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cuddinrick
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Bi-curious Male, 72
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Quote by lacr0236
Long story made short... the wife and I had a mmf. Before hand the ground rules were set up that I had to be present/aware if at any time after they were going get together. And I was to be told of any messages, texts, or calls. I later find out my wife has deleted many texts and set up a rendezvous with him while I was out of town. "She forgot to delete a message to one of her girlfriends" she said that the talked about doing it but didn't. And says that they never did it when I wasn't there... how can I believe her. It has been 2 years now and I still don't completely trust her... Can I really ever trust her again? She says that she is different now and will never risk "us" again, but is still friends with him even though I wanted her to break all contact when I found out. Am I asking to be hurt again?


I don't mean to sound harsh but it sounds to me like you are looking for a reason to be a victim...."Look how she done me dirt"....Or something like that. Look EVERYONE has made a mistake at some time in their lives. Some of us really big mistakes. Some of us have even broken those ridiculous promises that we made (fourteen years ago in your case) to each other. Yes it actually does happen sometimes. That hasn't happened to me (as far as I know) but who cares. I know that my wife loves me and will be there for me. There was one lady when I was younger that cheated (I hate that word (it sounds soooo in high school)) on me and I just KNEW I was justified in the indignation that I felt. We broke up and I got to be right. But that's all I got, and being right isn't really all that satisfying. Working through your shit and coming out the other end together, now that could be satisfying.

Just my take.
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Quote by Dancing_Doll

I want my pussy to glow in the dark and taste like bubblegum.



If you do your kegels regularly, you might be able to chew gum down there in a few weeks, maybe that's a start?

Sorry Olivia, couldn't resist.


Quote by Dancing_Doll

And then soon enough I'll be able to blow bubbles!


Re the designer pussy specs listed above, I'm still catching up on all these new options. I think I'm ok with the idea of a labiaplasty in extreme situations and maybe the rejuvenation surgery if a woman has had tons of kids or somehow she was just born with a loose vagina (if such things are possible) and feels extremely self-conscious about it. I'm all for self-improvements if it makes a woman more confident. It's all personal choice. But... the mints are just embarrassing, especially if a woman is popping one in there before sex and thinking the guy is supposed to think she just tastes 'refreshing' in a natural way. Actually, I think they need to reverse this trend and start making Pussy-Flavoured Mints!

I'm not sure that labiaplasty would ever be necessary outside of some kind of physical abuse committed on the lady or an accident. Other than that just leave the labia alone (I would add the only treatment to apply would be hair removal, and only so the labia could better be seen.)
As for loose vagina...Well if the guy had what he is always saying he has that should take care of "Loose Vagina"...I know because I have never found a loose vagina...OK! WELL maybe I forgot a couple....BUT! Ladies it's probably not your fault...just sayin'

As for the pussy flavored mints!? That's something I could get on board with. At my age it might be the only way I will be able to taste pussy again before I die.
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Quote by Laceydsex
I'm wondering if any guy has read The Fault in our Stars by John Green. I have recently finished it and I want to talk to someone about it, preferably a guy so I can get a different gender's opinion. Reply to this forum post or send me a friend request if you have!


I have never heard of this book. Is it fiction? Is it one of those New Age type psycho-babble type books. I don't know if I would want to read it myself.
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Quote by Dancing_Doll
This was kind of interesting - from the Wiki page on Three-Date Rule

An anonymous poll carried out by msn.match.com among 5,237 singles suggests that in general there is no such rule, judging from the answers to the question, "How many dates does it take before you become intimate?"

One: 12.74%
Two: 24.94%
Three: 21.48%
Four or more: 34.18%
Only after marriage: 6.66%


WOW! That's a strange statistic for the antisex crew.

JUST SAYIN'
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Quote by Nikki703
HAHA! I have honestly never heard of it! I guess its sort of like you cant post a pic in the forum until you made 10 posts!

Is there like a 10 date rule for Anal and maybe 25 dates before you should ask to have a threesome? What ever happened to just letting things happen as they happen?


Yeah! What she said.

If counting dates works for you that's fine, but how about spontaneity? Prior to the sixties there was a rule too....no sex before marriage...I guess that worked for some people. Of course as soon as the pill was developed that rule was out the window....I guess that rule didn't work as well as people thought.

I just think that we could find a way to live without trying to manipulate and/or control everything. The universe is working out as it should, let it. If you don't have sex by the third then what...do you move on?

