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rpickman
Over 90 days ago
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So, I figure this is the place to ask. My wife enjoys attention with a vibrator and the ones we have work...okay but they all have had a few issues (like wearing out too quickly, low battery life, etc), but we have been sticking to the cheaper toys and from my understanding this is very much a "you get what you pay for" situation.
I'd like to invest in something more expensive and fun but not every toy has suited what she needs and if I'm going for something more expensive I'd rather not go trial-and-error (also, we're both cheapskates at heart so if you know a toy that's really good and still relatively cheap, I'm more than happy to hear it).
To share the qualities we're looking for in a vibrator:
*She prefers external, clitoral stimulation and we'd rather avoid something like a rabbit designed for penetration.
*She takes her time and so if it's battery or rechargeable it needs to have a decent lifespan.
*She likes to build up a bit so something adjustable is preferred. She's never been impressed with anything with vibe patterns so that's not necessary, but adjustable intensity is desirable.
*She likes to have the option to adjust it but in the end she likes really strong vibes, stronger the better.
*Something with a bit of finesse is important, that can be angled or targeted with some precision. So something with a big ol' head like the Hitachi isn't her thing.
*We're homebodies so portability isn't important.
Anyone got some suggestions based on those criteria?
I'd like to invest in something more expensive and fun but not every toy has suited what she needs and if I'm going for something more expensive I'd rather not go trial-and-error (also, we're both cheapskates at heart so if you know a toy that's really good and still relatively cheap, I'm more than happy to hear it).
To share the qualities we're looking for in a vibrator:
*She prefers external, clitoral stimulation and we'd rather avoid something like a rabbit designed for penetration.
*She takes her time and so if it's battery or rechargeable it needs to have a decent lifespan.
*She likes to build up a bit so something adjustable is preferred. She's never been impressed with anything with vibe patterns so that's not necessary, but adjustable intensity is desirable.
*She likes to have the option to adjust it but in the end she likes really strong vibes, stronger the better.
*Something with a bit of finesse is important, that can be angled or targeted with some precision. So something with a big ol' head like the Hitachi isn't her thing.
*We're homebodies so portability isn't important.
Anyone got some suggestions based on those criteria?
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https://sexshelter.com/en/author/33675
Got me too. Even a story just posted today!
I post a few places but they're definitely scraping from lush, it's the only place I've got Red Hot Summer split into three parts.
My first thought was putting something like my twitter in the author notes so at least I get potential splash-off from the site, but it looks like they're thorough enough to remove the author notes and post only the body of the work.
Got me too. Even a story just posted today!
I post a few places but they're definitely scraping from lush, it's the only place I've got Red Hot Summer split into three parts.
My first thought was putting something like my twitter in the author notes so at least I get potential splash-off from the site, but it looks like they're thorough enough to remove the author notes and post only the body of the work.
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Quote by DamonX
Oh man... I just finished watching Doom Patrol. I also watched Umbrella Academy. I suggest you give The Boys a try. As far as R rated superhero shows go, the Boys takes the gold so far. Umbrella gets a solid silver with Doom coming in at a distant bronze.
It has the most pessimistic take on superheroes. I loved it.
I also liked Umbrella Academy but they, like Doom Patrol, seem to be copies of the X-men. The Boys takes the cheesy DC Justice league and flips the script.
I've always said that the x-men should be an r rated series focusing on characters and issues rather that dumb CGI action. I hope Kevin Feige takes a note from these series for when the MCU brings in the mutants.
Ironic thing is that Doom Patrol actually predates X-Men (the comics obviously, not the show). It's definitely more light-hearted and if you're in it for darker superhero stories I can understand why it wouldn't float your boat. My main complaint was that there wasn't enough of Alan Tudyk screentime, he absolutely killed it...even when he was made of goofy-looking CGI.
If you want character focused X-men style stories I could not recommend Legion enough. Although it only loosely references its X-Men origins (main character is prof X's son), it's a wonderful, dark and surreal story and the Shadow King is a great villain.
