I learned about sex very young, but I didn't learn until too late how much shame our repressive society attaches to sexual freedom and openness. It got me into a lot of trouble early on, but it ultimately led me to the point where I just don't give a damn anymore what people think. I paid the price. I'm free to be me now!
Like Beth I was very young when I was learning about the birds and the bees. Much of my sexual education was self taught or from experience.- some good some bad.
The one thing nobody told me was that sex with another girl was an amazing experience.
It took another girl to show me this, much later in life than I now wished. This changed my whole life and I have never looked back since. I am and have been bisexual since that day.
No one told me anything about sex! It has been a long, slow process learning. Glad to finally figure things out (well, until something new comes along that I don't know about...)
Quote by AbiGreenEyes How painful it is the first time
This. It also would have been nice to know that some men don't give a shit that it hurts that first time. They just want to fuck and enjoy themselves and to hell with what you're feeling.
I don't know if it's exactly fit in here but I wanna tell that till high school I didn't know that pee hole and vagina are different.... It was my first gf who told me and made me feel about....
Coming from a repressive background and growing up in a sexist environment, sex was presented to me as some sort of socially disastrous minefield. I wish through all that gloom and doom I had guessed at the sheer joyful expression of sexuality...but over time I learned....
Some are mind-blowing. Some are just okay. But the latter isn't always an indicator that something's gone wrong.
I'll QUOTE this one 'cos SHE already KNOWS I'm a FLY-BE-NIGHT...
Male orgasms ARE ALWAYS THE SAME!!!
Women's aren't... It's why we ask, "Erm... DID YOU?" BECAUSE MEN DON'T KNOW! (Unless you're tearing the fucking wallpaper off and screaming 'DON'T STOP YOU FUCKING BASTARD!!!"
And MEN ALWAYS ASK!!!
"Did you, erm...?"
"Yes!"
"I didn't... I couldn't tell... You were kind of quiet," I mean you didn't..."
"I was fine!"
"But... I mean... You kind of grunted, but I thought that was because I'd finished?"
"No! I came! It's good!!!"
"But the last time you came you cursed and shouted and called me by your ex-boyfriend's name?"
"Fuck This, I'm becoming a LESBIAN!!!"
xx SF
Okay, ALL JOKING ASIDE... I'll tell you THE ONE REAL THING I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE I WENT UNDER THE BLANKET WITH HER!!!
Nobody TELLS boys...
BOYS finger at that point like they are trying to coax free food out of a fucking vending machine. THE FINGERS GO DEEP AND THE DEEPER WE WENT THE BETTER WE THOUGHT WE WERE DOING!!!
(We weren't!!!)
Me being ME, I asked? (After about four fucking months!!!) She said, AND I QUOTE, "I like it when you touch the top..."
(So, here's me wrist-deep in A VIRGIN when what she really needs is a twizzle just under the awning???)
I'll QUOTE this one 'cos SHE already KNOWS I'm a FLY-BE-NIGHT...
Male orgasms ARE ALWAYS THE SAME!!!
Women's aren't... It's why we ask, "Erm... DID YOU?" BECAUSE MEN DON'T KNOW! (Unless you're tearing the fucking wallpaper off and screaming 'DON'T STOP YOU FUCKING BASTARD!!!"
And MEN ALWAYS ASK!!!
"Did you, erm...?"
"Yes!"
"I didn't... I couldn't tell... You were kind of quiet," I mean you didn't..."
"I was fine!"
"But... I mean... You kind of grunted, but I thought that was because I'd finished?"
"No! I came! It's good!!!"
"But the last time you came you cursed and shouted and called me by your ex-boyfriend's name?"
"Fuck This, I'm becoming a LESBIAN!!!"
xx SF
Okay, ALL JOKING ASIDE... I'll tell you THE ONE REAL THING I WISH I'D KNOWN BEFORE I WENT UNDER THE BLANKET WITH HER!!!
Nobody TELLS boys...
BOYS finger at that point like they are trying to coax free food out of a fucking vending machine. THE FINGERS GO DEEP AND THE DEEPER WE WENT THE BETTER WE THOUGHT WE WERE DOING!!!
(We weren't!!!)
Me being ME, I asked? (After about four fucking months!!!) She said, AND I QUOTE, "I like it when you touch the top..."
(So, here's me wrist-deep in A VIRGIN when what she really needs is a twizzle just under the awning???)
But I learned... EVENTUALLY!!!
xx SF
LOL. My original statement was in reference to the fact that I, too always thought that orgasms were supposed to be huge and dramatic.
When I have an orgasm, it's always amazing. Some are just better than others.
