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Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 37
United States
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One of my closest female friends had it done and I've been able to track her progress since the surgery. She's still overweight. I've known others and while an exceptional few probably NEEDED it done(>500lbs), the rest were too lazy to get off their asses and exercise and lacked the motivation to stop eating crap food all day long.
If one doesn't have the will to get fit without it, what makes you think they'll have the will to change their lifestyle after they get the surgery? It shouldn't be treated as a first step solution. There are NUMEROUS success stories of people losing 100+lbs just through exercise and proper nutrition.
More power to the people that go through major surgery to have it done, but it doesn't solve the real problem at hand and that's the individual's lifestyle. You can toss all the hormonal imbalance, thyroid problem, genetic imbalance mumbo jumbo at the problem you want, still doesn't change that those are EXCUSES.
If one doesn't have the will to get fit without it, what makes you think they'll have the will to change their lifestyle after they get the surgery? It shouldn't be treated as a first step solution. There are NUMEROUS success stories of people losing 100+lbs just through exercise and proper nutrition.
More power to the people that go through major surgery to have it done, but it doesn't solve the real problem at hand and that's the individual's lifestyle. You can toss all the hormonal imbalance, thyroid problem, genetic imbalance mumbo jumbo at the problem you want, still doesn't change that those are EXCUSES.
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Today really tried my patience. I took a lot of the advice given here and applied it. I mentioned that maybe she should try dating other gentlemen outside of her "norm" and she basically laughed in my face. She doesn't think she should have to settle for guys such as myself when she can get better looking guys right then and there. I told her that she's always going to be looked at as the easy fat girl who puts out and she damn near lost her cool. Meh, not sure how to go about this thing, but I've done my part.
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Believe me, I've tried it all. I don't know what else to try. These guys talk down to her and call her fat and other nasty names. She just takes it and relishes in the fact that she "can't" things. Then again she never really puts the effort in and absolutely refuses to date guys lower than what she's used to. Believe me, she looks at guys like me as a 3 out of 10 on her hotness scale.
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Now this may be beaten to death or a very sensitive issue for most, so I'll do my best not create trouble.
One of the only females I can actually call a friend, has a bit of an issue with the guys, always has. She's always been a little heavier, but she's an amazing person and beautiful in her own right. Over the years she's been labeled as the "fun to f*ck, more fun to ditch," type of girl by the guys she's attracted to. She loves the "underwear model" type of guy and refuses to look elsewhere even though those guys have numerous more options. She says she's tired of just being the fat girl who's good enough to sleep with, but never good enough to date.
My question is, how do I motivate her to either; workout and change her body, or instill a sense of self worth in her so she doesn't take the bullshit? Like I said, she's an amazing person and is actually quite cute, she just tends to pick shallow losers.
One of the only females I can actually call a friend, has a bit of an issue with the guys, always has. She's always been a little heavier, but she's an amazing person and beautiful in her own right. Over the years she's been labeled as the "fun to f*ck, more fun to ditch," type of girl by the guys she's attracted to. She loves the "underwear model" type of guy and refuses to look elsewhere even though those guys have numerous more options. She says she's tired of just being the fat girl who's good enough to sleep with, but never good enough to date.
My question is, how do I motivate her to either; workout and change her body, or instill a sense of self worth in her so she doesn't take the bullshit? Like I said, she's an amazing person and is actually quite cute, she just tends to pick shallow losers.
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Definitely not. My son and I left his mother when he was just an infant. Our lives now are far better than we could have ever hoped if I had stayed with his mother. Living in a prison isn't healthy for anyone involved, especially with children. It's better to have the children live in a stable and loving environment even if it's only with one parent.