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Quote by Wardog
Hey man, QUIT planning life! Just RELAX and let it happen! LOL


I actually totally disagree, this is an excuse not to chase the things you want, and it's usually it's used as an excuse not to improve yourself. The things we want don't fall into our laps, and very few people who 'relax and let it happen ' get the most out of life to achieve their dreams. What we want in life doesn't just come to most people, but most people don't realise that until it's too late, which is why all elderly people reminisce about what the wish that had done when "They were your age". Your future is created by what you do today, not tomorrow. So you find yourself in the latter part of life, working dead end job you can't stand, struggling to own your own home, not making the money you would like, have children you can't provide with things they want, and can never afford to go on holiday, or treat yourself to nice things, and maybe your even still single, pahaps theres a chance it's because you 'relaxed and let it happen'.

Ironically, this is not because the universe is crewl, this is because the universe is clever. It knows we don't appreciate things that just drop in front us, and one key principle of human nature is, the harder we work to get something, the higher value it has to us.

We are not entitled to all the things we want, we are not entitled to man/woman we've always dreamed of, we are not entitled to a paying great job or that promotion you've always wanted, you are not entitled to the four bedroomed house, and the holiday home in Spain. All these things you have to work hard for, nobody will give you them, and only the people who have plans, motivation, drive and ambition, will ever get them.

Luckily, non of this is unobtainable either. Usually the things we want in life, drop somewhere near us, but we have to recognise them when they come, and work hard to get them. This doesn't mean my mind isn't free and clear, it is. I don't run around my every day life like a blue-assed fly, but I do want to have the focus and drive to go and get what I want out of life, because nobody is going to give it to me on a plate.

So my plans are to go to Uni to Study a degree, and I also want to travel the world, and spend extended periods of time in countries I always wanted to visit, ultimately, I'd like to go back to Australia, and live there, because the UK doesn't have much to fulfill me. I also want to learn guitar, get fluent in German, take up Go Karting, learn to dance, meet the girl of dreams, have a family, have a nice house etc etc etc...

None of this stuff will just come to me, I have to apply myself and take the time, and put in the effort to achieve it. Some of it, I'm sure I won't. But just because things don't always go to plan, doesn't mean that plan wasn't worth having. There is plenty time for relaxing, once you've obtained some of the things you want from life.
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I think if i even tried it for a second, I'd redecorate the bedroom in puke
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One night stands never do the job, they usually involve copious amounts of alcohol and only suffice if you haven't had it in a while. There again, I have quite alot to concentrate on at the moment, and alot of personal planning to do, so I'm not sure a full on relationship is the answer right now either. A friend with benefits would be ideal scenario for me right now, though them in themselves are doomed to limted lifespans...
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Quote by thesexynun
I do not like my father

he abused me and my mother

to say that to me is just wrong

we may date PEOPLE like them

but attracted....no

but alas am sorry I am biased..on this


I had expected this kind of post from somebody, I should have been prepared for it. I apologise if the generalisation stung you, it wasn't the intent, I should have been specific to individual circumstance. The question becomes moot if your experiences and circumstances don't fit the bill. What I should have said is "Do you admire men like your father if your father is an admirable man?." Something along those lines. I understand not everybody has that experience to draw from.
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A big fat no. Most people who claim to be genuine psychics are simply experts in a technique called "cold reading", which is a fancinating skill, that uses subtle body language and kenetic function/reactions to read people, without having an prior information about them. Cold Reading is not being a phychic, it simply gives the impression of being a psychic, it's actually a skill that everybody can learn if they invest time in it.

I am a huge fan of Derren Brown though, although he does these sorts of things, he isn't a psychic and doesn't claim to be. He is an illusionist, mentalist and hypnotist, which are quite different things. Same story goes for Astrology, absolute nonsense.
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Quote by LittleLuce
Yes, I've seen the 'Daddy' roleplay scenarios and girls advertising their need for them. Probably a sexual fantasy to fulfill on websites but I doubt most want it for real. Not for me I'm afraid.


Another topic with some good opinions. I've never really took the Daddy role seriously, outside of porn, I always thought it was something that younger women did if they were attracted by money and expensive gifts, rather than actually by the man himself. I just assumed they were gold diggers to all intents and purposes. I suppose for some women there could be some truth in finding an authority figure for them to bind themselves to, but I'd still assume they were sorts of girls who has short on brain cells and have little self ambition, and put their own 'beauty' above everything else, including their brains. Which means 75% of woman are probably crossed out because in 21st century many women have their own ambition with drive and strength of charicter, so i'd still see that "father figure", as unnecessary to them. It was an intresting concept that my stepbrother brought up here, because it still seems to work for him. Although the fact that he ridiculously confident for a 40 year old, probably doesn't hurt.
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Quote by mover
I have been trying the e-cigs. I believe if I wasn't so stubborn I would be off regular figs for good. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.


