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Quote by playsit
Derek, that is a great idea. I just wish I could be spontaneous with this. Guess I'll have to schedule some things. Thank you.
I think if you start, the spontanaity will just kick in. If you see her enjoying herself, it will be like a drug. You'll find yourself booking tables at restaurants or theatre tickets, buying flowers or perfume, and you won't be thinking about it.
I don't know how long you two have been married, but you could always renew your vows and take a second honeymoon.
Show her that you're still crazy about her, and you're going to get through this together.
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Quote by She
Or we can look at it from other perspective and say humans are bisexual to start with and not heterosexual as most people think, and there then is possible choice in preferences.
No, you choose how to live your life not your orientation. There's a difference.
Not everybody is bisexual. A lot of people have absolutely no sexual attraction for the same sex.
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Quote by EloiseMcEntaggart
heheheh .. as a Brit myself, I would like to know what Queen of Puddings is ... ? lol ... if it comes with cheesecake, ice cream and fresh cream ... yum ... Im sooooooooo there ... but meanwhile .. as yu say Zig Dust ... can anyone tell us what it is? please! my tongue is hangin' out 4 some!
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ooops didnt know I had to be a guy to post .... hehehe ... but i cant turn the clock back!
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Quote by AudriNichols
To say that anyone who is bi has absolutely no choice in their sexuality, would require that they must be with both male and female partners at the same time, all the time...they wouldn't have a choice. They must be a slave to their biology, and have no self control in their sexuality or their life choices. To claim that a person has no choice, means they are physically incapable of choosing who they have sex with. Only then, would they truly not have a choice. We all have choices every single day of our lives, how we want to live it. People do have a choice in their sexuality, and what desires they want to act on, whether they want to admit it or not. Choose is exactly the right word.
This is so typical of a heterosexual.
The only choice you have is to live a lie or accept your sexuality. You chose to be who you are, you didn't choose to be straight.
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Quote by Mancman2010
I do roasted beet root (smaller the sweeter) and toasted pine nuts and steamed kale. Cut the roasted beet root into small chunks and mix it all together with lots of black pepper and a small amount of butter.
Try chopped chestnuts instead of the pine nuts and let me know if you like it.
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Quote by Metilda
As in 'these are his tits' or 'this is her cock' - and various forms thereof?
Why/why not?
How far / deep does that sense go?
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Curious - because in some ways [not 100% - and not all the time] I think of my body as belonging to my husband in a way. If he wants to touch - he can, it's his. Within some limits, I still see my body as my own, as well. It's sort of a strange mix - shifting in relation to sex or my mood and probably not much else.
I mentioned something about this the other day to him and he looked at me strange. I tried to explain what i meant but he didn't seem to get it - so he doesn't think of my body as 'his possession' and thus he doesn't see his body as my possession. I find that odd - for some reason - that we have two different minds on the subject but are still happily married.
No, it's mine, but in a relationship it's exclusively for one person. There's a difference.
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Quote by AudriNichols
I was curious enough once. I tried it. I decided it wasn't the way I wanted to live my life. I chose to be straight.
I don't think choose is the right word. It infers an option. You found you were not bisexual, so you were straight. If you discovered you were bi but lived a purely heterosexual life, then you would have chosen to be straight.
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Quote by cherrycola703
Whoa, calm down. I wasn't referring to every movie on every post of this thread. My first post about not every love story having a happy ending was just made in general. The movies you said were tragedies rather than romances were Casablanca and Brief Encounter, by the way. However, I do think Gone With The Wind can be considered a romantic movie. Perhaps not a traditional romance, but romantic nonetheless. Romance, especially in dramatic movies, books, and plays, is often tragic. Forgive me for being cliché, but would you not consider Romeo and Juliet to be romantic? Yes, they were rash, didn't think much through, and ultimately died because of their own stupidity, but I still consider it a love story.
But I didn't mean for my first comment to be offensive to you, and I apologize if it was.
Oops, so it was.
Can you have romance in the station buffet at a British Rail station? I've had brief encounters in the loo, they weren't very romantic though.txnc8i61GkmsUeWj
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Quote by seeker4
You know what? Never had one (a virgin, that is). Likely never will at this point in my life. And I don't really think that's a big deal. The feeling that someone is trusting you with their "first time" is probably more important than the act itself but, hey, I'll probably never know.
Never say never.
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Quote by playsit
Your first thought reminded me of a few things regarding intimacy. The hormone drugs completely removed my passion to the point she had to remind me to kiss her bye. I had to have my phone set for alarms to remind me to send her a random text... something that was automatic for me. She told me my kisses were empty and even my touch was different. She jokingly called me Lenny. My soul wasn't there.
Second, your thought about the way I went about everything is probably spot on. Sometimes frustration gets the best of me.
Third, again... you are right. There is some of that happening. I understand a lot of that since my testosterone was removed. From moodiness to hot flashes. She actually took great joy in my going through that. I had it coming, so I just laughed along with her. I told her for years her thermostat was broke. It really does suck though. I feel for all you ladies that are going through that.
Thank you for your thoughts
Here's a thought because I just re-read your bio. You're a romantic, what about a little roleplay on your part. Don't tell your wife.
Start dating her. Go back to what got her interested in you. Don't be in a rush to have sex, you took your time I presume, we all did. Get her to the point where she wants you as much as you want her.
It may just work.
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Quote by Shylass
Yeah, it's not just my looks.However, I'm getting through, and doing better. Listening, observing, analysing and practice (in good balance) have been helping me see myself in a different light. It takes time, just as relationships do.
Well good luck, and I mean that. You have a lot to offer and some guy is going to be lucky.
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Quote by loverman69
Stardrinking, pretty much agree with you. Seven and a half inch dildo with a 2 - 2 1/4" width up my ass is nice, but I haven't had a really wide one up the old poopchute yet. My 2"-2 1/2" rubber dildo has been adequate and I have a buttplug that is nice, however, hard to keep either in so I know I want to get a wide dildo and analplug so it stays "tight" and doesn't pop out, particularly at an embarrassing moment. Like to be able to sit and walk with it firmly in and no gaps where edge meets asshole for leakage.
I'm trying to find in local adult shops a 7" - 7 1/2" dildo with at least a 3-3 1/2" width. I think it will work for wearing pleasure and be secure.
A dildo will always slip out, that's what they're designed for. The butt plug should never slip out. It should be small around the base so the sphincter can close around it to hold it in.
Otherwise just find a guy to use his cock, better than rubber, lol.
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Quote by cherrycola703
they're still romantic.
Fogive me if I'm wrong, but I fail to see how Gone With The Wind is romantic. Perhaps I've only seen the edited version each time I watched, with the romance removed!
I always thought it was all about a spoilt bitch who manipulates her suitors. So selfish that she tries to destroy a friends marriage. Turns her back on a man who loves her, then wants him back.
Where is the romance?
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