Hopefully the New Mutants movie, being billed as a horror movie, will also be good for that.
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Oh dear, this could be a long list. I'll try and stick to the ones I really, really like or are obscure enough they probably haven't been mentioned 20 times already...
They Look Like People
Audition
Kairo
Southbound
Resolution & The Endless (watching them both is kind of essential)
[*REC]
Pontypool
Lights Out
It Follows
Babadook
House of Him
Hereditary (warning: will maim you emotionally)
Digging Up The Marrow
Berberian Sound Studio
Antiviral
Absentia
Obviously, I also have a lot of love for the classics (The Shining, The Thing, anything by Cronenberg), but I'm trying to keep it tight.
They Look Like People
Audition
Kairo
Southbound
Resolution & The Endless (watching them both is kind of essential)
[*REC]
Pontypool
Lights Out
It Follows
Babadook
House of Him
Hereditary (warning: will maim you emotionally)
Digging Up The Marrow
Berberian Sound Studio
Antiviral
Absentia
Obviously, I also have a lot of love for the classics (The Shining, The Thing, anything by Cronenberg), but I'm trying to keep it tight.
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i really wanted to like this more than i did. i love the premise of it. that said, it had some issues. for one, it was incredibly predictable - i watched it with my wife and we pretty much called out the entire plot before a lot of it happened. also, it wasn't quite sure what it wanted to be - it felt like it really needed to go dark, and it did a lot of the times, but it also veered off into campy territory a lot. and then there were the continuity issues. if a show is good enough, i'll ignore those, but they kind of stuck out here - like the whole aqua dude thing were he's suddenly naked, waist down, and then he's not again when they show a frontal, and the shirts that the main character was wearing - Ramones, Nirvana, etc, yet it's blatantly established that he likes Billy Joel, etc. i really want to give it a chance, but with limited watching time i have trouble committing to shows that might get better, so unless i hear differently it's a bit of a pass for me.
Personally I'm avoiding The Boys just because I find Garth Enis tends to write mainly about what he hates rather than what he loves. Preacher was probably his best work (and the TV adaptation is pretty damn good) but even that gets, ironically, very preachy.
If you like the premise but not the execution I'd probably suggest Umbrella Academy or Doom Patrol (both on Netflix). They're goofier, and obviously written by people who have a certain affection for comics even as they subvert the standard stories...but they also both get into dark themes and the idea of how messed up it is to force people to play "heroes".
Legion is also amazing. It's less about traditional superheroes, but it's some of the best psychedelic storytelling I've ever seen. Aubrey Plaza in particular does an absolutely fantastic job.
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I firmly stand by the opinion that the Super Mario Brothers movie was an absolute gem.
I'm a big fan of horror movies and a lot of them don't get the attention they deserve:
*They Look Like People: is simultaneously really, really fucking scary and also a really moving exploration on mental illness and how hard it can be for men to ask each other for help when they need it.
*Berberian Sound Studio: A fascinating look at Foley work (creating sound effects for movies/TV) and a really good psychological horror with a callback to Italian Giallo films.
*Digging Up The Marrow: Goofy found-footage meta-commentary on working as an independent horror filmmaker, plus some really cool and creative practical effects.
*[*REC]: The american remake is okay, but the original Spanish version is the real gem. It somehow manages to make both found-footage and zombies interesting.
*Mom And Dad: Really cool premise and Nicolas Cage absolutely tearing up the scenery and devouring it whole.
I'm a big fan of horror movies and a lot of them don't get the attention they deserve:
*They Look Like People: is simultaneously really, really fucking scary and also a really moving exploration on mental illness and how hard it can be for men to ask each other for help when they need it.
*Berberian Sound Studio: A fascinating look at Foley work (creating sound effects for movies/TV) and a really good psychological horror with a callback to Italian Giallo films.
*Digging Up The Marrow: Goofy found-footage meta-commentary on working as an independent horror filmmaker, plus some really cool and creative practical effects.
*[*REC]: The american remake is okay, but the original Spanish version is the real gem. It somehow manages to make both found-footage and zombies interesting.
