It will help you understand the problem if I first explain that my husband and I are very lucky -- he’s CEO of a small company serving the health care sector, and in these days of COVID-19 that place is booming, and I’m in a pretty secure position in academia.  “So why”,  you might ask, “Is that a problem?” My husband’s (hereafter AJ) 60th birthday was coming up. What do you give a man who has everything he wants? The sho...