I think dishonesty and deceit would be far more corrosive to our relationship than the extramarital sex.
OK, I know that this is "ask the gals," but here's a thought from a guy...
Pretty harmless fantasy, but probably a very bad thing to live out. Think about your future son first.
While it would probably fulfill the fantasies of your son's friends, it would probably be pretty harmful to your son. He'd have to absorb all the jokes his buddies would make about how his Mom had the hots for all his peers, and we all know how mature and empathetic teen-aged boys are. Embarrassment would be the least of the negative results; he'd almost certainly resent you for your behavior, and ruining the Mom/son relationship would be something you'd both regret for a long, long time.
Only a few things have kept me from going south:
- Partner wasn't into it.
- Partner was having menstrual flow.
- Partner was seriously deficient on personal hygiene.
Other than that, I'm going to be an enthusiastic participant.
Knowing my wife, I'd let her hit the VS alone and I'd go after the power tool. If she scores great lingerie, then I know I'll get a very private showing and demo at home (or maybe even in the car on the way home.)
We both hate malls -- anything that minimizes the time spent in those bastions of excessive consumerism, the better.
Walking in the door, it starts at 15% for lunch; 20% for dinner. Whether that goes up or down depends entirely on how good the service is and how good the food is. Most of the time, the percentage goes up. A pleasant and helpful wait staff can make up for a marginal kitchen. It's probably unfair, but a really good kitchen can't make up for a crappy wait staff.
Hmmm -- kind of like asking someone which of their kids is the favorite...
Today I'd have to say:
1. Dark City. Wasn't very successful at the box office, but it works on several levels. Great cinematography, an interesting (and not too common) plot, a satisfying ending.
2. Alien. Good casting, good effects, great suspense.
3. 2001. Kubrick's best film IMO (but just slightly ahead of Dr. Strangelove.)
After wake-up sex, yeah -- we'll shower afterwards.
After evening sex -- almost never.
As an aside...
I had to chuckle at the video that self-loaded on the "About Glympse" page -- bad acting by the same actress playing several different characters in front of a green screen. Looks like they're launching on a VERY limited budget.
If you're keeping any kind of extra-curricular relationship secret from your partner because you "think its going to upset them", I think that it would meet the definition.
You could also just shake your head and say "Whoa, TMI!"
Hmmm -- funny they failed to mention whether the penis measurements were of flaccid or erect members...