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julynn
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female
United States
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Very sorry that there was a decision that had to be made. On one hand i am happy she was able to repair a relationship and on the other hand i'm very sorry another relationship had to end. Take time and let the emotions flow and when you look around again, i do hope you find someone that makes you happy.
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First off it needs to be her decision, all you can do is be there for her and show her what it would be like with you, shower her the support and such you give her. Nobody but her can make the decision to leave him, from what you said she's basically not ready yet. If you give her an ultimatum there is a chance you would lose her. From what i can tell she hasn't hit the wall yet the one that says i need to leave.
You also need to make a choice, do you stick around and be there for her and hope or do you need to leave. You also need to do what is right for you, if that's staying or if that's leaving.
Good Luck!
You also need to make a choice, do you stick around and be there for her and hope or do you need to leave. You also need to do what is right for you, if that's staying or if that's leaving.
Good Luck!
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Quote by Naughty_Magician
No one is disrespecting anyone or anything, just trying to figure out why some members of this lifestyle like to use the capitals all the time but others don't.
For some it's a training issue. Some Dom/me's insist on the cap on the Dominate One's name, some do not follow the protocol that strictly and for some its a personal choice.
Here in words there is no way to show the proper respect to the Dom/me's and the only way is to cap everything to do with them. To cap Sir/Master/Mistress/Ma'am and so on. Also, capping Him vs him or Her vs her is another show of respect.
Again depending on your training or your beliefs it's either done or not. Hope that maybe helped???
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I'm just wondering.... applications for what. In order for a sub to know what they are applying for they need to know what you are looking for, what do you expect. To just simply say "applications being taken" that is just leaving the door wide open to anything.
In reading this i wonder are you into pain, are you strict, what are your rules, what is it you really seek from a submissive. You never stated if you want male, female or if that even matters. You have to give us something, to give us nothing will probably not get you very many responses or it could. I don't know i know i wouldn't respond to a blank ad but then again that is just my opinion.
You can take this suggestion or not but here it is...sell yourself to the submissives tell us how long you've been in the lifestyle, what is it you seek to full fill your needs, make them see why they would want to belong to you. Give just enough to make people want to respond and not go into this blind with no insight at all.
I would like to see somebody write out a clear and well thought out ad. That would be what i would respond to as that shows how a Dom/me thinks. By just writing submissive apply within gives makes me think that there is no clear thought process and doesn't make me want to do more then move to the next thread.
Good luck in your search.
In reading this i wonder are you into pain, are you strict, what are your rules, what is it you really seek from a submissive. You never stated if you want male, female or if that even matters. You have to give us something, to give us nothing will probably not get you very many responses or it could. I don't know i know i wouldn't respond to a blank ad but then again that is just my opinion.
You can take this suggestion or not but here it is...sell yourself to the submissives tell us how long you've been in the lifestyle, what is it you seek to full fill your needs, make them see why they would want to belong to you. Give just enough to make people want to respond and not go into this blind with no insight at all.
I would like to see somebody write out a clear and well thought out ad. That would be what i would respond to as that shows how a Dom/me thinks. By just writing submissive apply within gives makes me think that there is no clear thought process and doesn't make me want to do more then move to the next thread.
Good luck in your search.
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http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst18882_BDSM-101.aspx
This is a good start to reading as well, also there are many posts here that offers a lot of help and topic talk. Never take on a relationship to quickly, you need to talk...umm...kinda like an interview. You need to know what your subs wants are and you need to know what you need in a sub, if you aren't compatible in your needs then the relationship will fail. If your into bondage and the submissive isn't then that need will never be met.
I see so many Velcro collars here, so many rush into relationships without finding out anything about the person. It's like..wanna,.. shrugs..you wanna...ok you'll be my slave (or Dom/me) ok.. and off they go only to find the drama floating around the site.
This is more then giving a sub an order and having them do it, it's more then sex. It's a commitment, as in most cases the submissive will put their life in your hands, depending on the session. This is a very deep connection, if you are with the right person. There is so much to this lifestyle that is amazing, past anything else, you may experience.
If you are serious about learning, please ask away, as stated many are happy to share their experiences with you.
This is a good start to reading as well, also there are many posts here that offers a lot of help and topic talk. Never take on a relationship to quickly, you need to talk...umm...kinda like an interview. You need to know what your subs wants are and you need to know what you need in a sub, if you aren't compatible in your needs then the relationship will fail. If your into bondage and the submissive isn't then that need will never be met.
I see so many Velcro collars here, so many rush into relationships without finding out anything about the person. It's like..wanna,.. shrugs..you wanna...ok you'll be my slave (or Dom/me) ok.. and off they go only to find the drama floating around the site.
This is more then giving a sub an order and having them do it, it's more then sex. It's a commitment, as in most cases the submissive will put their life in your hands, depending on the session. This is a very deep connection, if you are with the right person. There is so much to this lifestyle that is amazing, past anything else, you may experience.
If you are serious about learning, please ask away, as stated many are happy to share their experiences with you.
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Quote by sprite
Xmas requests have to be in by June - EVERYone knows this!
But...but...but...it's not in MY rules...maybe yours lil missy...but when the fights breaks out or a really hot scene is going on i like popcorn and a cock-tail to sit back and watch....wait...the bosses won't see this right...this is just between you and me ...winks...right......
and satin...you just think i wasn't watching...you know i don't miss a pervy moment..
peaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.. Active Ink Slinger
ok, I'm going to throw this out here. Why is it such an issue if somebody makes this a post? Why would they post under somebody else's posts? If you don't want to read them, then don't.
Is this any different then putting up a singles add on a date side? Yes, bdsm is a lil different but for ya'll to act like this is a gasp horrible thing. it's just crazy.
What if a Mistress contacts him they talk and it works? We can't predict the future all we can do is offer advice, if they choose to take it great if not then we tried and it's on them.
i'm sadden that as a "community" we don't try to help that there is a "gang" like attitude to put somebody down or to gang up on them and make them feel unwelcome. Shakes my head and makes me sad to read some of these responses.
As for Addicted... Good luck in your search
Is this any different then putting up a singles add on a date side? Yes, bdsm is a lil different but for ya'll to act like this is a gasp horrible thing. it's just crazy.
What if a Mistress contacts him they talk and it works? We can't predict the future all we can do is offer advice, if they choose to take it great if not then we tried and it's on them.
i'm sadden that as a "community" we don't try to help that there is a "gang" like attitude to put somebody down or to gang up on them and make them feel unwelcome. Shakes my head and makes me sad to read some of these responses.
As for Addicted... Good luck in your search
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Words are sexy, words are amazing and if you have the right person (as stated above) and a good imagination then it can be good, great or amazing. To me it's a way to express what i'm thinking. To put what i want to do into words and to please somebody is what i enjoy. For me i can enjoy it, it's def not a substitute for the real thing but the teasing and just interacting with another is fun.
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i think i speak for most mods...ok...well eli doesn't count, but i know i don't wanna read what ya'll are talking about. Sometimes reading what is in the open is enough to make me wanna curl up in a tight ball and keep repeating (in my best lion voice , you know from the wiz of oz) "There are no such things at spooks, there are no such things as spooks"
Ok, well maybe not, but somethings should be kept private and we respect that. It's very simple.
Ok, well maybe not, but somethings should be kept private and we respect that. It's very simple.
