Although I don't have serious premature ejaculation issues, I sometimes enjoy offering a wild non-stop pounding for 15-20+ minutes, and have thus used numbing creams in the past to help me achieve that ; the results were simply amazing. I only used such creams with known partners/girlfriends.
I would like to know your opinion on this matter.
Would you perceive a man using such creams as being inferior or incompetent?
Do you consider it cheating or unnatural?
What would be your opinion of a man using it on a first sex date?
My main concern is that using such creams would be particularly useful with first dates, but using them with a new partner might also feel awkward.
Thoughts, ideas, advices? Thanks!
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Honestly, I'd find a bit strange. It would be a bit of a mood killer to have to wait for him to apply cream before a semi-long session. But I guess you gotta do what you gotta do. I usually expect the first round to be sort of short. You have to get that first orgasm out of the way. Either that or try masturbating beforehand. Any topical creams and such should be used as a last resort unless you NEED them.
Now if a guy needed to numb his penis in order to fuck me for a while, I'd be a little put out. Only because I don't wanna fuck a numb penis. The thought is kind of creepy.
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If you don't have PE issues, why would you do this? Do you mean you do it so you can last longer only for her benefit?
If I knew a man was using it because he had PE issues, I would not think he was inferior or incompetent.
If someone is using it even though he didn't have a problem with PE, I would think it was a weird thing to do.
If he needed it for PE problems, I would presume he might be a little shy about mentioning it if it was the first time we were having sex. It wouldn't bother me if he did tell me or use it for that reason. It would bother me if he used it for some other purpose and if he did, I would certainly expect him to tell me before we had sex, if he had used it.
Why the hell would I stick a digit on my tackle .. maybe to indicate the length? I dont think so thank you!. jeez.
edit - sorry I misread the thread name.
Ok, I see your point. If it was a partner I'd been with for a reasonable length of time, I can see how it might be something interesting to try, but not something I would like to use all the time. For casual sex where you would like to impress, what happens if that casual sex then becomes a regular partner? You would have to admit to her that you don't really have the staying power you have previously demonstrated. Wouldn't that be embarrassing?
I see the appeal, its no different than using throat spray to numb yourself for a blowjob session. But honestly - I don't get why you wouldn't want the challenge of learning how to control your orgasm a bit more with dedication and hard work.
You know - where the fun is at.
If it was with a long term/known partner, I'd probably be fine with it (given that we would probably have discussed it before getting down to it). If it was a fling or first sexual encounter, I'd find it a little odd and probably be concerned about its effect on me.
It is definitely NOT cheating or unnatural. Go for it dude!
I am not lying at all when I tell you that I cannot have an orgasm with a condom on. They kill sensitivity and they kind of hurt. I can go until I drop or droop or both, but that takes the fun out of it. When I have had to use a condom I have always had to either get her to finish me orally or by hand or take matters into my own hand. At that point you just want relief. I really do hate to use condoms for that reason. Thank goodness I am married and don't have to use those awful things. Though they have their purpose. Sex is better sans rubber!
