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Not the first time you've gone on with this vent. Sorry you're wife cheated on you. It happens. My bf beat on me - he was white. I don't assume that every white guy beats on his girlfriend, though. Get over it - it's an obsession and if you're serious about staying with your wife, you need to get over it. If you can't do that, probably best to move on. It's not healthy.

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Dude. What is wrong with you?

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I've long had a thing about baby making sex and being pregnant. I love all of the aspects of sex and pregnancy and am just wondering if anyone else feels the same?

Also...mother of four and soon to be five.

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One, "Apologize if someone here got [sic] offended or took it as improper..." isn't an apology. You don't "apologise" by backhandedly blaming the individual for your blatant racism.

Two, "i [sic] did not think there was fair [sic] difference..." Really? You damn well know there's a difference. Now take your convoluted cuckolding fantasy and go write some more crap stories.

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African "boy" what now? You do not refer to a black man as a "boy". You have some seriously fucked up views of the world, this is a fantasy--you've written crap stories nearly identical to the "situation" you're supposedly in--and you need to lay off the Google Translate.

Also, Mattew, fair warning, you're walking a very fine line by repeatedly using the term "African" in a derogatory sense. Knock it the fuck off.

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So you’re not a cornudo? This is against your will? Like you don’t want to clean his dick off after he fucks your wife or anything like that? This is her cheating on you with the intent to get pregnant and she says you can stay or go but you have to put up with her getting straight hammered on by this buck?

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Did they know or did you have to ninja wank it?

Like was this in your own bed?

Was your wedding picture on the wall and did they laugh it? Were they like look at my husband Mattew, can’t even spell his own name much less fuck me like a real African stud with his shriveled little pepperoncini while he slam dunked her from behind laughing with a deep French African accent.

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Are you going to watch the black African bull impregnate your white wife? Is that part of it or is this like her own thing and you’re not allowed to watch or clean off his dick or hold his balls or anything?

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It’s your wife and your call. The problem of asking others for advice is that you get opinions from those who often don’t share yours.

You’ve been cuckolded. That’s not an insult or opinion, that’s just what it is. Some guys actually get off on the idea. I just don’t happen to be one. To me it’s cheatong and a betrayal in the most heinous way. Under those circumstances, and with it likely she will continue to fuck him, I could not stay without losing my self respect, and no way in hell am I going to raise his brat on my dime while he continues to fuck my wife. If you can live with that, I don’t judge you. I just know there is no way I could.

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If she did this while married to me and without my consent, I’d walk away with dignity and self respect

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get with it and ask if u can watch

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Okay, thanks for the translation.

First, race would have no bearing on the situation for me, but (hypothetically as it would never happen) I doubt I could stay if any woman I was with had another lover and I’d be gone long before she gave birth to his baby.

Now, if she was pregnant before we got together, I’d love the kid like it was my own.

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What country in Africa is he from?

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Okay, thanks for the translation.

First, race would have no bearing on the situation for me, but (hypothetically as it would never happen) I doubt I could stay if any woman I was with had another lover and I’d be gone long before she gave birth to his baby.

Now, if she was pregnant before we got together, I’d love the kid like it was my own.

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If she is doing this against her husband's wishes and is going to do it any way, it is time for D I V O R C E. The big D and I don't mean Dallas. As fast as possible.

If there is no mutual consent, it is cheating. Cheating by its self can be a survivable event in a marriage. Adding a child to this equation makes it nearly impossible for a marriage to survive.

Brandie

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So, in response to the last couple of answers... It's not that I don't get that couples should approach problems as team, but at the same time, nobody can tell someone else what to do with their body. When a man tells a woman what she can do with her reproductive system it's a whole new level, also.

The fact that you've been focused on the color of his skin and/or ethnicity kind of makes me feel there is another layer of prejudice underlying this question, but that is merely suspicion. If you'd care to confirm or deny that, I'm kind of interested.

Anyway, the problem here is not whether or not she can/should have a child with her other partner. It's whether or not you want to be with her. It's probably worth asking if you're poly, have an open relationship, etc. Would he be the child's father, or just a biological donor, as it were? There's a lot more questions I could ask, but mostly, this is just about whether or not you want to be with her still. Nothing else.

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Seems there are at least two questions not one.

Do you find it morally acceptable for your wife to be the incubator of another mans child? That is assuming he plans to raise the child and not you and your wife. Do you have other children that you will need to explain the events to? Could you love and raise this child if that is the plan.

Secondly, is race a factor in how you look at this new being. A number of people have expressed the concern about a mixed race individual. Those that see great barriers, must live in a different place than I do. Mixed race kids are certainly not the majority here but they are not that great of a exception either.

I have an IUD and it is considered an effective Birth Control Method. However, we all know there is no method is 100% effective. While most men I have sex with are of European Heritage, there also have been men of every race known. Could I love and raise a Mixed Race Child.

Of course I could.

Abortion is out of the question for me. There is no basis I could Murder a Baby just because of convenience or the difficulty of the life they may have.

I know many of you will not be agreement with me. Plus yes I know the risks and made the decision long ago that this is one of the risks I must and will take.

You and you wife have some serious decisions to discuss.

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Can you share with us the reason you and your wife are no longer sexually active together?

As some have already mentioned, the first thing I thought about was the issues the child will be forced to deal with as a mixed race child. I have a very dear, vanilla, friend who has dated a black guy for over 20 years. One of her daughters married a black guy, and they have 4 beautiful children, two sons and two daughters. I know about some of the problems the children have dealt with, especially since they started school. They are teased often and neither the white or black kids accept them.

Hubbie and I believe, regardless of what our beliefs are, people have a right to make their own life choices. And in doing so, unless those choices are illegal, like robbing a bank, others should accept their decisions and not stick their noses in their business. But we all know that is not the way it works!!!!! And probably won't happen until the lamb can lay down next to a lioness with out fear of becoming her dinner.

Brandie

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Is the child going to be with the lover or with you?
Is the child going to have to live through the stigma of such a relationship. You maybe progressive and accepting, the rest of the world... including your?!! Child may not.
Are the 3 of you living together already to provide for a cohesive family structure already.
Do you already have children.

And realistically... probably not.

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Is the child going to be with the lover or with you?
Is the child going to have to live through the stigma of such a relationship. You maybe progressive and accepting, the rest of the world... including your?!! Child may not.
Are the 3 of you living together already to provide for a cohesive family structure already.
Do you already have children.

And realistically... probably not.

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That's pretty much up to you and your wife. The best relationships are those forged free of jealousy and possessiveness, as well as being immune from the judgement of others. David and I have discussed this since there's a small possibility my birth control could fail at some point, and I became pregnant by one of my FWBs (a few have been black). It's the last thing I want to happen, of course, but it's a risk I take on a regular basis. We've made everything else work in this lifestyle, so we could deal with the scenario you propose and stay together. But then, we are both very liberal and open-minded.