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Does he smoke cigarettes like a chimney, drink like a fish, snort, shoot, toke up like a madman - drop roids @ the gym or beat his meat like it owes him money to porn & /or other fetish sexual activity than what you two engage in?
Need more information. Your bikini photos would help in our assessment, most likely.
Need more information. Your bikini photos would help in our assessment, most likely.
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I posted an image in my image gallery, you can look at it there.
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This is out of my realm of experience...performance anxiety perhaps? Let's ask Colin Farrell, he'll be along shortly.
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Hi everyone, so this has been driving me crazy... my boyfriend and i live together we've been together for 7 months now known each other for 2 years though anyways... it first started about 4 months ago, he was going down on me (which we both love). Usually when he does he gets me to cum and then either ill go down on him or we will start at it. This time he kept going, going of course didn't complain and had a 2nd orgasm. I couldn't take it anymore and said "please baby just fuck me, i want you inside me so badly" so he got on top but he wasn't hard just slightly. So i went down on him and he couldn't get it up.... he got very upset stormed out of the room and for 2 days after was stand offish and i told him not to worry about it that its normal from time to time ( atlthough i had never been with any one with that problem) i tried to reassure him it was no big deal. He said he felt ashamed he couldn't satisfy me.....i have however noticed when we have sex he doesnt ever really get rock hard just 80% hard and he still cums and so do i. Honestly we have a very active and open and fulfilling sex life but is it normal for him to not get 100% hard? I thought maybe he has performance anxiety but its been 7 months together. Hes 31 attractive guy. Im a nurse so i know the signs of low testosterone levels which he may show some early signs of. I of course have played the girl card and thought maybe hes not attracted to me but i am fortunate and am attractivr. Actually to be honest im probably slightly out of his league when 9 it comes to looks. I am 5`9 127 lbs. Tan olive skin B size chest long dirty blonde hair blue eyes nice smile and i go to the gym 4 days a week so you know my ass is in shape lol. Is it possible that he could be showing signs of early erectile dysfunction?
Hes either got erectile dysfuntion or hes cheating on you cause your gorgeous so it cAnt be you
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If he is worried about his penis size this could well be the root of his problem. Does he read porn books and think that every guy other than him is super dick? If this problem won't get better then it's time for him to see a Doctor and maybe the Doctor can give him the reassurance he needs.
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Personal experience with my husband, thinking back a few years and what I know today. Get his Testosterone checked the earlier its found the better it is in the long term. Good luck!
How is his work situation or life in general? Stress can be a killer, and it will definetely prevent him if he's actually aware of it and focuses on it and doing the whole "Have to get hard, have to get hard!" mantra in his head.
But as you mentioned, low testosterone could be an issue as well. Wouldn't be a mistake for him to get checked.
But as you mentioned, low testosterone could be an issue as well. Wouldn't be a mistake for him to get checked.
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If he is worried about his penis size this could well be the root of his problem. Does he read porn books and think that every guy other than him is super dick?
Yeah, I've been having performance anxiety ever since I joined Lush and found out that the average guy is packing a rock hard 14 inches...
Was curious how you came up with that 80% figure btw...and feel free to post more pictures while you're at it...
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Yeah, I've been having performance anxiety ever since I joined Lush and found out that the average guy is packing a rock hard 14 inches...
Was curious how you came up with that 80% figure btw...and feel free to post more pictures while you're at it...
Incidentally, This is one of the Farrelly Brothers, not Colin Farrell whom I referred to earlier. Do not fall for imposters. Colin's brother MagicSimpleJack may cruise through here too with advice. You'd be good to go with his words of wisdom also.
Both are top-notch love-advisors, with some impotency experience as well as remedies. Colin specializes in rubs and ointments, MagicSimpleJack - with incantations, incense and herbal therapies.
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I'm not a dude, but have him checked, as it could just be a symptom in a long line of problems. If all systems are go, then he may need a little help from the little blue pill.
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It could be a sign of restricted blood flow, caused by a blockage in his blood vessels. No blood, no boner. He should get a thorough checkup. It could be a sign of a restricted bloodflow, and as a nurse, you would know how serious that can be.
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So you mention your man only gets 80% hard.....how does one measure that? Do you know what 70%, or 90% feels like for that matter?
Is not getting completely hard something that affects you more than it does him?
You say that you're out of his league when it comes to looks.....what kind of statement is that? Maybe you project that onto him in someway and he feels an enormous pressure to live up to you and your expectations. You come off sounding quite full of yourself actually.
As for addressing the matter at hand, why don't you two go down to the local sex toy store and pick out a few things. One of them being a cock ring. That should help with his hardness and obtain 97-100% hardness.
Is not getting completely hard something that affects you more than it does him?
You say that you're out of his league when it comes to looks.....what kind of statement is that? Maybe you project that onto him in someway and he feels an enormous pressure to live up to you and your expectations. You come off sounding quite full of yourself actually.
