Quick! Get up! Santa is trouble because the tooth fairy got his wand stuck in a.......
Pass...him a drink and talk about the craziest stuff we have ever done.
When something you put so much time and effort into falls apart. Someone you tried so hard to give your all and tend to their needs but failed in the end. Maybe they were right? A wanna be, a fake. How did you, others who have lost the one they started an amazing life in bdsm with, get back to how you were before it all? Just rambling maybe.... idk. Thanks though.
When looking for a Dom/me carefull consideration is needed. Saying you have no limitations can open the door to many things that you have not thought about. When you find that right person to submit to, you should make sure to talk about what you do and don't like. For instance, you say you "love little painful sex". If you don't make it clear where that pain barrier is, you may be taken somewhere you don't enjoy. Have patience and be picky. Finding a Dom/me is not an over-night project. Extensive communication is the key to making it work. Talk talk talk and when your done talking, talk some more. You have to be sure the person you submit to will have the qualities needed to take care of your needs, the guidance to lead you as you require. Its not, "hey your a Domme, I'm a sub, let's get this started". Wanting a Domme in real life as well as on Lush, you have to be sure the person you choose is not just role playing. If you are looking for smething real, make sure its real before you commit and feelings get hurt. I hope you find what you are looking for.
Yes, but making a thread saying you want a Mistress is not the way to do it. It is not a short process. To find a real connection with someone your willing to give complete control to, takes time. Your not going to go to the mall, pick a random woman and tell her to command and punish as she see's fit without knowing anything about her. There are so many of these threads that pop up, and so many who get great advice from other members. You need to have patience. Giving up control and letting someone into your deepest darkest corners is not something that should be taken lightly.
I know there was no safe word. I agree that no means no. I also believe the forced involvment and participation is immoral and wrong. I did not know that would be happening there. As far as I know, the "group" has the understanding that their slave may be traded or swapped. meaning to different homes regardless of location as stated in the slave contract that is signed. I find it wrong and do not agree with it. I did not stay long and have not spoken to them since.
This is why I think much care should be taken when on this kind of subject.
Sensei, no, it was with no regards to the slaves desires. She explicity begged and pleaded to remain where she was. She was given away anyways. It was not done in regards to her desires or wants. She was not the only one in that predicament, which is why I said what I did about my opinion on what a slave is up above. I do not judge them nor look down on them, it is not my lifestyle but my lifestyle is also not that of others. I hope I was not mistaken for snubbing my nose at those who are in that lifestyle, I was merely giving my opinion.
From what I have always known, to have a slave in bdsm is to have someone who is bound to the submission of a Dom/me for life. There is no exit for them unless told to go (set free). I do not agree with the idea of having a slave. In my opinion, slaves and subs are two different people in the bdsm world. A sub willingly enters and is free to leave when he/she decides they are no longer interested. Many believe that slave means he/she signs a contract and that's signing their life away. They are now in it for the long haul. Again, I do not agree with the idea of owning a slave or having a slave. I want to make that clear and not be mistaken for someone who does. I have even seen where a Master will have a party where slaves are then shared and/or traded, with no regards to what the slave wants or desires. I find that wrong and immoral on so many different levels. So, all that being said, no matter if I agree or disagree with slavery of a sub, to me, the term slave means you are bound until you are set free. You have no say in the matter.
The ones that chose no, are the ones who have a contract signed by their slave. Why would they want an exit clause for the one they get 100% unquestionable obedience?
Yes, its not an over-night task. Finding the right fit is important. There are many fakes like you said. I hope you find what your looking for. Being in a M/s relationship is not just doing what your told when your told to do it. Finding that mutual desire and commitment is not always an easy thing to find. When you do find it, its an amazing feeling and I hope you get the chance to experience it.
No matter how experienced a Master is, He will always have to ask what your needs and desires are. No two subs are the same. Each has their own needs and certain things that need special attention where as in another sub they don't need attention in that same area. No Master will walk into a M/s relationship knowing 100% what you want and need without having to find out.
Well said Ravyn. I will not give my full opinion as I believe it will cause more of a problem than a solution. As a Master who lives the lifestyle, this idea is both wrong and atrocious. It is not BDSM and I believe you would be better off in a different forum.
a time when someone wont be looked down upon in a chatroom/forum because of their sexual interests.....
some new work boots, mine are falling apart!
chose a great actor for his AV
pass, maybe have a beer and watch a game?
that awkward moment when you have been talking to a friend on lush all day and then see on their profile later that it was their birthday today.
hmm.. gotta fuck a fellow buckeye!
lay back on a tar top parking lot in mid july