No. I'm pretty open when it comes to that. I think it's important to be up front about your desires with any long-term partners. You learn to please each other better...plus you can introduce each other to new things and grow together sexually.
I'm actually married and still feel I can't share some of my fantasies with my husband. I don't know weather it's the fear of being seen as a slut or the fear of making him feel hurt. But I think you need to be in a certain place in your life to share everything
Well!.......Yes there are many, many, sexual desires and fantasies that I have never shared with my wife, and never will.
I had tried a few times during our marriage to share/communicate some of my fantasies with her and always got shut down immediately. Then about ten or so years ago I decided that I WAS going to talk about it (stupid mood I was going through at the time)and....well things didn't go well after that. Got so bad that as soon as the subject of sex comes up I go away. Sometimes I just go into my head sometimes I physically go away. I will not let my wife know ANYTHING about my sexual side. I opened up about things and she used those very same things to attack, abuse, degrade me.
Sex is completely non existent in our marriage now and has been for 'bout five years.
Sorry wasn't thinking clearly. This is an "Ask the Gals." question. While I am not (no doubt) the most manly guy here I am still a guy....so I should have kept my situation to myself.
A little back ground about me. I'm a married woman of 26 years. I'm 48 years old,2 daughters 24, 27 years old..I have always been attracted to other women.When I masturbate,i'll fantasize about getting seduced or seducing another str8 woman,preferable a married women like myself,both of us with secret lesbian desires.When hubby is at work ,i just love reading lesbian erotica stories and watching and downloading girl/girl porn.I can play in secret for hours sometimes.I almost always feel guilty after my masturbation sessions and about having lesbian fantasies.Most times i'll tell myself that I won't do it anymore ,but I always end up doing it again.I guess you could say i'm a sex addict ?
