When it becomes clear the relationship will end, go into seclusion writing a brute force or keylogger and a DOS program. When it ends, use the brute force, then hit the ex with the DOS. Using your new information, wreak havock. I have never done this (except writing the various programs) and therefore can't speak to it's perfect use. But be careful with this information. A few passwords is a dangerous thing
And I've only begun fucking with you people.
At the end of the day, it's all math.
I don't trash my ex husband even though I could because I could not sleep at night knowing I did that even though 26 years later he trashes me to every one he knows! For my son's sake I don't because he may want to have a relationship with his father one day and it would hurt him if i bad mouthed him he already know what his dad did to me so I don't want to push the hate anymore!
Believe in yourself and all things are possible
It's been 30 years I didn't and don't "trash talk" truth is not trash she screwed around on me simple as that. The sex EARLY in the marriage was good (never great she had way too many inhibitions) so if telling those truths is "trash talk" ok but I don't think so.
Despite everything that's happened, I'll do my best not to put my ex down - certainly never ever in front of the kids and I've made a HUGE effort to make sure that mutual friends and family continue to treat him with respect. I feel that's important as he will continue to be a part of my life, because of the children. I also know that it makes it easier for other people in our lives to deal with our split (that's obviously not my primary concern, but it does help, I think)
The down side is that he doesn't seem to be extending the same courtesy and some of our "friends" and his family have completely cut me off... My tendency is to withdraw in difficult situations and I think that people find that hard to understand.
I am finding it hard to just keep my mouth shut, but honestly, apart from perhaps persuading people who probably weren't as close as I thought, I just don't see the benefit in getting into it...
While my breakup years ago was painful and she did everything she could to hurt me. What I remember now is the good things we had.
I may not like the things she did, but I still have fond memories of our time together.
26 years gone, and part of me still loves her.
I may rant about WHAT she did, but never bad-mouth her purposefully.
Never have & never will.
Just not who I am
Trashing would be better than the indifference...
Its not to respectful to talk about one's ex on the internet...duh.
Dont do it! Your ex was yours at one time and wouldn't say much about the type of person you are.
I went through a difficult divorce and was quite hurt. To this day, my friends that witnessed my divorce ask me how come I don't talk bad about her. Well, talking bad about someone you loved at one time is like a poison. It poisons your attitude, it poisons your future relationships, and it poisons those around you. Now have I discussed my divorce to others? Yes, I've talked about what I perceive is unfair parts of the decree, but it in no way lead to trashing my Ex.
If someone starts trashing you, don't respond likewise either. Don't lower your self to where they are. Just let them make fools of themselves. Hold your head up high, and move on! The reward will come sooner or later. (My opinion) And if you are the first one to start doing the trashing, then you give your ex the high ground and that puts him in a better place than you.
"insensitive prick!" – Danielle Algo
Glad I'm on good terms with my exes. No dark clouds covering the memories. I understand that this is not always possible though.
=== Not ALL LIVES MATTER until BLACK LIVES MATTER ===
They are ex's for a reason. Reasons will guide you as to whether to trash or not to trash.
Now stick out your can for the garbage man.
I just can't trash talk about anyone. It's not how I want to be treated, so I can't in good conscious talk that way about my ex. She had some redeeming qualities so I let that be my guide. Burning bridges Is not my style.
Although being rude about your ex can feel therapeutic, and may be justified, it's a losing game. Expressing the anger feeds the remnant of the relationship, keeping it burning, but without a positive end in view. It stops you accepting your own role in the breakdown of the relationship too. Moving on means releasing yourself from that emotional connection and seeing yourself as independent.
I see no benefit on Trashing your Ex. What do I know I never had one. I dated lots of guys but they were casual dates and about sex. When we tired of each other we went in different directions.
There was one guy that would pop up at my door ever two or three years and we know it was real but we wanted different things. Well now we are married and I do not expect to have an ex anytime in the foreseeable future.
But if I do what is there to be gained by thrashing him. He may have had serious flaws and I was so anxious to have a husband the I overlooked them. Seems like that would reflect on me as much as on him.
I don't need to trash him anymore. He cheated on my when I was 4 months pregnant with his child and I hated him for so long, but now when he calls I am polite to him because he will never be a part of my sons life and I think it destroys him on the inside.
I don't know, I think that trashing one's ex would reflect poorly on oneself. My parents happily trashed each other to my brother and I (and my mother will still trash my father, twenty odd years on from the divorce) and it didn't create a lot of positive childhood memories of them for either of us.
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Neither of my exes would ever trash me, nor I them. We parted amicably. Sadly, but on mutually respectful terms.
I don't believe in trashing exes. After all, I liked or loved them enough to date them-it just didn't work out. I have to admit to being lucky-far as I know Ive never been cheated on. Are there things I would change-sure but they're between me and the relevant ex.
But it can be therapeutic to get things out of your system-so you can always try writing them down in a journal. I just console myself with the fact that they lost out on my awesomeness ;)
Once again I'll be in the minority, nothing new. All things are relative folks. MOST relationship break ups are such that I whole heartedly agree... there IS one EXTREME exception. I DO NOT see telling the plain and simple truth about someone who is a vicious abuser as being "trashing".