*Mom And Dad: Really cool premise and Nicolas Cage absolutely tearing up the scenery and devouring it whole.
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Quote by Jen
It's always nice to welcome new authorsGlad you've found a creative outlet here.
Your comp piece was excellent. Hopefully it gets lots of views and votes. And seeing as you need 20 forum posts before you can post links, I'll link it here for you.
Go read this, people. It's a good one!
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I appreciate it! I already kind of smacked into that restriction in the promo forum. It's what I get for posting late at night without enough sleep.
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I've found that in any media only an extreme minority of viewers/readers will provide feedback. It's just human nature, the majority of consumers are not authors themselves and simply don't realize how much of a dopamine hit creators get when we get validation and how rough it can be when that validation is absent. That's why you see youtube videos that end every single time with "please like and subscribe"... its cliche and repetitive but it actually works because otherwise it would simply not occur to many consumers that doing so is in some way helpful (even if they know it intellectually).
I imagine the problem is even greater for erotic media simply because a significant portion of the audience feels a certain level of shame about their sex lives and that makes it awkward and embarrassing to engage with the author. In a lot of cases, a comment is really saying "I really enjoyed masturbating to your story", making a comment much more personal than it might be otherwise.
I don't know that there's any real solution other than to remind yourself that for every person who liked your story enough to leave a comment or vote there were probably 100-500 people who liked it but stayed silent. So just imagine it like a birthday card signed by a bunch of friends. It's just one card but it represents a lot of well-wishes.
I imagine the problem is even greater for erotic media simply because a significant portion of the audience feels a certain level of shame about their sex lives and that makes it awkward and embarrassing to engage with the author. In a lot of cases, a comment is really saying "I really enjoyed masturbating to your story", making a comment much more personal than it might be otherwise.
I don't know that there's any real solution other than to remind yourself that for every person who liked your story enough to leave a comment or vote there were probably 100-500 people who liked it but stayed silent. So just imagine it like a birthday card signed by a bunch of friends. It's just one card but it represents a lot of well-wishes.
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I find that a lot of professional writing advice overestimates the value of certain techniques or story elements and a proactive character is certainly one of them. It's too easy to go full Joseph Campbell and try and boil things down to common archetypes and story beats. There's nothing wrong with conventional story structure, but I've always found that quality beats structure every time.
In other words, it doesn't matter how many rules you break in an art form, what matters is that you do it really, really well.
As an example, many biographies and autobiographies are about people forced to endure situations with little or no power to change things (take Anne Frank as a very extreme example). They don't get used as an example for writers because they're non-fiction, but since they're compelling reads regardless they prove the viability of the concept.
I think related to that is another rule of writing that I find to be over-rated: that of the character arc.
In a traditional story structure, a passive protagonist would encounter situations that must be faced directly and eventually transform them into a proactive, classically heroic character. But while having stories transform a character can be fun and compelling, it can be equally entertaining to follow the story of a relatively static character through an interesting narrative driven by outside forces.
In other words, it doesn't matter how many rules you break in an art form, what matters is that you do it really, really well.
As an example, many biographies and autobiographies are about people forced to endure situations with little or no power to change things (take Anne Frank as a very extreme example). They don't get used as an example for writers because they're non-fiction, but since they're compelling reads regardless they prove the viability of the concept.
I think related to that is another rule of writing that I find to be over-rated: that of the character arc.
In a traditional story structure, a passive protagonist would encounter situations that must be faced directly and eventually transform them into a proactive, classically heroic character. But while having stories transform a character can be fun and compelling, it can be equally entertaining to follow the story of a relatively static character through an interesting narrative driven by outside forces.
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I'd say I was actually surprised that this wasn't the case for me. Conceiving a scene in my head certainly could be a turn-on but in the actual act of writing, I get a little too involved in the process to actually get turned on.
It's more common for me to feel "excitement", a sense of tension and energy when I get to these scenes, but it's largely non-sexual.