I'm on e-cigs too, I personally think that not only are they are a great remedy and a healthy option, but is something to be enjoyed in itself, particularly the flavoured liquids.
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The Formula One Grand Prix in Melbourne. (March)

Getting on the aeroplane to leave Australia. (September)
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We could be talking about Harry Potter wands for all the difference it makes.

13.5 inches, wood from Oak, Pleasantly rigid and has Phoenix feather core.

Yep, thats me! Magic :-)
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Although I'm no master pick up artist just yet, I think that at least in theory, I know certain things that attracts women, and certain qualities you need to possess or adopt, and also how to implement seduction towards a woman you're attracted to.

That aside, me and my stepbrother were talking (he fancies himself as a ladies man as it is...) about qualities in that attract women. As he is 40 now, but he believes he has a certain quality that helps him attract women, sometimes even much younger than himself. He mentioned a concept that had actually never occured to me at all in my life. What I want to know, is whether this concept sounds accurate or way off the mark, and here it is.

Women are attracted to men who remind them of their own fathers (either sub-consciously or otherwise), or possess the same qualities that their own fathers possess?

What do you ladies think of this statement? Given that my own dad isn't really one for chasing skirt, and admitted that he's only actually been with 3 women, pahaps thats why I never thought of this before?

Then again, maybe this statement is false?
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Quote by Klox
I am 20 and prefer younger girls. My main turn on is a great body. And by great I mean really tight. The older women get the loser they get all over. Their boobs hang lower, their pussy gets loser, their ass gets saggy.... I mean who would take a 40yr old women with saggy boobs and a flat ass over an 18 year old HS girl with perky boobs, a tight body and a firm round ass? Idk I find fucking an innocent virgin in her room so sexy. Just a couple weeks ago I hooked up with this HS girl and she loved every second of it, but of course it was like she was attached to my hip after it. I find older women hitting on me all the time, so I don't know what you are talking about?


Lol, we are at opposite ends of the table my friend, and to be honest you're answer sounds somewhat vain and shallow. Since when have women in their forties been automatically saggy? There are plenty of women in their 40's who have great bodies, better even than girls I've seen in their twenties. It's called working out and keeping fit. Kylie is as hot as she ever was, Kate Beckinsale, Eva Longoria, Sandra Bulllock, Jennifer Aniston, Halle Berry, Jennifer Lopez, Heather Graham, Denise Richards, Cameron Diaz, Gwyneth Paltrow, Wynona Rider.... The list is endless. ALL over 40, ALL still stunning. Who says they have to be 40 anyway? I'm 25, to me 30 is an older woman....

Then you have the experience factor, and my experience is that girls, particularly under 20, and sometimes even older, are useless at oral sex or handjobs, whereas older women have had years of honing their technique, and therefore make it much more mind blowing. What do you want, some newb college undergrad girl who laps at it like a cat licking milk from a saucer, and who lies there like a sack of potatoes, or an experienced woman who devours it and makes you beg her for more, and rides you like a Rodeo Bull? When it comes to sex, experience is right up there with key attributes like stamina. In my experience, the younger, the tamer, the older, the feistier.
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Quote by SydneySider
Most women can appreciate the beauty of the female form


I think that most women just appreciate form, whether male or female... I don't see why they should appreciate a female form anymore than a male one, in fact quite the opposite if they're straight. So why not post a picture of a dude with his dick out? Because as a man that would be wierd right?

Anyways I never post pictures on other peoples wall anyway. I don't see the point.
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3 and a half months. I've just come back to UK from Australia, and gone from wet season to dry season. Australia it was easy because I was meeting so many people and had so many parties and friends, I never went long without. But now I'm back in my native country, but moved to a new area where I don't know many people, and I've only just started working, so I haven't been going out meeting new people very much. In order to get laid, you need to be getting yourself out there, but I can't at the minute, I have other things to focus on. I'm sure wet season will start again at some point though smile
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I would probably go completely nuts actually, cheating is cheating. The girl for me is not one I want to share. I don't 'join in', I AM the party. After I've calmed down, I may ask the other girl if she wanted to join US sometime.
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Some great feedback here, particulary Dancing Doll, your post enthralled me...and you've got it all exactly right smile

The snowball effect of porn is so relevant. People on Cannibis who stay there usually aren't a problem, but by the time some of the progress to herion, it's usually too late. And somethings that porn stars are doing these days, are frankly messed up. It's hard to believe they go through it for just a pay cheque, it's also hard to believe that their mental health doesn't suffer because of it. Unfortanately it will also have detrimental effect on phyche of those people watching it. All we see is voilence, humiliation and exploitation, where is the sensuality and love? It's non-exsistant in the porn industry, because there isn't any of those qualities. Also, because people are watching it, it creates demand for it, which gives rise to the darker side of the matter. The sex trafficing, the drugs and the STI's.