As for addressing the matter at hand, why don't you two go down to the local sex toy store and pick out a few things. One of them being a cock ring. That should help with his hardness and obtain 97-100% hardness.
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Glad you found a work around! Sounds like a case of performance anxiety, and being buzzed reduces it.
One other explanation, he's been jerking off too much while reading Lush. I'm serious. If he's of a certain age... say past his mid-20s, this COULD be hurting his performance. Just saying.
One other explanation, he's been jerking off too much while reading Lush. I'm serious. If he's of a certain age... say past his mid-20s, this COULD be hurting his performance. Just saying.
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Hes 31. I thought about that and i know that's for surely possible, you can use up all your sexual energy up on jacking off. But unless hes hiding some hidden persona hes not really the porn time. And we have a pretty busy routine not sure how much time he'd have to jerk off with out me there. I leave at 7 am he leaves at 730. He gets off work at 5, and hits the gym gets home usually around 630 i get off and am home a few minutes after 7. Were pretty much on the same schedule. He only has his i phone for internet at home and his work lap top at work which he can't be browsing at porn cause its regulated. Guess anything possible! Last night he had another full on erection but it took about 5 minutes to get him hard. But once he was it was 100%
Unless he is masturbating 3 or 4 times a day, it really doesnt have a whole lot of effect on performance... diet, lack of sleep, stress, body condition and other things factor into performance issues... I am quite happy for you Lasse that things are moving in a positive direction for you!
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And we have a pretty busy routine not sure how much time he'd have to jerk off with out me there. I leave at 7 am he leaves at 730.
About a half hour then.....
He gets off work at 5, and hits the gym gets home usually around 630 i get off and am home a few minutes after 7.
Hey look at that! There's another half hour!
Were pretty much on the same schedule. He only has his i phone for internet at home and his work lap top at work which he can't be browsing at porn cause its regulated.
Hate to burst your bubble, but most porn sites have a mobile version. It's recognized the minute you log on from your iPhone. In fact, watching porn from a mobile phone is increasing in popularity. Just think of all the locations he can have a "wank"!
Last night he had another full on erection but it took about 5 minutes to get him hard. But once he was it was 100%
Are you sure it wasn't 93.5% hard?
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Lol give me a break here, im a nurse...its in my nature to measure everything out lol.yes i know most everything on the web you can access on your phone and yes i know you can wank pretty much anytime anywhere but i know him, i doubt he's doing that. Honestly i have more of a sexual appetite thrn he does. And hes more vanilla then i am, maybe thats intimidating to him? Thanks ardentmale 
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Glad you found a work around! Sounds like a case of performance anxiety, and being buzzed reduces it.
One other explanation, he's been jerking off too much while reading Lush. I'm serious. If he's of a certain age... say past his mid-20s, this COULD be hurting his performance. Just saying.
seriously a whole hour to get them rock hard he has issues. normal men only take 5 to 10 minutes at most. I still think yo hes wanking off on you for cheating
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An 80-percent hard on would be cause for celebration!
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No no it took 5 minutes to get him rock hard but i wanted to see how long he could hold the erection that hard so i would get him to the verge and then let up. I continued on with this for an hour until i felt bad that i teased him that long so i gave in and got him to cum. But he kept the erection the entire time so that to me says its not a physical problem......it does take him a little longer when hes not tipsy to get it up though compared to my previous lovers but i guess every mans different. Ever since i took the pressure off everything, i just got him a bit tipsy and told him dont worry about me just enjoy its all about you tonight. Things have gotten better, hes been sexting me all day so ill cue everyone in on how tonight goes.
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No no it took 5 minutes to get him rock hard but i wanted to see how long he could hold the erection that hard so i would get him to the verge and then let up. I continued on with this for an hour until i felt bad that i teased him that long so i gave in and got him to cum. But he kept the erection the entire time so that to me says its not a physical problem......it does take him a little longer when hes not tipsy to get it up though compared to my previous lovers but i guess every mans different. Ever since i took the pressure off everything, i just got him a bit tipsy and told him dont worry about me just enjoy its all about you tonight. Things have gotten better, hes been sexting me all day so ill cue everyone in on how tonight goes.
Sounds like things are looking up!! haha... Do keep us informed, we want details!!! hahaha... hmmmm I see a lush story in her future....lol
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good work... was gonna suggest you try wakin him up with a blo to see if it was a mental thing. Still sounds like there may be many possibilities...stress that he can't get out of his head is usually a boner killer, whether it be from work or performance anxiety. From your solution it seems to be stress of some sort, yet constricted blood flow would be aided by alcohol as well.
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Sounds like things are looking up!! haha... Do keep us informed, we want details!!! hahaha... hmmmm I see a lush story in her future....lol
hmmmmmm on it 
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I've had a semi before, no biggie. Could be from a number of things. Mine usually happen after hard work outs. I just can't hit that full 100% sometimes. Probably because the blood is rushing elsewhere, but I can feel his agony.
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