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I don't have a partner, currently, and still have plenty of fantasies, none of which were really there back when I had a husband. I never cheated, though there was opportunity and temptation, but that doesn't really fall into the realm of 'fantasy enactment'.
I think that it would have to depend on how important the enactment of the fantasy is to you. If it's making you miserable, and then guilty, then that's something that you need to figure out for you. Are their feelings and beliefs either unchangable, or is there a chance of things slowly evolving that might take time, but could see a meeting of the minds happen? And if not, how important is it to you that you have this fantasy fulfilled, given everything else is all hunky dory?
I have spoken with a few, especially here on Lush, who I believe fall into this category though.
- One says he's unhappy, but doesn't know what to do about it. She doesn't seem to want to have anything to do with him, and there is a great deal of unhappiness on his part.
- One is says he's happy with where he's at, but I suspect that's a lie - mainly to himself - that he's trying to believe. He wants to see his wife with another man, and partake in threesomes/moresomes, and do other things, but she isn't at all interested, so he's wanting to live those out, but can't without 'stepping outside'.
- One says he can't do anything about it because of circumstances, which are real and understandable. I don't think he's unhappy, but enjoys the 'interludes' he has in secret online...
Not sure this helps, and sorry for rambling on. As honeydipped said, some fantasies probably wouldn't transfer well into real life, and perhaps that keeps some folk in arrangements that are not happy, or satisfying, but are at least a known quantity. Well, aside from the whole financial/property/kids issue of ending a relationship that is a marriage.
And we all know that no matter how much we love a good fantasy, reality can be such a downer! It ain't Hollywood folks!
I was having these feelings when I had a partner, so it's definitely a past experience that I've learned from. I've been single for a while now although I've learned to be patient and find someone who's sexually compatible with me haha :P Patience is a virtue as they say :P
Not at all thanks for the reply and I agree not all fantasies would transfer well and Hollywood will never transfer into real life ;) Hopefully one day though I'll find the right partner for me who is as open as I am :P Communication is key me thinks
