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They say that cuckold marriages are the most loving and best marriages. What do wives love the most about being married to a cuckold?
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I'd say that it's the fact that he loves me enough to share me!
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What Barb said 
we have never been closer as a couple
we have never been closer as a couple 
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The whole concept intrigues me greatly. Does the man get off on seeing his wife with another man, or the humiliation of the act. I’ve had boyfriends who have asked about previous partners, who was the best, the biggest, who made me cum. And it surprised me how turned they got when I answered, wanting to know the details. Is it insecurity or a desire to be dominated ?
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The whole concept intrigues me greatly. Does the man get off on seeing his wife with another man, or the humiliation of the act. I’ve had boyfriends who have asked about previous partners, who was the best, the biggest, who made me cum. And it surprised me how turned they got when I answered, wanting to know the details. Is it insecurity or a desire to be dominated ?
In our relationship at least there isn't any humiliation, none that has surfaced anyway. I know he gets off on having what others want and, I'm sure in some cases wanting what others have. We don't try and get totally into each others heads, but rather enjoy each other without a lot of judgement. I think some people just can't be happy until they can find an explanation for everything. But how does explaining the taste of a great wine add to its enjoyment, or understanding how lilacs smell the way they do, add anything to enjoying them?
Accept excitement, enjoyment, love and lust as things to, not understand fully but to savor.
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I’m not judging, I’m just curious
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I had a good mate who used to get off on the fact his wife had numerous lovers including me they where together for over 40 years without it causing problems
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I see Ls63563's point, but I think there is nothing wrong about trying to understand our desires. I personally have this fantasy as a male. I am also not fully clear about it but will try to answer.
There are many flavors to it, so the answer will vary for different persons. For me, both the desire to be dominated and insecurity are there. I like the humiliation aspect to which many are distanced. I experience strong emotions like jealousy, by admitting my partner enjoyed (or is enjoying, or will enjoy) someone else, preferably a sexually superior person. Superiority will both help me feel more jealous and give more pleasure to my partner. I empathize with my partner's pleasure, so higher her pleasure, higher mine.
It is quite complicated, so it is hard to define it thoroughly. However, I can try to answer more specific questions, if you have.
There is of course the famous theory of "sperm competition". You may find some info in the internet about it.
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The whole concept intrigues me greatly. Does the man get off on seeing his wife with another man, or the humiliation of the act. I’ve had boyfriends who have asked about previous partners, who was the best, the biggest, who made me cum. And it surprised me how turned they got when I answered, wanting to know the details. Is it insecurity or a desire to be dominated ?
There are many flavors to it, so the answer will vary for different persons. For me, both the desire to be dominated and insecurity are there. I like the humiliation aspect to which many are distanced. I experience strong emotions like jealousy, by admitting my partner enjoyed (or is enjoying, or will enjoy) someone else, preferably a sexually superior person. Superiority will both help me feel more jealous and give more pleasure to my partner. I empathize with my partner's pleasure, so higher her pleasure, higher mine.
It is quite complicated, so it is hard to define it thoroughly. However, I can try to answer more specific questions, if you have.
There is of course the famous theory of "sperm competition". You may find some info in the internet about it.
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I believe its about more sexuality than anything. Take me for example I love sex. I've played or done just about everything sexually possible. It's not about being of one way or the other. It's about the pleasure of all the worlds.. the taste for the forbidden fruit.
The taste of lust. The taste of visual porn. The taste of love. The taste of power. The taste of adventure. It's all one package in one.
The taste of lust. The taste of visual porn. The taste of love. The taste of power. The taste of adventure. It's all one package in one.
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I am intrigued by it. I have a friend who enjoys "cuckolds". Her husband sits and watches and listens to them as he masturbates. She gets as much pleasure from seeing him masturbating as she does from her partners cock which has to be larger than her husbands.
I am not married so not qualified to comment on a 'cuckold' relationship. All my relationships are in an open FWB group. Cuckolding is not a feature of the relationships.
