Although I'm no master pick up artist just yet, I think that at least in theory, I know certain things that attracts women, and certain qualities you need to possess or adopt, and also how to implement seduction towards a woman you're attracted to.
That aside, me and my stepbrother were talking (he fancies himself as a ladies man as it is...) about qualities in that attract women. As he is 40 now, but he believes he has a certain quality that helps him attract women, sometimes even much younger than himself. He mentioned a concept that had actually never occured to me at all in my life. What I want to know, is whether this concept sounds accurate or way off the mark, and here it is.
Women are attracted to men who remind them of their own fathers (either sub-consciously or otherwise), or possess the same qualities that their own fathers possess?
What do you ladies think of this statement? Given that my own dad isn't really one for chasing skirt, and admitted that he's only actually been with 3 women, pahaps thats why I never thought of this before?
I most certainly do not find my father attractive, not at all. However, he is a good and decent man and has many characteristics I admire. So while I might not actually think "wow he's like my dad," I might think "wow he's smart, kind, and works hard" all attractive qualities to me.
Yes, I've seen the 'Daddy' roleplay scenarios and girls advertising their need for them. Probably a sexual fantasy to fulfill on websites but I doubt most want it for real. Not for me I'm afraid.
Quote by LittleLuce Yes, I've seen the 'Daddy' roleplay scenarios and girls advertising their need for them. Probably a sexual fantasy to fulfill on websites but I doubt most want it for real. Not for me I'm afraid.
Another topic with some good opinions. I've never really took the Daddy role seriously, outside of porn, I always thought it was something that younger women did if they were attracted by money and expensive gifts, rather than actually by the man himself. I just assumed they were gold diggers to all intents and purposes. I suppose for some women there could be some truth in finding an authority figure for them to bind themselves to, but I'd still assume they were sorts of girls who has short on brain cells and have little self ambition, and put their own 'beauty' above everything else, including their brains. Which means 75% of woman are probably crossed out because in 21st century many women have their own ambition with drive and strength of charicter, so i'd still see that "father figure", as unnecessary to them. It was an intresting concept that my stepbrother brought up here, because it still seems to work for him. Although the fact that he ridiculously confident for a 40 year old, probably doesn't hurt.
For the most part if women have good and healthy relationships with their fathers, then yes, whether they're aware of it not, on a subconscious level they do look for men who have the same, admirable traits in their fathers.
I don't think in a literal sense we want men just like our fathers. But if our fathers are men we admire and look up to, and if they're good men, we use that same blueprint when it comes to the men in our lives. After all, our fathers are our first protectors (or at least they should be) and this is what we generally look for in a secure relationship. Things we enjoy with our fathers or our parents in general become a huge part of what we enjoy and it shapes our hobbies. Therefore, finding this common ground in the men in our lives will make them that much more attractive.
For example, my father is a smart, protective, hard-working, good-natured and good-humored man. He can cook, and he's very outdoorsy (camping, hiking, rock climbing, that sort of thing). I'm attracted to smart, protective, hard-working, good-natured and good-humored men. And it's a bonus if he can cook and is outdoorsy.
But on the other side of the same coin, some women who didn't have good relationships with their fathers may in fact date men like their fathers to get that acceptance that they never got from their fathers. It's interesting, to say the least.
Either way, it's mostly subconscious...and most women don't even realize they're doing it.
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I do not like my father
he abused me and my mother
to say that to me is just wrong
we may date PEOPLE like them
but attracted....no
but alas am sorry I am biased..on this
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sorry brought back bad memories.it is a very thought provoking post
I had expected this kind of post from somebody, I should have been prepared for it. I apologise if the generalisation stung you, it wasn't the intent, I should have been specific to individual circumstance. The question becomes moot if your experiences and circumstances don't fit the bill. What I should have said is "Do you admire men like your father if your father is an admirable man?." Something along those lines. I understand not everybody has that experience to draw from.
I think a lot of women end up with men like their dads and son's end up with women like their mother's. Not all, but enough that my friends and I have noticed. I do NOT think it was deliberate. I adored my father and felt he was a protector; ended up marrying a man that is very much that way. But, one thing about my father was he let our mother dominate him; my sister married a handsome and wonderful man that she dominates. So I do think there is some validity to the theory. But how your stepbrother could think that he could attract girls by acting like their father's? How does he know their father's?
I had expected this kind of post from somebody, I should have been prepared for it. I apologise if the generalisation stung you, it wasn't the intent, I should have been specific to individual circumstance. The question becomes moot if your experiences and circumstances don't fit the bill. What I should have said is "Do you admire men like your father if your father is an admirable man?." Something along those lines. I understand not everybody has that experience to draw from.
