My first few inches under the pubic bone that leads to the G spot is very sensitive anf rubbing that with a penis head or fingers is just yummy. Yes, you can feel if it hits the cervix...for me, not the best. Its pleasurable, but always a bit painful. As for slow... it can be sweet or a good tease. Hard and deep means his pelvis will slam into mine and that feeling is exquisite. The blurring of so many sensations, is what sends me over the edge.
YES!!! Just the thought makes me melt...
I must agree with Beffer. If the guy going down on you just wants you to cum so they can move on, it dims the experience. It means that the orgasm you obtain, often isn't as good. Or you just give up, push them away and move onto fucking. Which guys seem to think means that you were so hot, you wanted their cock instead. But what it really means is that you feel pressured so you just give up.
The worst thing is that the guy might not even be pressuring you. Past experience or pressure on ourselves sometimes leads women to feel this way. I read somewhere years ago that some women need stimulation for around 10 minutes before they orgasm. That's a long time for a woman to lay back and have stray thoughts about whether the guy is bored, tired, comfortable, turned on, etc.
The only way for a guy to overcome that is for him to convince the woman that he really wants his head between her legs and that he loves it.
Specific ideas to convince a lady you love it:
1. Sounds simple, but tell her you love eating her out
2. A little edging, lets her know that you aren't in a hurry... And is delightful
3. Don't rush to move from between her legs after she cums. If her clit is too sensitive, focus on other areas. And when I say don't rush, I don't mean wait just a minute.
Some other ideas:
1. Yes, to the kissing that Bria_xo mentioned
2. Kisses, and licks and nibbles to other parts of the body. Not talking about boobs. Neck, side, thigh... The goal is to make her wet, before you touch her pussy.
3. Take your time and as was stated before, pay attention to more than just the clit.
4. Fingers are wonderful
5. Building layers of sensation, adds to the orgasm.