I will say one thing I've noticed is a tendency to mimic character expression and gesture when I get really involved in writing. Which promises to get a bit "interesting" as I try and tackle more ambitious scenes. I remember I used to do the same thing back when I had the time and opportunity to draw.
It's more common for me to feel "excitement", a sense of tension and energy when I get to these scenes, but it's largely non-sexual.
I will say one thing I've noticed is a tendency to mimic character expression and gesture when I get really involved in writing. Which promises to get a bit "interesting" as I try and tackle more ambitious scenes. I remember I used to do the same thing back when I had the time and opportunity to draw.
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Just saying hello and happy to be here. Been writing for a bit under two months but just venturing onto the forums today.
Only thought to start writing erotica a few months ago and decided I should go ahead and give it a try rather than just putting it off until it becomes impossible to get myself to do anything about it.
It's been a lot more satisfying than I expected and as soon as I started I realized just how desperate I've been for a creative outlet of some sort. I never expected erotica to be that outlet but it's been a great experience so far.
Only thought to start writing erotica a few months ago and decided I should go ahead and give it a try rather than just putting it off until it becomes impossible to get myself to do anything about it.
It's been a lot more satisfying than I expected and as soon as I started I realized just how desperate I've been for a creative outlet of some sort. I never expected erotica to be that outlet but it's been a great experience so far.
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Okay, this goes from promotion to embarrassment in five seconds. I forgot that I can't post links until I get 20 posts under my belt.
*ahem*
I'll see what I can do about that.
In the meantime, since I've got a grand total of 4 stories then you should have no problem tracking them down from my meager profile.
*ahem*
I'll see what I can do about that.
In the meantime, since I've got a grand total of 4 stories then you should have no problem tracking them down from my meager profile.
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So I just started writing a month and change ago, so I don't have much to promote yet, but I figured I'd give it a shot.
The first story I tried out is a sword-and-sorcery fantasy story called the Tale of Astra (believe it or not, the verbal pun is unintentional, but I might as well lean into it).
[url=]Tale of Astra[/url]
It's very rough, as it's the first lengthy prose I've written in a decade+ but I've found it easier to forge ahead with new chapters and refine it as I go rather than trying to rewrite past ones. Probably would have been wise not to try and tackle a long-term multi-chapter story as my very first but "wise" isn't exactly my strong suit anyway.
I also have a story up in the latest contest:
[url=https://]Praise Him[/url]
This one's self-contained and I think it came out pretty well overall (fair warning, as it's for the kinky fetish contest it main not be appealing to everyone).
The first story I tried out is a sword-and-sorcery fantasy story called the Tale of Astra (believe it or not, the verbal pun is unintentional, but I might as well lean into it).
[url=]Tale of Astra[/url]
It's very rough, as it's the first lengthy prose I've written in a decade+ but I've found it easier to forge ahead with new chapters and refine it as I go rather than trying to rewrite past ones. Probably would have been wise not to try and tackle a long-term multi-chapter story as my very first but "wise" isn't exactly my strong suit anyway.
I also have a story up in the latest contest:
[url=https://]Praise Him[/url]
This one's self-contained and I think it came out pretty well overall (fair warning, as it's for the kinky fetish contest it main not be appealing to everyone).
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I'm very vulnerable to this.
I was trying to come up with an exotic material with a pseudo-scientific background which would end up getting a one-line mention in the story (I ended up using Red Mercury, which also has a fascinating history behind it) and I ended up reading long articles on super-rare elements like Rhenium and their weird specialized uses. Then looking up how exactly cloth-penetrating security scanners work in airports.
On my current story I've spent like an hour looking up different types of boats to try and figure out what to call one boat that ended up sticking around for only a page or so.
I was trying to come up with an exotic material with a pseudo-scientific background which would end up getting a one-line mention in the story (I ended up using Red Mercury, which also has a fascinating history behind it) and I ended up reading long articles on super-rare elements like Rhenium and their weird specialized uses. Then looking up how exactly cloth-penetrating security scanners work in airports.
On my current story I've spent like an hour looking up different types of boats to try and figure out what to call one boat that ended up sticking around for only a page or so.