Hey everyone
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I'm a 27yo woman, recently single after being with the same man since just out of high school. I've been playing around with the dating scene for over the past year and is it just the men i've been seeing or do straight/bi men not enjoy kissing? I love a good make out sesh with hands touching everything within reach and legs rubbing & intertwining - like heated teasing before the foreplay - so it's thrown me off when I've gone to make out with someone and it's around 5-10 seconds before they stop and try go further.
What's the rush? Or is this the norm? My girlfriends are all in relationships/married so they're no help with this really and I don't have any close guy mates outside of those I'm related to. The answers from 2 of the men i dated (after we became just friends) were:
- "I dont enjoy kissing, I do it for the girl."
- "enjoy kissing? are you 16?"
Would love someone elses input.
I love kissing and making out, myself. It doesn't need to be foreplay even if often ends up there if you go at it long enough. I don't get guys like you describe who don't. Perhaps they are just in it for the sex and don't want to engage in what they see as "romance"? Too much porn? Not sure. Doesn't fit my experience in any case.
I absolutely love kissing and making out. Kissing for me is incredibly intimate, to the point where I really don't like being casually kissed or meaninglessly kissed (e.g. New Years Eve.) If you kiss me you better fucking mean it! Presuming these guys are approximately the same age as the OP I find their responses rather indicative of immature boys with intimacy issues. I suspect for a lot of guys its about making the score and everything else is just distraction. Sad.
Kissing a woman is so very Awesome. Everywhere is great. Her cheeks; lips; neck; ears; shoulders; breasts; arms; hands & down & down. Women are SO very soft & Kissable. If they have real pretty feet I will even kiss them & suck her Toes. OOOooooo so sensual*
Kissing and making out is totally tubular. That means I like it a lot. It's a great indication of how intimate the couple is.
Hello badgaldidi
Welcome to the forums. I can’t speak for other men, but me personally, I love kissing. There is nothing better than to hold a lady in my arms while feeling her closeness, touch, smell and hearing her soft voice whispering her appreciation. When this happens, the warm feeling of intimacy is beyond belief. There is nothing like it. Whether or not this leads to sex after a prolonged length of time, and I’m not talking about only 5 – 10 seconds, doesn’t matter. In some ways, this can be as pleasant as the act itself.
I think Seeker made a valid point when he said, ‘Perhaps they are just in it for the sex and don't want to engage in what they see as "romance"?’ Think about what the guy in your first example was really saying when he replied, ‘I dont enjoy kissing, I do it for the girl.’ What he meant was that he doesn’t care about you or your wishes and feelings. The only thing that is important to him is his desires and how soon can he get you into bed. When he gets what he wants, he’ll be gone. Romance and true intimacy takes time and effort, and guys like that are not willing to make even the smallest investment in either one. They never have been, and they never will be. Quite frankly, you are better off with having him as ‘just a friend’.
You asked, ‘Or is this the norm?’ I have no idea whether it is or not, so I can’t answer that, though I’d hope it wasn’t. Surely there must be a few of us around that get our pleasure from pleasing our companion.
I know, I’ve probably been reading way too many romance novels, and I’ll admit, I’m just a romantic nut, but I wanted you to know how I felt. I can only hope that what I’ve said along with the previous posters will give you some guidelines to think about.
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My advise if they don’t enjoy kissing, you need to RUN!
Even my FWBs have to enjoy kissing! If a guy isn't into kissing, he isn't into intimacy, and I could never share myself with him. Go for the kissers is my advice! :-)
I can’t speak for every man out there but I can say that I enjoy making out and simply can’t get enough of it. Going at it for hours with kisses and nibbles until our lips tingle like we’ve been eating spicy food is something I’m almost always in the mood for.
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Definitely important here! An have been told my entire life, I happen to do it well.... )
I adore it. I little bit of warmth and pressure. Innocently grinding up against somebody. Stoking the potentiality of something more.
What's not to love?
I've never had much trouble with getting men to kiss and cuddle, what some of them tend to do is rush on to the next step before I am ready.
Of course we do! Such an intimate act that without which, not much of anything else is going to happen. A very long, wet, and sensuous is magic.
Kissing is the ultimate way to keep the fire lit in a relationship. Compatibility kissing is a must.
I love kissing. I don't think there is anything better,....well short of sex,... but wow. That's getting personal in a real way. Because if someone doesn't like oyu, they will not let you kiss them.
guys not down for a fun, hot and flirty/dirty makeout session - that don't always end in sex - are a HUGE no for me. kissing and fondling is one of my favorite past times?
A straight answer from me would be, this man certainly enjoys kissing. It doesn't /shouldn't be seen as only as a prelude to sex. It is a stand alone gesture of affection, a reaffirmation of love. When it comes to sex kissing should be the beginning, the middle and the end. Always the end, golden rule.
I think kissing is extremely important and with the right person is very enjoyable. For me it's a litmus test, for compatibility, passion, and desire. One of the best forms of communication too.
I love kissing. I love make out sessions.
I'm guessing most men do.
No idea what type of guys you were going out with but for me kissing is the number one intimate thing that starts and ends any other sexual activity. I can't imagine kissing for a few seconds and then immediately moving on to something else. I love "making out" with lots of kissing, touching groping, rubbing, etc. Can't imagine having sex without this.