I am not married so not qualified to comment on a 'cuckold' relationship. All my relationships are in an open FWB group. Cuckolding is not a feature of the relationships.
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I do not see marriage as a requirement for understanding or participating in a cuckhold encounter or relationship. Your intrigue could serve you well in gaining a better understanding, should you care to further explore the matter. An open mind is such a beautiful place!
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"I do not see marriage as a requirement for understanding or participating in a cuckhold encounter or relationship. Your intrigue could serve you well in gaining a better understanding, should you care to further explore the matter. An open mind is such a beautiful place!"
the key element is that you have to be in a "emotional relationship" to really understand the dynamics of cuckolding
the key element is that you have to be in a "emotional relationship" to really understand the dynamics of cuckolding
For wife and I there is soo much to cuckolding. About us to help set the back story.. We 40/41 and have been together since Highschool(1996) and married since( 2003). I've always been and still am loving, sweet, respectful, giving her anything/rarely saying no. Guess you can say the stereotypical "nice guy". She from day one was a beautiful shy princess with an innocent image. She was and still is self conscious about being judged and what others think about her. I've been very sexual and kinky since we started dating and she was not adventurous or anything. We would have sex like crazy but it was standard stuff. I had no idea what she really wanted /needed, she was too nervous to ever tell me. I was all about pleasing her, always putting her 1st no matter what.
I started to fantasy about her with another guy, maybe he can give her something I can't, especially since in my mind I was only the 2nd dick she ever had(was not the case I much later found out). She thought I only wanted it as a way to get another girl. I think this is the #1 thing that women think when I guy brings this subject up. Often they can't understand why a bf/husband would want his girl with another guy and that's it.
Fast forward to current day.. she loves the control and power of cuckolding me, I love it too. We are madly inlove and respectful about it.. Family comes 1st. Well there has been times I would take care of Family responsibilities as she is with a guy getting dominated. Everything from her physically teasing me, to verbal and written stories both true and fantasy. She knows what gets me off and I know what she wants/needs and encourage her.
Sorry I rambled one..was all over the place.
I started to fantasy about her with another guy, maybe he can give her something I can't, especially since in my mind I was only the 2nd dick she ever had(was not the case I much later found out). She thought I only wanted it as a way to get another girl. I think this is the #1 thing that women think when I guy brings this subject up. Often they can't understand why a bf/husband would want his girl with another guy and that's it.
Fast forward to current day.. she loves the control and power of cuckolding me, I love it too. We are madly inlove and respectful about it.. Family comes 1st. Well there has been times I would take care of Family responsibilities as she is with a guy getting dominated. Everything from her physically teasing me, to verbal and written stories both true and fantasy. She knows what gets me off and I know what she wants/needs and encourage her.
Sorry I rambled one..was all over the place.
When it first happened to me, I was pretty upset about it, but also turned on. I needed some time to come to terms with the idea. But the thought of my wife with someone else was a real turn on and it became good for our marriage. It can become dangerous when she meets someone who try’s to take her away. That nearly happened. I didn’t mind her going off with someone and for a time our marriage was open. She strayed, I stayed. Never minded “sloppy seconds”
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We have been in lifestyle soon 6 years and last few with regular boyfriend of hers. I can honestly say that if its open discussion athmosphere then there is more love than vanilla relationship. As a husband I feel more love to her and somehow and sometimes looking from 'outside' is the way that you do not feel her as granted. She is also happyy to get best sex and it shows in our marriage
Rainbow Warrior
My boyfriend and I have been together 18 years. He's shared me with other guys (and other girls) since we got together. I don't consider him a cuckold. I consider him generous and confident in my love for him. There's no humiliation involved, and I share him with other women too, and I don't feel humiliated or jealous in the least. There needs to be another term for this besides cuckold.