I don't think it's too late to add that to the opening post. My original post in this thread was very short due to the same reasons thesexynun just mentioned, but I didn't want to raise the subject of abuse.
Men of a certain age will have some kind of appeal to younger women but it's not usually because she wants a replacement dad.
Girls grow up attracted to boys older than themselves, it comes with reaching maturity earlier. Things we associate with this stage of our sexual development often carry through to later life, in one form or another - instead it goes from 21 year olds with their own cars to 40 year olds with their own house. Women who are attracted to older men will usually tell you that older men are more confident and are more comfortable with themselves. That's not necessarily true but older men do tend to have higher status and are usually better off - attractive qualities to a lot of women
Your friend should be careful though - a girl half his age may treat him a little too much like her actual dad: expect him to pay for anything she wants, not be entirely honest as to who she hangs out with or maybe just patronise him.
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Honestly I think it's different based on the person. I'm a girl with daddy issues. My real dad wasn't around and tries to be now and I'm not ok with that. I'm my step father verbal and emotional scapegoat . I know when he's stressed out because everything I do requires a lecture and a crying session.
However not to say that it's not all false I do admire a man who is active with siblings and work and who is a good man. My stepfather may not be the best for me but he makes my mom happy and if so than I'd be lucky to be with someone who makes me as happy as he makes my mom
Honestly I think it's different based on the person. I'm a girl with daddy issues. My real dad wasn't around and tries to be now and I'm not ok with that. I'm my step father verbal and emotional scapegoat . I know when he's stressed out because everything I do requires a lecture and a crying session.
However not to say that it's not all false I do admire a man who is active with siblings and work and who is a good man. My stepfather may not be the best for me but he makes my mom happy and if so than I'd be lucky to be with someone who makes me as happy as he makes my mom
You never know. As they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You see some beautiful women with ugly guy's.Maybe they just say the rite things.
I remember one time some friends & I were at A bar, There was this beautiful woman sitting at the bar.We all tried hitting on her but she put us off as quick as we could get out our opening lines. Then this ugly little short guy came in sat next to her he turned to speak to her, She shook her head yes & they got up & left the bar. I walked over to the bartender who was standing close to them. I said to him hey buddy my friends & I have been trying to get friendly with that woman all night & she wouldn't even give us A smile, What did that guy say to her? He replied he didn't say nothing he just looked at her & licked his eye brows.
But on the other side of the same coin, some women who didn't have good relationships with their fathers may in fact date men like their fathers to get that acceptance that they never got from their fathers. It's interesting, to say the least.
Either way, it's mostly subconscious...and most women don't even realize they're doing it.
Which also, unfortunately, leads to a lot of cases of domestic abuse. They try to get the affection they never got from their fathers, who were "bad boys" or assholes. It's an awful cycle that can begin when you're young.
On the flip side of that, they can also choose much older, father figure types to date and marry. I know one of my cousins did that. Her father basically turned into an asshole and disowned her and forbade her sisters from speaking with her.
Quote by MadMartigan Which also, unfortunately, leads to a lot of cases of domestic abuse. They try to get the affection they never got from their fathers, who were "bad boys" or assholes. It's an awful cycle that can begin when you're young.
Women who are attracted to older men will usually tell you that older men are more confident and are more comfortable with themselves.
I do like older men. And the above statement hit the nail on the head as to why for me. Personally, (and I mean this applies to me and me only), I have spent too long being mucked around by younger guys that don't really know what they want and when they do know, they don't know how to articulate it. With guys of a certain age, all the BS is cut out. You know where you stand with them and they're confident enough to tell you their wants and needs. Again this is just a personal opinion of my experiences and is in no way a generalisation of guys my own age or younger.
Quote by Archadia Although I'm no master pick up artist just yet, I think that at least in theory, I know certain things that attracts women, and certain qualities you need to possess or adopt, and also how to implement seduction towards a woman you're attracted to.
That aside, me and my stepbrother were talking (he fancies himself as a ladies man as it is...) about qualities in that attract women. As he is 40 now, but he believes he has a certain quality that helps him attract women, sometimes even much younger than himself. He mentioned a concept that had actually never occured to me at all in my life. What I want to know, is whether this concept sounds accurate or way off the mark, and here it is.
Women are attracted to men who remind them of their own fathers (either sub-consciously or otherwise), or possess the same qualities that their own fathers possess?
What do you ladies think of this statement? Given that my own dad isn't really one for chasing skirt, and admitted that he's only actually been with 3 women, pahaps thats why I never thought of this before?
Then again, maybe this statement is false?
Hmmmmmmmm... I would say for sure NOT! I have no desire to be with anyone like my father, actually I avoid them at all cost. Maybe if my father was successful, loving and family oriented there would be some similarities between him and the men I am attracted to... Strange question indeed....
