If she suggested we meet at some bar for a drink or I happen to know she runs to a bar every night to pick up some guy for a one night stand, then no, I would have no interest in her at all. I don’t care how pretty or sexy she is. I want someone that sets a higher standard than that, and would hold me to the same level.
As a few other readers have mentioned, there may be several reasons she has been abstinent for a long period, and I’m sure whatever reason she had would be a valid one. For that reason alone, it would be important to me and I’d respect it, however, even knowing that, wouldn’t stop me from being interested in her. I guess this is where I differ from some guys, not all by any means, but some. When I look at a woman, I see a living, breathing human being with the same wants, desires, hopes, fears and dreams I have, and not simply as a sex object that I can use for my pleasure and then discard.
Your second question was, ‘Would she be too hard to date?’ I’m not sure what you are trying to ask here, because I don’t see how her not having been in bed with someone for a long period, would make her any harder to date. It seems to me if we like each other and have a few things in common, then our dates will be fun and exciting. If we can’t agree on anything, then our first, and probably last date, will be a disaster, however, that has nothing to do with her sexual activity.
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Ok, to start with I prefer some connection with my partners and believe that her decision to refrain from sex wouldn't, in the beginning, be a concern. You didn't say whether it was by choice or not. Could be medical and that is no longer an issue. Could be emotional and she is now in a place where she can move on. You also didn't say whether she was now willing to change her decision. I do not believe the length of time she has been celibate would matter because, if the time was right for her to begin again then I am sure together, we could ease her back into it. [B] If you are saying that she has not changed her mind then I believe it would have to depend on the connection we could establish. If the ultimate question is can you see yourself in a relationship without sex then I would just say, being with someone that makes you feel special and not having sex is still 10 times better than being alone at night and not having sex.[/B]
While sex is great and wonderful, it is not the ‘end all be all’, some people seem to think it is. Personally, I feel sorry for those that think that way because when it comes down to the nitty gritty, if something happens to the sex part of their relationship, they have nothing left. That is why I think that GabrielSweet summed it up perfectly in the part of his remark that I’ve highlighted and I couldn’t agree more strongly.
Now, IAmLove, I like that name by the way, I have a question for you. Before I say anything else, want to apologize if I’m jumping to conclusions and reading more into your questions then what is there. When I read your original post, the thought occurred to me that maybe there was more here than a simple curiosity to see how men would react to a lady that was in that situation. Perhaps there’s a more personal reason for wanting to know. In any case, I hope between all our responses, you get the answer you are looking for. Again, if I’m overstepping the bounds of decency, please forgive me, and tell me to mind my own business. I certainly meant no disrespect to you.
Yes, of course! In fact if I found her attractive it would enhance the appeal, I think. Oh, and it might increase the challenge too.
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