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Question... if I have ebooks posted for sale on Amazon, is it against the terms and conditions for either lush or amazon for me to also post them here? just curious...
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I agree with the above response. Particularly the part about seeing a sex therapist. Exhaust all other avenues (which after 3 years, I am sure you have...) and present the idea of therapy to her. Be sure to express to her that you love her so immensely and miss being able to express it to her in that way. She may take a while to warm up to the idea, since people automatically think something is "wrong" with them if they need therapy. Hey, there's something all of us need therapy for, I think it's a great tool to get to know yourself better and work through underlying issues.
Good luck!
Good luck!
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It's one of those things that I fantasize about, but do NOT have any desire to actually fulfill. I think it's a kinky fantasy, nothing more for me.
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It's one of those things that I fantasize about, but do NOT have any desire to actually fulfill. I think it's a kinky fantasy, nothing more for me.
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I think the happier you can become as a single person, the more desirable you become to others around you. Go out with friends, be comfortable in your single-ness, and if someone deserving of you comes along, great. I hate cliches, but if it is meant to be, the circumstances will present themselves.
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Only after sex. I like that it makes me feel a little naughty ;)
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Stretch. Ideally before and after, but the after part is more important. Do a cool down.
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Professional musician. Christmas music is great. Pays the bills, usually musically satisfying... I could do without the xmas carols on the radio in October but whatever
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Oh heck yeah... and while driving too, but usually I snuggle a vibe in my pants so I can have both hands on the wheel when I cum ;)
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I never have, but if I was afraid it was going to tear me up like giving birth, damn right I'd turn it down... or at least need an adjustment period or something.
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On a "seeing them regularly" level, I don't think there is ANY place for exes in a relationship. Zero. None. There is no reason to maintain a "just friends" status or even maintain any kind of contact. It sucks, because I have lost some of my best best friends to dating me and breaking up. That's a risk you take when you date a friend.
That being said, I think there is some value to talking with your partner/bf/gf about things about you that you attribute to an ex. For example if your ex left you for another woman/man, perhaps you would find it useful to mention that if you still struggle with trust. I think there are valid things to discuss about your past relationships, but no reason for them to be lingered on or discussed with any frequency... only if relevant and appropriate.
Hope that makes sense.
That being said, I think there is some value to talking with your partner/bf/gf about things about you that you attribute to an ex. For example if your ex left you for another woman/man, perhaps you would find it useful to mention that if you still struggle with trust. I think there are valid things to discuss about your past relationships, but no reason for them to be lingered on or discussed with any frequency... only if relevant and appropriate.
Hope that makes sense.
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Favorite thing from a cafe - sitting in the corner on lush getting horny and trying not to be noticed ;)
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MFF or FFF. I have a bi-curious side, but no real desire to have 2 men at the same time.
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I have found him. A man I love and am looking forward to committing to for the rest of my life. We have similar interests, senses of humor, and are compatible in every way I could have imagined and hoped for. We have dated for almost a year and a half and are looking forward (but not necessarily rushing into) to getting engaged sometime in the next year.
The issue for us? None.
The issue for others? He is 37 and I am 24. 13 year difference.
Others (mostly adult family members... ok, parents) have such a huge issue with our age difference. They think it's inappropriate and are trying to be pushy about me "exploring my options," "dating around," and "enjoying my youth." I don't want to do any of those things. [Oh, there's a whole separate issue of them thinking that we are moving too fast to be discussing marriage at 18 months of dating, but that's another topic... one I think stems from the age thing.]
I have had enough relationships, life experiences, and setbacks in my life to know what I want and what I don't from a spouse and partner. Almost every decision I have made (big decisions), I have proven myself to be a level headed decision maker, never rash, and all of my relationships have been with good people and have proven that I choose my partners wisely.
My point is... we have fallen in love and the age difference (which was a discussion we had at the beginning of our relationship) has completely become invisible to us. We're just... us. There is no older/younger dynamic.
Any similar situations/advice/words of encouragement/validation that I am not a deviant would be appreciated
The issue for us? None.
The issue for others? He is 37 and I am 24. 13 year difference.
Others (mostly adult family members... ok, parents) have such a huge issue with our age difference. They think it's inappropriate and are trying to be pushy about me "exploring my options," "dating around," and "enjoying my youth." I don't want to do any of those things. [Oh, there's a whole separate issue of them thinking that we are moving too fast to be discussing marriage at 18 months of dating, but that's another topic... one I think stems from the age thing.]
I have had enough relationships, life experiences, and setbacks in my life to know what I want and what I don't from a spouse and partner. Almost every decision I have made (big decisions), I have proven myself to be a level headed decision maker, never rash, and all of my relationships have been with good people and have proven that I choose my partners wisely.
My point is... we have fallen in love and the age difference (which was a discussion we had at the beginning of our relationship) has completely become invisible to us. We're just... us. There is no older/younger dynamic.
Any similar situations/advice/words of encouragement/validation that I am not a deviant would be appreciated
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A glass of Riesling (but not the nasty too sweet kind.... I'd say mid dry-sweet). And planning to drink plenty this evening, though I may switch to beer or liquor as the sulfides in wine give me a headache if I drink too much.
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I try REALLY hard not to look at the author of a story before I read it. I have been surprised many times by favorite authors who published a story which wasn't my taste, and I have also been surprised by some authors I didn't love in the past putting out some of my favorite stories. Also, I should point out (and this is just an estimation), probably 7 out of my top 10 favorite stories were written by men. I think gender mostly irrelevant in terms of putting out quality erotic stories.
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Even if you cut it from your novella, keep it and publish it in a short story context. I agree that the against the wall sex is impractical, but it's hot to fantasize about it and if you have an interest in it AND have dedicated your time and imagination to already writing a scene, I would love to read it!
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possibly because you met him shaven lol that happens a lot
Yes, that's exactly my point... I have been attracted to men both with and without facial hair, which is what the question was originally.
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I don't think so. I try to be fairly open minded, but I think I would get in my own mind's way on this one.
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If it was with a long term/known partner, I'd probably be fine with it (given that we would probably have discussed it before getting down to it). If it was a fling or first sexual encounter, I'd find it a little odd and probably be concerned about its effect on me.
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Older. Dated guys my age for a long time and honestly, they weren't mature enough.
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It depends on the guy. I used to date a guy who had a great beard and I loved it on him, but the guy I'm with now doesn't have one and would probably look silly with full facial hair.
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Not really. if there's a girl involved, yes, but not just two guys. Now two girls, I'll watch that ;)
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Nope - my bf/almost fiance ;) thinks I did once but I'm not sure... I don't think I have
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Sure. Fantasy is just that - fantasy.... I would rather someone who really KNEW me fantasize about me. If an online friend fantasizes about me, great, but they are probably adding whatever they want to who I am. Someone who knows me will fantasize about the real me