People are human beings, human beings love to have sex, that's what we do. If you screw, you screw; if you don't, you don't,...what else is there?
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Quote by Scriptwriter66
Blue eyes, pouty lips, small breast, slender long legs, tight ass that moves distractively - something like her



Now that is as perfect as one can get! The only problem is that I could keep eating 'til there isn't anything left.

MY, MY. MY.
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Quote by Dancing_Doll


Some guys actually enjoy hearing all the wild and dirty stories from your past - in detail. It turns them on. Some guys don't. I've always let the guy decide on that. I'm always up for sharing - I get off on hearing about his past too, but I keep my mouth closed until the guy pushes me to spill the kinky stuff and let's me know he wants to hear it.

I never mention dick size though. I think that's the golden rule, no matter how much sharing you enjoy.


I am like that. I love hearing anything a lady wants to tell me about her past experiences. This was before the conservatives turned AIDS into an epidemic but one dear lady in my life had twenty lovers (two were husbands) before me. I could never get her to spill the dope on her husbands ( she said she felt bad enough that she married them in the first place). She did however tell me that once (when she was eighteen) she fucked her boyfriend's room mate simply because his room mate wanted to fuck and her boyfriend wasn't home. Or another time she fucked a different BF's identical twin just to see if they were really identical...of course said twin told the BF and that was that for the relationship.

But yeah if she wants to tell me I'll listen...and to all of the details. How big was his cock? did you blow him? was he as good as I am with the tongue? Etc. etc.
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I for one sure hope the bush isn't making a come back. I lived through the seventies, eighties, and nineties. I was almost positive that I would die from a hairball. I just narrowly escaped that fate, because that ugly bush finally went out of fashion.

My mind is powerful enough to know that spaghetti doesn't look like worms or that rice doesn't look like maggots...it's also powerful enough know that a woman is a woman even if she doesn't have hair there.

Just my thoughts!
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Quote by WellMadeMale
Early 20s to early 50s... but I don't see that as a poll option.


Kinda what he said 'cept for me it would have been mid twenties. I was tooooo self-conscious or shy to really approach girls 'til after my first marriage. Then I found that a lot of ladies thought I would have more experience so they would lay back easier and spread them wider, and I got the experience and confidence that I needed. This was back in the seventies and before HIV so it wasn't so dangerous.

It took me a long time before I was comfortable with talking to my wife about some of my desires and fantasies. When I finally got the courage to talk to her about it she freaked. She would punish me, embarrass me in public, degrade me in bed (no it wasn't a fantasy of mine to be degraded) until I finally said that's it I didn't want anything to do with sex (with my wife). We haven't had sex now for over five years.
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It was before Nov. 2009...that was when my wife was first diagnosed with breast cancer,and it was a bit before that event...maybe a year or so! I have to admit that she wasn't the one to stop the sex.
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Mostly Scottish, or Irish, or Australian, but some English accents can get the heart pumping. BUT! it has to be from a lady person....guy accents don't do much for me. Example; Billie Piper or Kiera Knightley, could say anything she wanted to me and my jeans would get sticky....Hugh Grant...not so much.

Bostonian, New Yorker, or New Jersey accents along with all Southern (US) accents make people sound illiterate (TO ME!) BUT! again I have heard a few ladies (don't know where they were from) with a southern accent that I could listen to all night and into the morning.

Just Sayin'
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Quote by bluewolf12
Have you ever gone through a dry spell so had sex with your best friend what was out come was it one off, still talking, or get together


Of course this has been many years ago, and not a best friend. She was a friendly acquaintance who turned into a best friend one night. She was a waitress at a truckstop, she was many years younger than me (don't want to say her age) and was having an affair with a married guy. I would sometimes facilitate their meetings by driving her to their rendezvous, and then coming back to pick her up and give her a ride home. One night she asked me not to leave right away because she wasn't sure if she was staying. I could see through the window that they were arguing and soon she came back to the car and said "Take me home". While driving her home she said "Gawd that fucker pisses me off so much....and when I get pissed off I need to fuck. Then she turned and looked at me and said "tonight you’re it". Pretty much instantly we became best friends. She still would see her married man, but on those nights when either of us needed something good we were there for each other. It got so that we didn't even have to say the words we could just look at each other and we both knew that one or both need some quality time.