I'm all for sexual freedom, I want sexual freedom to be part of my life, but not at the cost of my mental health, how I view women, or how I believe sex should be. If not an act of love, then sex should at least be an act of mutual liking, with some fun thrown in too. It should not be an act of voilence, exploitation, or humiliation. There is a line between erotic rough sex, which is fantastic, and abuse, which is detrimental. I worry that my mind has already been tarnished by the porn I've been watching over the years, which is why I wanna avoid it for a prolonged period of time.
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Quote by Wango
I like them because I like the idea of getting with an older, mature, more experienced woman.


Simlar reason to why many young women go for older men I suppose. I find older women attractive too, I can't put my finger on why exactly. But there is something exciting about being with a woman who knows exactly what shes doing, and knowing exactly what she expects from you. Experienced woman are usually under no illusions. From the pov of young men just having fun sexually exploring, this is great because you don't need to worry so much about what the person is looking for in the long term. I've found that woman the same age as me, usually get clingy, wheras the older women are just looking to recapture some youth and fool around. A big age gap usually gives for lots of fun, but with limited lifespan (not always of course), but it's usually a great worthwhile experience.
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Quote by thesexynun
I heard they may do something else..did anyone else see that on the net?


Yes, I saw this on the news too. They're working something new not sure when it's released though...
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I've been watching porn regularly since I borrowed my first Porno off a friend almost 12 years ago. I've always thought I enjoyed it, and masturbating was as much a part of my daily life as going to the shops to buy Milk. As time has gone on, I've ended up chasing bigger and bigger porn thrills, because I've been into it so long that the conventional methods are boring for me now, so unless the female involved is a squirter, anal fiend, or doing DP, I probably won't even bother watching it.

Recently I've been looking into the effects that Porn has on the average human mind, because I've really been wanting to change my lifestyle and cut my ties to it. I'm ready to bet that most of the men, and at least some of the women, on here, are also regular porn users. After looking into a few articles I found myself agreeing with alot of accusations that porn is very unhealthy on the phyche, warps a persons sexual mind, can even have a detrimental effect on motivation in other aspects of life, such as work and hobbies. It's also led me to think that some parts of the performance (such as DP or fisting) starts to be viewed as something natural and normal after viewing it for a prolonged period of time. It's even fair to say that it influences one to look at person in a much more sexual way than prior to porn watching, even when you were attracted to them, you still viewed them as people. But afterwards it's almost like they aren't viewed as people, just a pussy on legs.

Even the porn performers have reported a issues with mental well being, and psychological distress after being in porn films. It's fair to remember that, no matter what these girls do on the screen, they are still human beings, and also sons and daughters. In fact...they are boarderline prostitutes...

There is also other feelings surrounding masturbating to porn, such as guilt or loss of self worth (baring in mind im not religious, the guilt is more because giving into desire, instead of getting out there and making things happen in life), and desiring the performers thinking "Why can't I get a girl like that?", when the answer is simply, "because you're in your bedroom masturbating to porn".

Now I'm not knocking masturbation here, which I think is a perfectly healthy act, as can be part of a health lifestyle. What I am saying is, is it more healthy to have one without the other? Leaving the porn to one side and using imagination and memories, is that more healthy for ones sexual outlook?

I'd like to get some opinions here. So...

Are there people here who watch porn who believe it may be causing a problem?
Is anybody losing interest in sex in real life, but still watching porn regularly.
Do you believe porn has a detrimental effect on a persons psyche?
Do you feel unsatisfied after watching porn, like the time spent wasn't really worth it?
Is there anybody who has stopped watching porn, or even abstained from masturbating regularly, and noticed a positive output in their life, such as engaging in hobbies more, or better performance at work?
Do you believe that some of the acts you see on screen are a natural part of life, or that the pornstars are truely happy with their lives?
Can you enjoy masturbating without the aid of porn?

I'm just interested in getting some opinions here.
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According to a book and some research I did, having money does very little to attract a woman. Women overall are attracted to success, ambition, motivation and confidence. So it's not how many figures you have in your bank account, it how you got them, or, how you're going to if you don't have them. It's social status rather than money.
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Ha, I think most men are unsatisfied with themselves in some way, maybe not just penis size, or how it looks, but other things too, not having the perfect six pack, or rock hard abs, or bad breath, or bad complection.....But what does it matter? We are all diifferent and all facinating individuals. Thats the beauty of sex, the fact that everybody is different.

