Hey Humdrum,

Sorry you're feeling a little bit of guilt over your lush profile.

I do understand what you mean: here on lush we're all accepted. You can be kinky. You can be naughty. You can let your inner self out of the box... It's really hard to do that in every day life.

I don't understand why we have been taught from a very young age that sexual desires are something to be ashamed of. They're not. They're natural. But society, and probably your wife don't exactly feel the same way.

There is nothing wrong with having an account here. But chatting with other people, and by letting them in you are not cheating on your wife. You're here to feel normal. And that's important.

I would, however, recommend letting your wife in on some of the things you fantasize about. (I say this with hesitation, since I do not know you and I don't know what it is your fantasizing about or your wife's personality.) Try to let her in slowly. Don't sit her down on the couch one day and say,... "HEY! So I discovered I would really like it if you'd do me in the ass with a strap on, while a midget on a unicycle watches."
That's just going to send her running for the hills. Instead, start by telling her you want to buy a unicycle! (Ok, I'm obviously kidding about this... but you get the point. Baby steps.)

I'm assuming that part of the problem is that you're sex life isn't exactly rocking at home so you are coming here to type out some of your sexual frustration. And in doing so you have discovered many things about your sexual desires and preferences. 15 years is a long time to try to keep a sex life exciting. Talk to her about that first. Maybe there are some 'vanilla' ways that you could spice things up with her at home...(hot oil massage that leads to sex maybe?) get a little bit of the sex life back and as that grows, maybe both of your fantasies could as well.

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