AH! The good old days!
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Pussy for me. I have fucked in the ass before and while it was really nice there is just something wonderful about the missionary position and a nice pussy. Pussies evolved to have a dick inserted and a dick evolved to be inserted there. And the feeling of our bodies rubbing together, and to be able to look into her eyes and watch her expression...! If someone wants me to fuck their ass I will but it just wouldn't be my first choice.
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Oh My Gawd!!! What a lucky bastard he is!!!!!
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Quote by Meggsy
Of course they do - whether they admit it or not is immaterial.
It like asking them if they masturbate - many will say no - but I have never met a human being above 16 (years of age) who hasnt.


Well actually I had never measured mine. I was truly happy with what I had and knew that I couldn't do anything about it anyway so why bother. Most of the ladies I ad been with said I was big but I just thought they were lying (so as not hurt my feelings..you know the way some ladies do) but there was never any shortage of women to lay so I was happy.

Then when I was around fifty-one or two (maybe a year or two younger) my wife and I decided to try swinging and in the process someone asked my wife about my size and she decided we had to measure. For awhile after that I had conflicting thoughts going on in my head. I hated that. Sometimes I'd think I was special because I was bigger that average, but then other times I feel bad because I wasn't 9 1/2 or 10 inches. Since then I have made peace with myself again.

If someone now asks how big am (and trust me not too many ladies are asking these days) I just say it's as big as it is but I can show you if you really want to know.
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WOW! I think it may have been on the day this thread was started.....if not it was a little before.
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WOW! I think it may have been on the day thread was started.....if not it was a little before.
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Pretty kinky!

Grats! You're 61% kinky!
You kinkscore is pretty high. Most likely you're up for trying anything at least once, which show open-mindedness. You're probably a great lay, so just keep doing that thing you do!
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"Breakfast Club"
"Dances With Wolves"
The first three "Borne" movies
not in any definite order, and the some others.
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The only water sports I like are done indoors or in a meadow in the woods. Sorry but that is truly the only water sports I like.
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Well! Yes I dated one many many years.

She wouldn't let me have sex with her but I could do a lot of other things. She was a fantastic kisser, by the way. She would let me suck on her nipples and finger her slit and clit....But Gawd Damn she wouldn't let me get her naked and have my way with her. I told her I would let her have her way with me but I guess she didn't want to take advantage of me.
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I love receiving golden showers from a lady. I can't quite but into words what I love about them, but a few people said that it seems to bring a feeling of closeness or intimacy...I tend to agree with them. Other's have said that it is the nasty or nature of sharing something so (usually) private...I find that true as well. It might be that there is something mysterious about the way a lady pees because with a guy everything is out in the open -so to speak. With a lady the urethra is hidden between those wonderful, delicious, sexy labia and unseen. (Sorry for getting carried away describing the labia....they’re just so marvellous.)
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Ooooooopppps!

Sorry wasn't thinking clearly. This is an "Ask the Gals." question. While I am not (no doubt) the most manly guy here I am still a guy....so I should have kept my situation to myself.

SORRY Ladies.
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Well!.......Yes there are many, many, sexual desires and fantasies that I have never shared with my wife, and never will.

I had tried a few times during our marriage to share/communicate some of my fantasies with her and always got shut down immediately. Then about ten or so years ago I decided that I WAS going to talk about it (stupid mood I was going through at the time)and....well things didn't go well after that. Got so bad that as soon as the subject of sex comes up I go away. Sometimes I just go into my head sometimes I physically go away. I will not let my wife know ANYTHING about my sexual side. I opened up about things and she used those very same things to attack, abuse, degrade me.

Sex is completely non existent in our marriage now and has been for 'bout five years.
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Quote by kylie_kained
I would consider you bi curious right now Lisa until you actualy try it for yourself it might seem a good idea right now to you but you might find out that it's truly not for you once you try it.

I know that in reality this is true, but it's difficult for me to wrap my head around someone making love to a woman and then saying "This is not for me"... I've made love to lots of women and I have never once said "This is not for me".

Of course I have to say I have tried other men and I will say that while sometings were quite fun and I would like to try them again some things just simply hurt like hell and I'll never try that again.

Just sayin'
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Quote by EllenJames

Found this website talking about "devotional sex" which at a quick glance sounds like femdom lite - focusing upon the female partners sexual pleasure -

I'm reading more about this before perhaps proposing it to the wife but wondered if any lushies are familiar with it? Hoping that perhaps this would revive her interest in sex as a mature woman.