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Although I enjoy watching my wife with another man I am definitely NOT a cuckhold as I always get involved to enhance my wife's pleasure. I also enjoy being the other man while the husband watches me with his wife so with us it's the swinging lifestyle. All I can say that for me it's the erotic image of watching my wife being sexually pleasured before and during me taking part. It satisfies both her exhibitionism and my voyeurism.
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I love my wife, and feel bad that I was jealous at first but it really turns me on with my wife and men exchange pics or even when I see her flirting. I would love to watch her have sex with someone else but I would probably not really participate. I think sex is a natural honest thing, and realizing thar sge would leave me if she had sex is evidence of how strong our relationship is, not a factor.
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Beffer, isn't the other term your looking for called "swinging"? Or is that too old fashioned, like me?
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Beffer, isn't the other term your looking for called "swinging"? Or is that too old fashioned, like me?
I don't know whether you are old fashioned or not, but the word 'cuckold' implies an element of derision. It's definitely not the same thing as 'sharing' or indeed 'swinging'.
I have been the unwilling, unknowing cuckold in both of the long term relationships I have had in my long life. The first was a marriage that ended as a disaster for all involved. The second ended when she died. It was then that I found her burner phone, lube, rubbers, and complete changes of clothes in her car. While the first ended in a disaster, the second was more devastating, as there was never closure.
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More dudes need to make their wife watch them have sex with her wedding bridesmaids.
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My boyfriend and I have been together 18 years. He's shared me with other guys (and other girls) since we got together. I don't consider him a cuckold. I consider him generous and confident in my love for him. There's no humiliation involved, and I share him with other women too, and I don't feel humiliated or jealous in the least. There needs to be another term for this besides cuckold.
There is a better term. I learned it about 4 months ago. Stag and Vixen.
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It is really enjoying performing and being watched.
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Quote by sweetjenny
The whole concept intrigues me greatly. Does the man get off on seeing his wife with another man, or the humiliation of the act. I’ve had boyfriends who have asked about previous partners, who was the best, the biggest, who made me cum. And it surprised me how turned they got when I answered, wanting to know the details. Is it insecurity or a desire to be dominated ?
Or just the confidence and pleasure to see his loved one receive pleasure by any means
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Quote by sweetjenny
The whole concept intrigues me greatly. Does the man get off on seeing his wife with another man, or the humiliation of the act. I’ve had boyfriends who have asked about previous partners, who was the best, the biggest, who made me cum. And it surprised me how turned they got when I answered, wanting to know the details. Is it insecurity or a desire to be dominated ?
I think there is a spectrum to this. I can relate to some reasons, but not all.
a) For some men, and this may well be the strict definition of cuckold, they get some kind of thrill from the humiliation. There is some kind of juice from the jealousy as well. I can't relate to that at all. I find no arousal in such a thing, but some do, and I don't judge.
b) Other men, simply want to see their wife pleasured, and they are being generous to her out of love. It's not insecure at all.
c) Another category, and these can overlap, is when a husband wants to experience their wives' sexuality more fully, in addition to being with her directly, watching her in the throes of passion with someone else. When it is just the two of you, you can't see the whole act of sex, and her, as well as when you are there and someone else is doing it. I can see how it would be a huge turn-on to see my wife like that... Sex is most exciting when people sort of abandon themselves to it, and to watch your wife like that is a way of knowing her better - and it's fucking hot.
d) There's a little involved and a sense of freedom in breaking it. Maybe that is factor for some, but probably not everybody.
e) Some couples have been together a long time and it's a way to spice things up.
It makes sense to me that all these things can be intimacy enhancing for a couple. There is a lot of acceptance of each other as you are. However, if one partner is pushing for it, and the other is not on board, then it goes the other way and hurts intimacy.
I personally have never done this. My wife and I have talked about it, and at this point, we are both ambivalent. If we did it, it would be for reasons b and c, maybe d and e, but not a. She would want me to be dominant. Not as in being sexual with the guy, but in being in charge of the whole scene, guiding him, telling him what to do, and participating in pleasuring her.