Red_Dragon
being forced into something is not willingly learning something a dominant personality is born in that person not taught to them
Your premise is correct. But a dominate personality can go many ways. For example. I have personal experience with a slave that was with a "Dom" that had a naturally dominate personality but had not taken the time to talk to others and ended up physically harming that slave. So while you don't teach the personality, you do teach the responsibility that comes with it.
Ravyn
A submissive can be "taught" to some degree but being a true submissive comes from deep within soul its who and what they are meant to be with the right Master or Mistress.
You are dead on here. The true submissive personality comes from within. But once again, there is a responsibility that comes with being a sub or slave that is very important and that is knowing that you need to have people to talk to other than your Master. Now these are normally other slaves or submissives but the reason for this is simply protection against a Master that is not being responsible. Remember no matter how deep the submission it is consensual submission, and it has to remain that way.
Jerseylynn
Anybody can be taught to do something, but if it's not in them then they will never have the passion, happiness, joy or true understanding.
Another perfectly solid statement, but once again the word never presents a problem. A great baseball player is born with natural talent. But if he is never coached, taught or allowed to utilize that talent then he will never be the player he could be. The same is true with a Master/Mistress/Dom/Submissive or Slave. You can be an incredible naturally gifted person, but without the guidance and support of places like this and people in the lifestyle, you may never reach the joy,passion, happiness and understanding you otherwise could.
Beinggood
You can be taught the knowledge and you may know what a dominate is, but you must feel it within yourself..Most know they are this for years before they even enact on it...It is something that is iust born within you
Once again I agree that there is a born in nature to a dominate personality. I knew that I had the personality of a Master from a relatively young age, but it took till I was 20 to realize just what that meant. And I had many Masters that had been in the lifestyle before me to help guide me in becoming the Master I am today. It is more than a word. It is a title of respect and like any other title there is training behind it. I see a lot of people that call themselves Masters or Mistresses that are not. It is not that they can't be, it is that they do not have the knowledge needed to act on the responsibility of the role safely yet.
Overmykneenow
The argument of nature vs nuture in a person's sexuality has raged for as long as people have been having sex. Asking if you can train someone to be dominant in the bedroom is in many ways similar to asking if you can teach a gay man to be straight.
I think that your example is one that is a little misleading. Being dominant in the bedroom is something that can be done by people in multiple roles. Hence the idea of a switch. But that person has learned and picked things up along the way that has shown them that they are a switch. That is the educational part of it.
In the end it comes down to this. You have a natural inclination. It is the feeling that first makes you go mmmmmmm.... but that doesn't mean that is the only feeling that will do that. Ask questions, find friends and most importantly get to a point where you are happy. And forget what others think of that. If it is what makes you happy, then that is the place you want to be.
