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jolander055
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 31
Australia
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For me they each have their appeal. The stories on lush are 100 times more mentally pleasing due to a lot more background and story to them. Even some of the 'better' storylines in porn just don't compare to a good lush story.
As a visual person myself, porn does have the benefit in terms of having something to watch and admire the female form. So they are both big turn ons but one is a mental turn on and the other is more the visual.
As a visual person myself, porn does have the benefit in terms of having something to watch and admire the female form. So they are both big turn ons but one is a mental turn on and the other is more the visual.
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I play sports generally and currently I am playing Ultimate Frisbee 2 to 3 times a week which is mainly running. And as a carpenter i tend to exercise other muscle groups throughout the week depending on what work i am doing.
I am thinking about joining a gym though. So far I have been blessed with a high metabolism ,but I need to get into the habit of eating better and exercising for when that slows down.
I am thinking about joining a gym though. So far I have been blessed with a high metabolism ,but I need to get into the habit of eating better and exercising for when that slows down.
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I have and do use a fleshlight. As others have said the feeling of having a relatively realistic pussy to actually thrust into is a lot better than just using my hand.
There definitely does seem to be the stigma around men with such toys thought. If a girl has dildos and vibrators it is quite normal (in the christian circles i grew up in that would still be frowned upon though), but if a man uses a fleshlight then he is seen as somewhat less of a man cause he 'obviously' can't get the real thing. Or that has been the general feeling i have gotten from my experience of listening to people talk.
There definitely does seem to be the stigma around men with such toys thought. If a girl has dildos and vibrators it is quite normal (in the christian circles i grew up in that would still be frowned upon though), but if a man uses a fleshlight then he is seen as somewhat less of a man cause he 'obviously' can't get the real thing. Or that has been the general feeling i have gotten from my experience of listening to people talk.
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For me it would be a definite no. Too many things could go wrong and imho it isn't worth the risk.
The boss i worked for not long ago was trying to manipulate me into dating his daughter who i had no interest in. And even if I had liked her I would not have wanted him as a potential father in law.
The boss i worked for not long ago was trying to manipulate me into dating his daughter who i had no interest in. And even if I had liked her I would not have wanted him as a potential father in law.
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Yes. It would have to be somebody i really trust as a few have mentioned. So if with the right person it would be a great turn on. Whether she wanted me to pleasure her or for her to pleasure me however she would like without me getting in her way trying to touch her all the time. lol
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Psychologically it is a big turn on for me to watch.
I, personally, hate the thought of causing my partner pain so if it was pleasurable for her, then it would be the same type of thing as oral sex (as has been mentioned). I would get pleasure from seeing my partner enjoy it.
So there is the pleasure of both the turn on from watching as well as how much she is enjoying it.
I could be very wrong but i would think that the percentage of women who are into fisting would be very low. So finding a partner who wants to even try it could be interesting.
I, personally, hate the thought of causing my partner pain so if it was pleasurable for her, then it would be the same type of thing as oral sex (as has been mentioned). I would get pleasure from seeing my partner enjoy it.
So there is the pleasure of both the turn on from watching as well as how much she is enjoying it.
I could be very wrong but i would think that the percentage of women who are into fisting would be very low. So finding a partner who wants to even try it could be interesting.
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Heights. But not so much the height, more the falling. Actually it's more the hitting the ground at the end of the fall i am afraid of. The falling itself could be quite fun. 
Not a fan of large crowds either.
Not a fan of large crowds either.
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May i either join this drinking date or take you out on different drinking date the next evening maybe Miss Asian? Somersbys?
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I have been having lots of intelligent conversation with asian. She's always right and therefore more intelligent though. So yes of course
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I think today is meant to be about 33 Celcius (91.4F) which isn't too bad. Wednesday just been was 45C (113F). Needless to say we didn't work after lunch.
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The local psychiatrist. She's not very professional though cause she either tells people to go fuck themselves or she plays with herself while clients are still in with her.
Or both at once. One hand flipping the bird and the other playing with herself.
Or both at once. One hand flipping the bird and the other playing with herself.
