It can be somewhat flattering, but in reality, the guys who are looking to take a girl home aren't really worth the time because they almost always turn out to be creepy weirdos or self-centered jerks who are no good in bed anyway. I mean let's just be real here, in most cases, if they were really quality guys (in bed or otherwise) they wouldn't be hanging out in a bar desperately trying to find a girl to sleep with..they'd already have that area covered
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Do you like to be solicited for casual sex by strangers in bars?
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Depends entirely on the circumstances and whether I've gone looking to be solicited or not. Also depends on the bar, some bars definitely have a clientele where many of the very sensible complaints of arrogance etc mentioned above don't seem to be true. Yes it can be annoying but right time, right place, right mood it can be oh so wonderful.
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Yes and no. If they are blunt louts, then I say no. If they are more gentlemanly about it (& buying me a few beers and talking first helps) then I usually never say no.
Yep, i mean this. If the guy is willing to put a bit effort in then thats better than thinking he can get you by clicking his fingers.
Now casual sex at a house party is waaaaayyy different! You have somewhere to go (a bedroom/bathroom/whatever), and usually safer than being out on the streets
Yes MMonroe! Quite true!
Of course, I have met guys at bars and afterwards have gone to house parties with them and once there ended up having lots of casual sex…. For the most part, it has been wonderful!
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Depends entirely on the circumstances and whether I've gone looking to be solicited or not. Also depends on the bar, some bars definitely have a clientele where many of the very sensible complaints of arrogance etc mentioned above don't seem to be true. Yes it can be annoying but right time, right place, right mood it can be oh so wonderful.
Yes it can be oh so wonderful Sally Anne!
I usually go to a select few bars in town, and the majority of the guys who do chat me up are real and have a gentlemanly demeanor. They may be raging horndogs in the end, but they go about getting me in all the right ways.
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Not at all. I think its lame lol try and have a conversation with me first and even then I wont be going home with you.
No.
I do not.
I can't see why I would. I know that some people do, but to me... ick.
That's not to say that I'm against casual sex. I met the love of my existence through what could have been a one-night stand. We've only seen the other dude a couple of times since then, but that's okay. His (slightly creepy) enthusiasm was the catalyst for a relationship, but that was at a party, and not a bar. Also, I knew him a little, though ironically, I hardly knew she who would become my girlfriend at all then.
Cheers to those who find love or enjoyment that way, though.
I do not.
I can't see why I would. I know that some people do, but to me... ick.
That's not to say that I'm against casual sex. I met the love of my existence through what could have been a one-night stand. We've only seen the other dude a couple of times since then, but that's okay. His (slightly creepy) enthusiasm was the catalyst for a relationship, but that was at a party, and not a bar. Also, I knew him a little, though ironically, I hardly knew she who would become my girlfriend at all then.
Cheers to those who find love or enjoyment that way, though.
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In a fantasy world/porn film - the guy is hot, successful, amazing in bed, and its completely safe to wander off with him to god knows where without even exchanging numbers first.
In the real world - the kind of guys that solicite girls for sex are creepy, slimy, think they're gods gift and are most likely crap in bed. Oh, and they usually cant take no for an answer.
It would be nice if everyone could be that open about casual sex and not mind being asked for it that frankly but they're not, and i wouldnt go for a guy who just asked straight out, without even asking for a number first, no matter how hot/confident/rich he was. You dont know what you're getting and its not safe.
Basically, chat girls up all you want but ask for numbers, chat a bit, and be prepared for it to take a little longer than 'wanna fuck?'
MM I know what you say about jerks and creeps is true. I know about the dangers from disease and violence too. But giving him you phone number does not make it a lot safer.
I have met lots of guys and had good sex sometimes and not so great sometimes. Either case I have not lost much.
Either the good or the bad will be forgotten by morning at the latest.
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Depending on how they went about it, it would be flattering, I'll admit. But they're going to be disappointed, because I'd never say yes. That's not my style.
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I sure do, it's always so flattering. However, I abhor rudeness and cockiness! Make me laugg and you will have a pretty good shot with me 
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Not so much. I've had guys send me over drinks, and I've had guys straight up hit on me...never once have I even been tempted to give any of them what they were really after.
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I do this every Friday and Saturday night .. no takers so far .. sobs .. I even offer to buy the crisps and lemonade.
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Not so much. I've had guys send me over drinks, and I've had guys straight up hit on me...never once have I even been tempted to give any of them what they were really after.
you *mean* woman!
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buying tesco's lemonade and out of date crisps isn't the way to a girls heart, or other parts of her anatomy John.
You see thats my point ... if what she wants is expensive drinks and a slap up meal then clearly she isnt my type ...
... I am more for the low maintenance type of gal .. 
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I do this every Friday and Saturday night .. no takers so far .. sobs .. I even offer to buy the crisps and lemonade.
In theory, or Lush fantasy this sounds sexy. In reality, in my experience this has been about some drunk bloke working his way down the bar, asking every woman in sight (including 2 or 3 of my friends) before me. Not flattering or to be taken seriously.
Crisps and lemonade are actually quite tempting.... ;)
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In theory, or Lush fantasy this sounds sexy. In reality, in my experience this has been about some drunk bloke working his way down the bar, asking every woman in sight (including 2 or 3 of my friends) before me. Not flattering or to be taken seriously.
Crisps and lemonade are actually quite tempting.... ;)
ok you buy the crisps .. I will buy the lemonade
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That depends on how sexy she is!