I try to chat with women and it seems like nobody ever wants to, just wondering what I am doing wrong
If you open random chat boxes, some folk (yes, even men) don't like that. It might be better sending a PM, then the person can decide when to reply, or if they do at all.
Hi, I don't think it has to be something you are doing 'wrong'.
The gals in here just get LOTS of attention (don't we?)
There are twice as much males then females in here.
For myself; Many times I'm not into chatting, or just for a short time.
Also I dislike to have more then 1 chat at a time, so if I have a chat and another friend pokes/ messages me, I will tell them Im having a chat already.
And besides that, I have very few friends who I really want to chat with for longer time and only one where I chat very regular with.
I saw you are just new to Lush and dont have that many friends. It also just takes some time, and it might be handy to add some more friends so you can catch up with them more often.
Or maybe try to find some more friends from Europe, they have more similar timezones so they might be online more often when you are...
Have fun!
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
Just walk in a chat room, and say "Hey! Any womens want 2 pvt?"
The panties will IMMEDIATELY drop
Sources: Me (Trust me, I have a vagina)
No...but in all seriousness, just strike up a conversation. Just a simple "Hello, how are you?" or something along those lines will just about do it. Most women here are at the very least civil, and they'll have a conversation with you as long as you're not a jerk and respect boundaries. Don't just ask random women for private chats because most of us just find it annoying. The chat rooms are your best bet. The only ones who won't be receptive are the ones who are strictly here for pretend sexual relations with females, which is no loss for you, trust me. Don't try too hard. There are plenty of women here who would love to have a conversation with you, even if there all there is. The best way to do it is just go for it. You really can't go wrong unless you come on too strong to a woman who doesn't like that. If that's the case, she'll let you know. I'm sure you'll do fine.
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Many of the women here, including me, do not like to chat with anyone (man or woman) who randomly sends them a message out of the blue.
I think your best bet are chat rooms first. Once you get known by some of the women, they will be more willing to chat privately with you. And as long as you are respectful of them and don't come on to strong, I think you will be fine. Good Luck and Happy Lushing!
I was thinking about this... I've found that the people who've struck up a conversation and been most fun to chat to are ones who maybe send a pm or friend request after reading a story (me reading and commenting on theirs or vice versa) or maybe we've seen each other in the forums... Perhaps we have mutual friends and they've seen things I've posted on their wall or something...
In other words, if I have something in common with the person chatting, something beyond, hey...
I don't have too much free time here and I have to say I find it irritating if someone hits me up with things like: hey I'm horny, are those your breasts, I'm so hard, oh and text speak... It pisses me off from the get go...
I dislike the shotgun approach: where a user simply sends out loads of hits simply in the hope that someone will bite. It's like cold calling... I won't respond favourably to that.
I also suggest bumping into people on the forums. Members can learn some interesting things from forum posts. A member with no interaction and few posts to read can be off-putting to a lot of gals. But if you interact with them openly, and they like your posts and personality, chances are they will be much more receptive to chatting. Also as was pointed out by another member, a PM is often the better way of breaking the ice. Say hello, tell them a bit about yourself, why you were interested in them, etc. Heck, you don't even have to ask them to be your "friend" here... that can come later.
Once the initial ice is broken, I think you will find the "black box" a bit more acceptable, and heck, they may actually contact YOU that way if they like what they have seen so far.
As others have said... good luck!
Agreed. I am one of those women who very much appreciates a PM with some kind of introduction over any random poke or chat window request out of the blue. I think you will have better luck doing that especially with any woman with an ounce of substance. On the flip side, chat rooms are indeed a valid option (not my thing but I know it works for many on here). But as said already, respect is important and should be exercised at all times. Good luck!
That little thing called your profile is an amazing tool when used properly. Fill it in.
We don't need a novel, but take a look around at a few of the members profiles to get a feel for it.
We don't want to do all the work when you start off with "Hey! How's it going?"
I've got a one word answer for that. "Fine." That's if I even answer it. I know I'm going to have to pull teeth to get this conversation started.
Now it's dead air. Nothing. This is when it becomes awkward. A conversation should flow smoothly. It shouldn't be hard work.
Now unless I ask a question back (and sometimes I'm just not in the mood for it) the beginning of the conversation has ended.
Or I might not know the person asking the question well enough to ask them a question.
You started the conversation... Now make it interesting.
Find something in common to discuss. Maybe a note about a story they've written if they're an author or a comment about their blog post.
Maybe their choice in music, if they've put together a playlist. Or like someone said before, interacted with them in the forums.
The tools are their for you... Now implement them.
Lots of good advice here. Profiles...read the person's you want to talk to in the chatroom and try to find something in common. Make sure yours is filled out and interesting. Use something in the profile or maybe a story they've written as a conversation starter. On no account send random requests..they're irritating. Don't say hello to every girl in the chatroom hoping to get a reply. When you've started a conversation with someone, keep it up. Don't leave without saying goodbye, just like in real life. No text speak. Good luck.
" I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer"
Woody Allen
Be polite, articulate, subtly flirtatious but not overtly sexual. Most importantly, try to inject a bit of intelligent humour to your opening gambit. Then let the fun begin!
2 words: forum posts. Participate in the various fora.
The thre short sentences in your profile tell me nothing that would make you of interest. Tell us why you are special and why we would be missing something if we did not respond.
Anika