Quite an interesting concept. I only briefly perused the site and will have to go back and read it more in depth at a later time. Of course I am not an expert on any subject and certainly not on any sexual practice but I have read a bit on the Tao and the Tao is far, far more than sex or men holding their ejactulations.

Anyway thanks for bringing this to our attention.
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Quote by JohnC
I like natural and within a "normal" range, for both boob size and nipples. Shape also matters too. But I like them all, except the extremes. Overly large boobs can be nice, but don't "turn me on" (you know, those HUGEEEEEEEE ones), but they should also fit the body size too.


I agree pretty much with everything said here. Yet! I have to say that I lean closer to small breasts. My wife is a 38d (she said that mostly she is a d cup but depending on the manufacturer she is sometimes a c cup...I don't know much about that kind of thing) but I rarely find anyone bigger than her attractive. Her nipples are 5/8 of an inch around and 3/4 inch long (we measured them) and I just loved her nipples.

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And frankly NO boobs, does not do it for me either. For me there has to be something even if very small. I don't like a completely flat chest with nipples on it.


Normally this is true for me, but I have seen a couple of ladies (yes they were strippers) that had virtually no titties but very long nipples. Gawd Damn could they rock what they had. In fact for them it was their biggest draw. They never had to sit around long without giving private dances to the guys. Confidence pure and simple...it's all in the confidence.

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As for nipple size, I also prefer a more medium size nipple. Something along the size of my pinky in diameter and that sticks out enough to suck on nicely is perfect. But bigger and smaller than that is fine too. But I have to be honest, I don't find very tiny nipples to be attractive.


On this I respectfully disagree. I knew a lady (a long time ago(before I met my wife)) whose nipples were just a bit smaller then my pinky around and about as long as the first two knuckles on the same pinky. Yummmmmmmmmy!!

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NONE of that however, is a deal breaker and there are other things that matter far more to me than boob or nipple size. A face I could look at and eyes I could lose myself in all night can outweigh most "body" issues (that fall within a normal range).


Again I am in complete agreement. I would add to that a willingness to rub those bare nipples and boobs against my naked body would be the ultimate turn on.
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There are just too many for me to pick only one. It depends a great deal on what day it is and which actress is on the screen or what model is in this magazine right 'NOW'. I think -for the most part- that there very few women that are not sexy. Most every lady has something about her that just knocks my socks off...To try and pick just one...I don't know!!!
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Back in the seventies it was Pink Floyd "Wish You Were Here". More than one lady liked to take off to the slow, smooth tracks of "Shine on You Crazy Diamond"...Heat up with"Welcome to The Machine"...take it home with "Have A Cigar" ...and cool back down with 'Wish you were here"...And then snuggle up/ spoon to 'Shine on You Crazy Diamond". In fact when one of my ladies got married (about a year or two later) we were all sitting around talking.(I didn't know her new husband and he didn't know me) we started to talk about music and she looked over at me with a wonderful sexy smile and a twinkle in her eye (in her sexy white wedding dress) and said to me "I really like ...What was the name of that album we used to listen to....Oh yes it was "Wish You Were Here...that's right. I really like that album a lot". I knew that I would be back over to see her in the future...without her new husband being there. She told me later that she couldn't listen to a track from that album on the radio without her panties getting wet.

Now of course that was a long long time ago and mind sets change. But it was great music to get Naughty with at the time.
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Quote by 1nympholes
With so many guys indicating their preference for A and B cup are you saying I should consider a breast reduction?


I not saying that you SHOULD do anything...that is a decision that you must make. Surgery always comes with risk. Yes I like small breasts but like a lot of folks have said on here the lady is more important than the breasts.

If I could be so bold as to make ANY suggestion to ANY one I would suggest that the lovely ladies with the lovely small breasts not take the chance of complications by getting surgery. Look if a guy can't accept your wonderful, sexy, little titties then he REALLY can't accept you. If he wants a BIG tittied girl let him go find a BIG tittied girl. If big titties are all that important to him then send him down the road. I'm not saying he is bad just that he isn't the one for you...Why expend any more time on him?

LOOK! If I wanted a lady that was 5'0" why should I go out to find a 5'9" girl....and then ask her to have her legs shortened. Or vice versa I I want a 5'9" girl why should I find 5'0" girl and then ask her to have her stretched.

Of course if he REALLY does love you dearly and just wants to experience "BIG TITTIES" once in a while there is always the possibility of finding a "BIG TITTIED" girl to share with him for the night. Right? RIGHT??? Can I get an AMEN!?