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JAG
NCIS
Game of Thrones
Currently watching Quantico which is pretty good
Arrow/The flash
NCIS
Game of Thrones
Currently watching Quantico which is pretty good
Arrow/The flash
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No games frighten me or I don't like many games anyway. Frighten is probably the wrong word. Especially board games. I love sports but i don't count them as games. They are serious business. Anyway back on topic 
Well if you're a maybe I will agree to a maybe. I'll have to get to know you then. :)
Be warned though. I dig myself a lot of holes that i need a veeerrry long ladder to get out of :)
Well if you're a maybe I will agree to a maybe. I'll have to get to know you then. :)
Be warned though. I dig myself a lot of holes that i need a veeerrry long ladder to get out of :)
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No I wouldn't like to play a game :P
I would not slip in with above.
I would not slip in with above.
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No never worked out at the gym in my entire life.
TPBM Prefers heat to cold weather.
TPBM Prefers heat to cold weather.
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If i can save up money and get time off work sure. Would love to.
TPBM needs a new exhaust on their vehicle. (Oh wait that's me)
TPBM likes action movies.
TPBM needs a new exhaust on their vehicle. (Oh wait that's me)
TPBM likes action movies.
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Wow so smooth right there.
Nope just chilling on lush forums and talking to someone.
TPBM is an awesome person just sometimes they don't realize that.
Nope just chilling on lush forums and talking to someone.
TPBM is an awesome person just sometimes they don't realize that.
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True! Well my internet connects just says it has no credit so it shouldn't be connecting. Bloody telstra!
TPBM wants a sports car for Christmas.
TPBM wants a sports car for Christmas.
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How did you know asian? Are you psychic?
TPBM is going to run for President next election.
TPBM is going to run for President next election.
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Bloody hot!! I had to work in 41 degrees celcius yesterday. But at least it wasnt the 43 that was predicted.
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Personally i think an extrovert compliments an introvert like myself very well.
Having never been in a relationship myself, i don't pretend to be authoritative on the matter. I much prefer the company of extroverts in many cases. I am perfectly happy to listen and then talk when i feel i have something worthwhile to say but if it comes to me having to try and run a conversation all hope is lost. Unless that conversation happens to be in the realms of christianity and the Bible or talking about how building work. Then i may be happy to run the conversation. As an introvert I get stressed out if i have to do all the talking and so being with other introverted people leads to long periods of awkward silence. :P
This is shyness mixed with introversion so i don't know where the introversion stops and its shyness or what it is. But it's my character anyway :)
Disclaimer: Just don't be so extroverted that i can't get a word in when i have something to say. I have a friend who does that and it annoys the heck out of me when i have something to say for once and then can't say it cause he's talking all the time.
Having never been in a relationship myself, i don't pretend to be authoritative on the matter. I much prefer the company of extroverts in many cases. I am perfectly happy to listen and then talk when i feel i have something worthwhile to say but if it comes to me having to try and run a conversation all hope is lost. Unless that conversation happens to be in the realms of christianity and the Bible or talking about how building work. Then i may be happy to run the conversation.
As an introvert I get stressed out if i have to do all the talking and so being with other introverted people leads to long periods of awkward silence. :PThis is shyness mixed with introversion so i don't know where the introversion stops and its shyness or what it is. But it's my character anyway :)
Disclaimer: Just don't be so extroverted that i can't get a word in when i have something to say. I have a friend who does that and it annoys the heck out of me when i have something to say for once and then can't say it cause he's talking all the time.
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The Flash
Arrow
Game of Thrones (Can't wait for the new season)
Vikings
JAG
NCIS
NCIS: LA
Arrow
Game of Thrones (Can't wait for the new season)
Vikings
JAG
NCIS
NCIS: LA
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Pretty much what has already been said.
More believable storylines not rushing into the sex but setting up some kind of tension first. That's what i hate is most of it is all two people meet and immediately have sex with no seeming reasoning or attraction behind it. So if they could set up some sexual tension in the storyline and basically overall have a higher storyline to sex percentage that would improve it heck loads. Then there is the acting skills need to improve etc etc. There are lots of things.
More believable storylines not rushing into the sex but setting up some kind of tension first. That's what i hate is most of it is all two people meet and immediately have sex with no seeming reasoning or attraction behind it. So if they could set up some sexual tension in the storyline and basically overall have a higher storyline to sex percentage that would improve it heck loads. Then there is the acting skills need to improve etc etc. There are lots of things.