Men have an irrational fear of being judged (in fact, maybe both sexes do), but weirdly not by women (whos opinions should matter more) but by other men. Because there seems to be this stupid idea that if you admit something that you're unsatified with, others judge them as less of an "Alpha Male". Its completely idiotic, just because your not "The biggest guy in town", does not mean your not good as sex, its pefectly possible for guy to have a small penis and be an absolute rocket in bed. Real man should be way honest to themselves, have confidence and be in touch with themselves and emotions, no matter what their "measurements" are, instead of just fearing what people think. They can still be men, it doesn't mean they have to pour out their heart and soul, or cry at The Notebook, or buy flowers everyday, but the traditional overview of the Alpha Male is often misconstrued.

It's like some people think, if you don't rip the piss out of other people for their shortcomings, or if you don't get in a fight every weekend at the local pub, then you're not a real man. It's halarious how many guys have exchanged their personalities for a 'hard' reputation and a set of bicepts, and treat girls like shit. You can still be dominant, confident and Alpha mate, without all that. We are in the 21st Century now, this primordial thinking needs be changed.

Its funny looking through the topic at all the guys who are 8, 9, 10 Inches long and coke can wide. It makes me laugh. Either we have alot of guys not being honest with themselves here, or Lush Stories has inexplicably become the "Worlds largest penis society".

If I wanted a footlong penis I would have been reincarnated as a horse.

I've seen those huge black guys in porn with a 12 inch dick and an absolutely pathetic performance, most can't even get even get decent erection, it flops around like a wet sock on a clothes line.

I stared puberty quite old, maybe 13 or 14, so some of the other lads in the changing room had started developing sooner than me, pahaps then, it was a bit intimiding, but not now. If you start late, your bound to catch up later too.

It all comes down to preference, like some guys need a girl with big tits, other guys don't care. I think its just the same with women and dicks. I'm happy with my average sized penis and my bunny rabbit stamina, and I have great sex. Plus, it never hurts to have extra knowladge about other ways to make a girl climax, they are many ways, half of which dont even involve a penis. Some guys are just all "dick dick dick..."

Get over it and love yourself the way you are
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He never used to be, but recently I've come Idolise Steven Tyler. Even though they're an old band, Aerosmith has rapidly climbed to my number one band over the last couple of years. There's so many Aerosmith songs that I've fallen in love with. Stevens voicing is fucking AMAZING, he looks as cool as Christmas, and watching his interviews he seems so laid back, chilled, surpisingly eloquent, but also quite badass and out there. Just a total Legend.

Other competitors would be Slash, for simlar reasons
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Quote by Fishbinder
Marilyn Monroe! What body is better than that!!!


Phoenix Marie blows her out of water...
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I think thats for you to decide, so no....

And just because the stereotypes say that women prefer older men, why should it not also work in reverse? Im 24 (and actually most of this happened when i was younger), and i've had sex with several women in their mid 30's (got an older woman thing see ;)). Ok, i've never actually had a serious relationship with one, however, its been some of the best sex of my life, even better than, i have to say, than with girls my own age. And I always think, if the sex is great, then the other stuff is natural progression and should follow, if you want it too. Emotions aren't reliant on age imo...
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Quote by blazestcyr
oh and the damn video games...really after 18...get a life!...super HUGE big ass turn...off

wow only three.....lmao

great great thread!!!


This is the wierdest thing for me, i really dont understand it. We're not suppost to like video games, Its the largest entertainment industry in the world, and we're suppost to not to enjoy them. Its pumped full of money and improved as fast as any other consumer technology, not only that, but games can be complex, in depth, and difficult to master, too difficult for children, which ironically, means video games are suited better to adults that they are to youngsters! And given that tons of games have adult themes, and are rated 18+, its so weird that people think its ok to think about adults and video games in this way.

(PS: Guys find chick that are into video games, one of the biggest turns on's there can be).
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I think this is a poor question, honestly, im not going to answer it, its a ridiculous question.

What I will say however, that out of men and women, women are far more sexual creatures. That does not mean they are better at sex than men. (How can one be better than the other, sex is a dual experience.) It means they are more emotional, sensual, physically desirable, at least to appear to, enjoy the act of sex, more than a man does. (Not that men don't love it). A womans orgasm is a thing of beauty, and their sexual lure is what makes them the goddesses they are. Men can indeed share some of those traits, but woman a far more ready to confess somebody from the same sex attractive, even if they are totally straight, and that why sexuality is something that i feel empowers woman to a greater extent than men.