I have been here for over two years. I have made many good friends, some I chat with here, and a select few I talk to on occasion else where............
My question is, why do some people talk real nice and decent the first few times, then all of a sudden, they just exsist, but do not reply to pleasantries of any sort....
Iknow some people do not like to be poked, so I am considerate of that, others have stated certain things on their profiles, and I respect those wishes.
I am an adult, so I can take honesty, maybe you want to have naughty chats, and are too shy to ask? Maybe you are here for serious chats, I am fine with that............
But to not answer when being asked if you would rather be left alone...........or not answering if askes if your busy.................and not deleting me even..................
whats up with that?
Do they add for numbers?
Just somethings I have noticed in my two years, and thought you wiser ones may have some ideas and inputs............
i'd say that they are:
1) away from the keyboard
2) busy doing something that they don't want/can't be be interrupted from
3) not interested anymore
4) simply miss your OM/black box (i assume that's what we're talking about?)
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
I think sprite made a good point.. Some people add friends just for numbers. If they don't reply at all it means it's time to move on.
There are times when I log in I'm bombarded with at least ten black boxes.
If I'm on my phone it is next to impossible to answer all of them. (I'm all thumbs and can't spell for shit on touch screen phones)
Sometimes I just don't have the time to answer back because I'm quickly checking in.
Other times I have to shut it down fast so I don't get caught. (This happens more than you think)
But my favourite reason why I don't answer? I have nothing to say. I literally spend all day being pleasant and making conversation with random strangers that all I want to do is relax and not talk/type anything to anyone. I just don't have it in me to bring up this facade of small talk. Nor do I want to cyber.
I do forget to answer PMs at times and it's a failing I should probably work on. But constantly being pressured to chit chat from people demanding your time, on a website designed to be fun and relaxing, makes me want to avoid it completely. I'm an anti-social freak. This is why I'm set to invisible. If I don't it's twenty times worse.
I still value and cherish the friendships I have but most of my friends know what I'm like, and if they don't then maybe they don't care or they're anti-social like I am.
I wouldn't take it personally. But if you do, then remove them from your friends list.
I think we all have accepted a friends request and for whatever the reason it never goes any further than that.
I am not a friends collector and if neither of us care enough to contact the other I figure I am not the right person for that guy/gal.
Cleaning friends out of the house once in a while is not a bad thing.
However I have made some wonderful friends that I talk to everyday.
I think people are here for all different things.
1. Some just read.
2. Some just write stories
3. Some have cyber sex
4. Some want just regular chatting
5. Some don't want any interaction
I like to talk to my friends or exchange pictures on each others walls
I always ask people what they are looking for from me before I add them to my circle. I don't have cyber sex. So if that's what they are looking for then probably not a good fit.
I have many, many Lush friend but probably only about 20 I really ever chat with. When I first joined lush I would basically add any woman who asked me and guys once I got to know them and they showed me they had more to offer than " I have a big cock", LOL. But I soon found out many of them were not interested in anything other than a quick cyberfuck or just padding their stats. I probably should weed a lot of them out but I just never got around to it.
When ever someone sends me a PM or Black Box I always try to answer them. But sometimes I log in and have so many black boxes it is hard to get to them all so some people will get priority. Even when I get a PM from a stranger, as long as they were respectful I will answer even if I am not really interested in adding them as a friend. But sometimes that can be misleading and give them the wrong idea.
I know sometimes I will send out a Black Box message and I don't always get a reply. I will assume the person was busy or just didn't see it. But if it happens repeatedly then I will assume they no longer want to be friends and leave it at that.
thanks for all the good replies. Makes me understand a little better I guess. altho I still think they shud just delete me, then I would know where they are at lol
Maybe I get a lil too atttached? heaven forbid lol
many on here do not lol
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