Quote by AudriNichols
There is a fine line between sexy confidence and stupid arrogance (cockiness).

Scenerio:
You see a beautiful woman sitting alone at a table in a coffee shop. You want to approach her. If you decide to do it you have essentially two options:

A. Walk up to her and say, "Hi, my name is______. I saw you from across the room, and I wanted to introduce myself and take the chance that you might let me sit down and get to know you. Can I buy you anther cup and chat with you?"

B. Walk up to her and say "Hey baby, (insert cheesy pick up line). Let me buy you another?"

Scene A: You've given her your name. You admit you saw her, thought she is beautiful (without actually saying it), acknowledge that you are strangers, admit you are taking a chance by approaching her first. Being polite. Offering to buy her another drink. Asking a question, and inviting a favorable response, WITHOUT BEING CREEPY.

Scene B: Offers no information about yourself, doing nothing to put her at ease about being approached by a stranger, and are generally being a cocky, and a creep.

Women respond favorably to scene A over scene B nearly every time.
The Exceptions usually fall under 1 of 4 categories:

1. She's busy and in a hurry, not looking to chat with anyone.
2. She just got out of a relationship and isn't looking to meet anyone new.
3. She's a lesbian and not interested in men, no matter how polite you are.
4. She's already in a relationship with someone, and not looking to cheat.

If she says no, don't get all childish and butt hurt about it. Smile, say thanks anyway, and walk away. Don't pester her or make her feel bad. You won't win any non-creepy points by being pushy.

I agree with your scenario A over scenario B...But I personally would have stopped after saying Id like to introduce myself. You've already illustrated your confidence and willingness to put yourself out there....I feel that following up with the rest undoes the good work "the chance that you might let me sit down" ....eww :p. But that's just my personal style. If I could think of a funny situational opener, i'd probably start with that. It's the confidence/relevance that carries it off. If you've got humour on your side, use it.

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