I have mellow ones, and then I have ones that make me damn near claw the skin off his scalp. They vary.
I just haven't always understood that orgasms come in different flavors. That's caused me to have unrealistic expectations of past partners, and question my own performance and prowess.
In the past, I used to always think that if I'm not kicking and screaming, then one or both of us isn't doing something right. And it made me extremely insecure.
I'm just glad that presently, I'm more in tune with my body, and that I understand and appreciate different levels of satisfaction.
Quote by AbiGreenEyes How painful it is the first time
Oh God!!! (ANOTHER GIRL said that TOO!!!)
That was SOOOOOO not my experience!!!
I was always AT LEAST AS TERRIFIED AS SHE WAS with my first few!!! (I'm serious...) I'm talking VIRGINS and I'm talking VERY EARLY DAYS!!!
But MY GOD I never hurt anyone, and, (seriously, ask around) I'm not a Q-Tip... BUT REALLY HONESTLY, I NEVER got THAT!!! (I never got ouches or bleeding OR ANY OF THAT!!!)
I was NEVER very pushy so we always took it at HER pace...
If one of my early ones had 'ouched' in the moment I would have LEAPED out of bed in HORROR!!!
(My DEFLOWERING days are behind me... Some years ago, in a situation that sounds weirder than it was, I found myself in a THANG with a virgin. Everything else had HAPPENED and I KNEW there was no real problem... But when she confessed she was UNTAKEN I just couldn't... We BOTH knew it was a FLING... And she SERIOUSLY asked... I JUST COULDN'T. (And MY JESUS how I wanted to!!!) But no. (It wasn't RIGHT!)
1) That not all men understand the term "Ladies First" nor do they care if you actually cum or not.
2) That the thrill of the first time won't carry over into the 2nd time if he doesn't make sure to follow rule #1
LOL. My original statement was in reference to the fact that I, too always thought that orgasms were supposed to be huge and dramatic.
When I have an orgasm, it's always amazing. Some are just better than others.
I have mellow ones, and then I have ones that make me damn near claw the skin off his scalp. They vary.
I just haven't always understood that orgasms come in different flavors. That's caused me to have unrealistic expectations of past partners, and question my own performance and prowess.
In the past, I used to always think that if I'm not kicking and screaming, then one or both of us isn't doing something right. And it made me extremely insecure.
I'm just glad that presently, I'm more in tune with my body, and that I understand and appreciate different levels of satisfaction.
I ABSOLUTELY KNOW THIS IS THE WRONG RESPONSE BUT...
(JESUS I'D TEAR YOUR PANTS OFF RIGHT THIS SECOND!!!)
(Try something like THIS: (Panting and BLINKING furiously) : "Oh My God, STALLION, I've never had it like that before!!! I was like A TINY PONY and then you SWEPT onto me like a WINGED PEGASUS MYTHICAL HORSE and RODE your little girl and OH MY GOD I CAME SO MUCH!!!")
Fucking LIE to us.
We're MEN!!!
It's what we know you do!!!
WE get to BELIEVE IT!!!
(YOU get lingerie and flowers and breakfast in your lazy whore bed...)
xx SF
DANI and SPRITE: "Oh My God you really think we could do THAT???"
Quote by BethanyFrasier I learned about sex very young, but I didn't learn until too late how much shame our repressive society attaches to sexual freedom and openness. It got me into a lot of trouble early on, but it ultimately led me to the point where I just don't give a damn anymore what people think. I paid the price. I'm free to be me now!
Well, for me it was opposite. I was trained to believe sex was just for marriage. Sooo, I gave up my V card on my honey moon and discovered contraception the hard way. I got pregnant on that honeymoon. I loved sex from the first time and that desire grew and grew. Mean while, we have discovered the pleasures of open sex. I believe your sexuality belongs to you and is shared with your significant other or...
Quote by NymphWriter 1) That not all men understand the term "Ladies First" nor do they care if you actually cum or not.
2) That the thrill of the first time won't carry over into the 2nd time if he doesn't make sure to follow rule #1
I so agree. Guys are clueless many times. I should have rule one tattooed on my ass.
You mean... like the way some men lie to us? You know... that lie about how big they dick is or how long they can last. Besides... you men choose to believe our lies. A real man doesn't need a woman to lie to him... he knows when he's made a woman cum and cum hard.
You mean... like the way some men lie to us? You know... that lie about how big they dick is or how long they can last. Besides... you men choose to believe our lies. A real man doesn't need a woman to lie to him... he knows when he's made a woman cum and cum hard.
I wish I had learned years ago that sex comes in all different colors. Words, scents, actions, locations, emotions, the list goes on and on. Sex is not black and white.