Dom been in this lifestyle for quite a few years, wife is a submissive. Ex military, now doing the usual managerial stuff. Done a lot of things in my life.
Two things immediately spring to mind. My wife never knew I rode horses. She had been riding all her life and the two of us went horse riding in Texas while on vacation. That was when she found out I had been trained by an International 3 day eventer. The other was when we were courting and sneaked inside a public park near a fence for a little sex. The house to which the fence was attached was close by and the owner let his dog out. It heard us and the owner then brought out a big Dragon Lamp which illuminated the whole area. We had to get dressed quick.
The best movie I like is The Rocky Horror Picture Show, very well acted.
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
93% Dominant
75% Degrader
72% Sadist
68% Master/Mistress
62% Brat tamer
60% Rigger
58% Primal (Hunter)
49% Daddy/Mommy
43% Experimentalist
39% Exhibitionist
38% Voyeur
35% Vanilla
32% Non-monogamist
30% Owner