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Is Fantasising the same as cheating?

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Fantasies are innocent unless they become obsessive, if you think of a specific person every time you’re with your significant other than I think you’re emotionally cheating

But everyone will fantasize at some point, doesn’t everyone dream about Tom Hardy in their bedroom?
browncoffee
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Lol no or else I'd be a serial adulterer.
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For me, Fantasizing is a thought....cheating would be the acting out of that fantasy without the knowledge of your partner in a deliberate attempt to deceive.
bill11
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No, cheating involves the action of doing. Fantasing is just dreaming
Nathan_Renly
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No.

And yet, with most partners, if they knew the details of the sexual scenarios most of us build in our minds, they'd likely have nothing to do with us.
lan
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I sometimes fantasise aloud to my wife who often gets off by listening and fingering. She enjoys hearing about women being embarrassed in public or some of the sex shows I've gone to or acts I'd like to watch,
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I sometimes fantasise aloud to my wife who often gets off by listening and fingering. She enjoys hearing about women being embarrassed in public or some of the sex shows I've gone to or acts I'd like to watch,


Heh, that's awesome!

In my last serious relationship, she'd fume if I even hinted about another woman taking time in my head. Guess that's why it didn't last.
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if it was classed as cheating, I'd be divorced well be for now lol
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I don't think so, fantasy is a normal part of mental functioning unless your a psycho lol.
In the world's harsh wear and tear many a very sincere attachment is slowly obliterated.


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Absolutely not. we all have fantasy. what we do with it is another story
69Kisses96
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My wife lost interest in sex some years ago. She just doesn't want to hear about it, so cheating is not relevant to situation.
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Not even close
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My dear Grandmother always told me, " It doesn't matter where you wet your appetite, IT'S WHERE YOU COME HOME TO EAT!!!"
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It it was, everyone on the planet would be cheaters.
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Fantasising is window shopping, cheating is shoplifting ?

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They aren't anywhere close to being the same thing
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No. Fantasies are just thoughts used to arouse. Cheating is the act, not the thought. And it means different things in different relationships. My wife and I have rules in our open relationship, and the number one rule is that we always tell one another about new potential lovers. For us, cheating would be having sex with someone and keeping it concealed from one another.
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A fantasy is using your imagination , how you use that whether to write or to get horny and share is your personal choice.
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To be literal...If you're a very religious person I would say yes and worse.

But also literally in general...NO

I personally not think someone should be upset, or think it's cheating,
if I think about having Robert Fuller, a German hunk, or Demi Moore between my thighs...smile


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No it's not...
Moderation is recommended thou
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Quote by ivanka_simkiewisz
To be literal...If you're a very religious person I would say yes and worse.



what does religion have to do with the price of beer in France?

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what does religion have to do with the price of beer in France?


Well I fantasize religiously.
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I would think not,everyone would be cheating.
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Quote by sprite


what does religion have to do with the price of beer in France?




Not really know anyone in France who is religious, not really ever talk about that, and not like French beer so much or know the Euro cost in Paris now.
Should be easy to look up though.

But even I know the Christian Bible says not to covet, to lust after or to long for with great desire,...to fantasize, and to relate it in direct context with this thread topic,
if you are dedicated to someone, but fantasize about another then you are committing adultery,...cheating, which is also a sin.
So as I basically said in my comment...anyone who is religious and take their Bible literally, may or should consider simple fantasizing about another as cheating.
Unless someone is fantasizing about an object and not a person. I not know about that...smile

However, I not feel such a radical view, only that someone asking this question would want an honest, correct, and complete answer, especially since this isn't a fun game thread.

Lucky I even saw this again. I not have my Lush (What You've Missed) option ever enabled...Just click my curiosity on my page sometimes.

Anyway...byebye...smile
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Quote by Misswillow
A fantasy is using your imagination , how you use that whether to write or to get horny and share is your personal choice.


Exactly. I could not stop fantasizing even if I wanted to. Why would I? An active fantasy life can enhance real-life relationships. No, it is not cheating.