Reading and well yes arguing on another forum i started to wonder how much really guys can find a girl paying for something emasculating?
imagine this: You have been dating a girl for sometime, she calls you and tells you that she bought some movies ticket so you can go together and see the movie, or you are on a club you have bought some drinks already and the girl you are with comes back with two drinks one of them for you, and another hundred othe scenarios were a girl ends up paying for something
Do you as a guy feel that she shouldn't be doing this and that she is trying to emasculate you or do you find it like a cute thing she is doing for you?
I think it's nice if a girl pays. Shows she is willing to talk to you and spend time with you.
But not all the time. I think from both points of view, its nice being treated in a while. I sure like being treated!
Absolutely no problem...
If I ask you out, to dinner, to a concert, to the theatre, then it's my date and I pay.....
If at any point after that, like if we go for a late drink or to a club, and she says "I'll get this", that's flattering and cool.... But then we match each other round for round...
And unless she's coming home with me or I'm dropping her home to stay over, (in both cases I'd insist on paying for the cab...) If she's leaving to go home alone I'll escort her to a cab and pay the driver an agreed fee as she gets into the car.... And I always ask that she texts me goodnight when she's home safe.....
If you ask Me out..... Yeah, I'm flattered and pleased.... But I will be all bloke-y and insist on paying for the extra bottle of wine and the cab home and all that stuff!!!
xx SF
Its not a problem. Sometimes its nice to know that a girl/women is willing to pay as that reflects that she is also keen and interested in this date.
It's only a problem if the guy's largest asset is his wallet.
I think it is fair to consider what the price of the event is. If I invite a chic to a movie - as stated before - I invited her and I would pay. If we want to go to a concert together or something and tickets are $100 per person, I think it should be split.
it depends to the scenario/set-up sometimes you might insult the capacity of your date, but base on ethics who invite for certain occasion she/he should pay
"Emasculating" was an interesting choice of words from cokeheadbarbie on that forum thread
What is literally* being said there is that a man's wallet equates to his testicles. Removing his financial power in the relationship being the same as removing his testicles
I personally struggle to reconcile this statement even though as a general view on society it probably holds up. So to you answer your question from my perspective: no I would not find that "emasculating".
*yes, I mean literally
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NEW! Want a quick read for your coffee break? Why not try this... Flash Erotica: Scrubber Any real man I know would not tell the girl he was chatting up that he had not enuf money for drinks that nite and sweatie could you please pick up the tab for drinks. Its true what overmyknee is saying it is tied to his sense of being "a man" to provide for the woman and take care of her even if its just shelling out for drinks at the club. Would you men not feel like your balls was chopped off if you were dating a girl you could not afford? I think the only men that would not care are the deadbeats that like to date women with money to take care of them but when that happens its never a wicked hot woman but mostly older birds with the funds to hook up the younger blokes for the sex.
Real men would not take a girl out or approach her if he cant afford it and demand her to foot the bill.
On the other thread the one girl was saying how she wouldnt care if a guy came up to her at the bar and just chatted her but never offer to buy her a drink if he cant afford it. I think that logic is wrecked. Everyone knows that the man need to make an offer to have the time and attentions of the girl in the club. If he did not offer to buy me a drink I will think he is either rude or a deadbeat. For real, most real men would feel right tacky about it!!
I think its best to leave those hotter girls at the club an not embarass himself and go down to the pub where the beer is on tap and mad cheap and try to pick up on the girls that are more in his league that he could afford.
Most guys get this logic no?
xx B.
I git it Barbie,
It's all part of being a man.
If she paid for the night out?? Hell, I would be flattered that she cares enough to spend her money on me!
I suppose I'm old enough to just simply accept what happens... I can afford things for the women in my life and sometimes they can afford things for me --- either way --- I am neither emasculated or empowered. I don't expect from them and the way I see they should not expect from me. If we like each other and we hook up... that's great. If we don't.... so what, it just was not meant to be. doesn't matter a damn about money.
I have no problem buying drinks or dinner for a guy that I'm into as the relationship progresses. We aren't living in the dark ages here. LOL
Feels like some of you girls are trying to say it doesnt matter if the bloke is a deadbeat coz you are scared of sounding shallow and materialistic. Funny too since its exactly the way those guys try to play it off to make you all feel guilty for expecting some chivalrey. Like do you think Kate was buying rounds for Prince William? Hardly! It would be right embarasssing and all over the telly and tabloids in 10 seconds flat!!!
As much as girls want to play like they are mother theresa and above it all money is way important! If he can't even buy you a drink at the club then its a good sign that he is already in debt. Be smart girls!!
xx B.
I never pay for anything when I'm with a guy. He might start getting used to it.
cokeheadbarbie, I have the money to pay for all the drinks and dinner, but it would be nice now and then for the lady to pay for a few things. If not I might get the impression that all she is after is my money and taking advantage of me, who wants a lady like that in ones life!
In a relationship things should be equal, and by that I mean everything. I can do the laundry, cleaning, sewing and most of the cooking and I would expect her to be equal on the financial side as well by paying for some things.
latinfoxy is right about "I think theres a HUGE middle ground between a deadbeat and a guy that is comfortable enough in there own skin to let a girl reach for her own wallet to pay for somethings!. " It show she cares and isn't just after money.
cokeheadbarbie, another thought could be, why does he need to buy you a drink at the club, will he get something in return?
If I have to pay for EVERYTHING then I damn well will expect something in return!! Nothing is for FREE!
The perfect answer. I concur. 
