Thank you Kite - for sharing your experience. You are incredibly brave. Your account also corrected some assumptions that I had - like I thought the needle biopsies go up the rectum, for example.

I am 57. At 53 I noticed my semen went suddenly from normal to just a few drops. Though my sex life had been tailing off anyway (once every month at most and no masturbation) I thought maybe this was the reason. Then a few months later I noticed some blood in the condom - not much - but still - a bit scary. It did clear but I went to the doctor and he said blood in semen is not that unusual - but only a problem if there are other symptoms. As for lack of semen - he said in middle aged men thats not uncommon either. He did not do a digital exam but sent me for a psa test - it came back normal.

My urine flow is just fine though it is a bit slower at night. However - because I know this is one of the main symptoms I am always watching for it - I can produce a flow that lands one metre in front of me when I have a full tank so if I see that change I will be going direct to the doctor. But I am planning a psa test shortly anyway as a precaution. I dropped all dairy products recently as I read that dairy can increase your risks of prostate problems, I have dropped red meat - I eat a good variety of fruit and veg and I also have diluted raw apple cider vinegar every day plus maintain a good BMI and try to keep fit. I feel I am doing everything I reasonably can to avoid prostate problems but appreciate it could still happen. There is no history on either side of my family though a scottish uncle did die of bladder cancer at 75 - though he drank heavily - maybe a connection.

I am sorry that you have had to go through this and once again thank you for your very detailed and helpful account. I really hope that you come through all your treatment successfully and live a long time.

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I wouldn't presume to tell you your own mind and what it really means, BUT I will say this:

There seems to be LOTS of men out there who fuck tgurls - love fucking tgurls - but insist they're straight.
I know this because I've met them and they make a point of saying it. I wonder if it's as much for their own benefit and reassurance rather than what I think cos let's face it.

If you're a man who likes fucking crossdressers / TV's / TS that means you like fucking chicks with dicks and if you like cock you are not 100% straight.
So what? Who cares? Your wife isn't going to find out and if she did she wouldn't believe you are straight after all. Try telling anyone you like girly cock and I think most people would say hmmmm perhaps your bi.

If you don't like cock, you don't fuck gurls with cocks. It's really that simple.
Conversely, if you do fuck gurls with cocks then you must like cock = bisexual.

I understand that you may not be attracted to men per se but if you're into guys dressed like girls then you got a bi side.
Accept it and enjoy it.

I realise tgurls have got other things going for them that can make them a much hotter fuck than wives and girlfriends. Not least because of how much we love it (often anyway). But the sluts amongst us will agree with me cos we know how much we love cock and cum. We don't hide it. A slut loves being a slut and dressing like a slut...and being called a slut.
So we're often hotter, hornier and sluttier than some women and men like that ALOT!

But it doesn't change the fact they fuck trannies and so need to embrace their bi side. Just deal with it. It's no big deal and no one needs to know.


All those tranny-fucking men out there who think being married etc makes them straight are floating in that great Egyptian river ...

DENIAL

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You want some boi pussy and you know it. Or, you just want to dress up and feel pretty and have to a real man ride you hard.

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You should try fucking a crossdresser. Then you'll know.

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What she said. I would add that D/S dynamics take trust, so I highly recommend that you get to know a potential play partner as a person independent of their kink before diving into that dynamic. In fact, I highly recommend having some closer-to-vanilla sex before anything that might fall under D/S occurs – that way you can get to know each other's bodies a little, before adding another layer to it.

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Wow, I didn't know you have to pay a contribution fee to get a book published. I learned something new today. Also yeah go to a self publishing or as you said Amazon.

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I think one of the main things is that separates good stories from bad stories is the differences in description.

I've read so many stories that begin with a cheesy description of a woman's appearance... Measurements? No story should ever list measurements!

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really? this was necessary? *rolls eyes* can't fucking wait until the apes finally take over, swear to god.

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I used to be pretty specific with my character descriptions - I wanted my readers to see the characters as I saw them. But after my fingers healed from sprite's breaking them, I started being more vague and nowadays I only put in descriptive details that really need to be in there. For example if the story centers around a woman with large breasts I will put in that she had 36DDD's or something.

So be vague and let the reader use their imagination...after all this is fantasy for us all!

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Rafael, I am recently a single Mom, you are not paying my bills. I probably have a better job than you. So stop stereotyping butt head
Now to the question.........I would never use a male escort but I can see the advantage to it. He would more likely to make it a positive experience than some horny school boy who prematurely ejaculated. That was my experience, in and out and left me with a mess.

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If it’s so bad why have you been with many?

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Have you been with an escort?

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You don't support single mothers? Wow, cold.

Look, I lost my virginity at 17, and she was 17... Did I know what I actually wanted at 17? no... I was a fucking moron back then and she thought I was smartest ever........ What does that tell you? How many people out there have friends that married their high-school sweethearts? Those people are miserable. You do not know of what you speak rafaell.

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I did not lose my virginity to an escort but to be honest, it's a pretty good way to lose it for young men. Most young men tend to lose their virginity to their first girlfriend so they have her bouncing around in their heads for quite a while afterwards because they probably loved her or thought they did. But with an escort they can kind of just get it out of the way. It's like the first time you get seriously hung over. It's like, "ohhhh that's what drinking too much is like". Young men can be like, "oh okay, pussy is cool, it's not smelly like I was led to believe. Titties are pretty neat. Ass, wow never thought about really spreading some cheeks but that was pretty awesome. Overall sex with this escort was eyeopening, 8 out of 10."

Plus giving an escort a couple bills is really helping out a single mother, I mean let's be real. So that's a good thing really.

In conclusion, I believe all young men should lose their virginity to a mid level escort. A 200 dollar an hour one. You don't want your first one to be too good... You got to Goldilocks that shit.

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Well, here's the 3 main benefits I think I'd get from the experience:

1. It would de-mystify sex for me
2. It would get the "monkey off my back" so I wouldn't feel branded as a virgin anymore
3. It would fulfill my fantasy of doing it with a beautiful woman

I'm certain not working under the illusion that it'll make me suddenly confident with girls or anything, I know it's not a magic bullet....but in short getting the whole "virgin!!11" thing out the way might help things?

Thanks for your answers so far!

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I was only referring to self esteem in the sense that one might feel less insecure about the mechanics, not how one values using an escort service. If one feels insecure about the purely physical part, then some practice might relieve them from that.

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I'd say that while average looks may not bring any advantage it should not be an issue either. The thing with average looks is that most people have them ;)

I can imagine that it may be easier to interact with women who have Asperger's too (correct me if I'm wrong) and perhaps there are groups/meetups for people with Asperger's or related issues in your region where some of these issues, that you feel are making it tough to engage women, may actually be something you share with some of the women there. There are more men then women with Asperger's of course, but perhaps it can work. Just a thought.

If being a virgin itself becomes part of either the depression or the fear of engaging women then an escort service might indeed be a good option to 'free' yourself from your virginity. But I guess it can only bring you some familiarity with the mechanics of it all, not the romantic aspect. But then again, perhaps that may enough for some boost in self esteem needed to engage women.

Good luck!

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I'm over 30 and have never done the deed.....thanks to Asperger's, depression and having average looks/body I find it tough to engage women in a romantic way. Added to that, neither my work, hobbies or (very limited) friend circle bring me anywhere where I can meet girls easily. So yeah, I'm thinking the only way I won't die a virgin is to go the commercial route.....It looks like most people here have no problem getting sex wherever for free but has anyone done the same? Thanks.