Can anyone answer this conundrum?
A father of an unborn child is mixd race (white / afro-caribean) - and mum-to-be is white.
Given that Dad has three kids from a previous relationship with a white woman and they all appeared to be white, does it follow that the new baby from the new Mum will also follow this trend?
Thanks.
Thank you Donnanatrix, so at last someone with some perspective of my conundrum and not least the desire to satisfy my own suspicions. Your comment leads me to be clear on a few points here: I am simply unsure of the truth and feel I have a right to know. I have absolutely no intention of doing anything to upset my eldest daughter's harmony of life or her perspective of me as her biological father - quite simply I could not love her any more and I would only pursue this action covertly. At the time of conception my wife and I were discussing alternative options for exampe, adoption or donor - and in truth I would not be surprised if a virile male had taken advantage of the situation and her vulnerability, Inwardly I know I can both cope with and protect the truth, but at present I am still giving long long consideration to the next step as you quite rightly suggest. And in my heart, I simply need to know - yet I equally see no need to forgive my wife because I remember too well our shared desperation for a child at the time - in fact, I suspect she is not actually sure herself, and knowing and loving her as I do I know that will possibly be torturing her today as it would have done nearly 30 years ago. It is also something I wish I could reaasure her about.
Well thank you Trinket!!!
At last some one has made the point that perhaps... I have the right to be certain, I suspect that all other contributors have looked at the background ad gone "ooops - it is obvious what has happened here, and there is going to be hurt". Not so,,,. I am pretty sure daughter #1 is not my child genetically but it makes no odds, I just want to know.
@Bethany... hey - who says I am persisting? In truth I am absorbing these thoughts and comments which have put my action on hold.
In particular the suggestion of contacting a counsellor has been a very positive steer.
@69Kisses... again I appreciate the sentiment and am questioning whether it is indeed a cockamamie course I could not control.
Then I hear that voice again "I want to know". But now I hear "why?".
So I am not rushing into anything yet.
Thank you Mustang I have appreciate your concerne here but for me the test would bring closure. However, I do like your suggestion about seeking a therapist but I am assuming the inference is for counselling - in which case the suggestion is excellent, thank you.
Thanks for this HeraTeleia. I do believe I can get the swab sample without causing concern and I certainly take on board all of your comments. However, the suspicion is already in place and the chance of it 'coming out' during a disagreement has been there for a long long time. Surely I have a right to know one way or the other, and if the result is a positive one then the mistrust and chances of the issue surfacing during discord, evaporate?
Thank you Kinky girl. I have two daughters and yes, they are like chalk and cheese in looks as well as temperament. But, there is nothing unusual in that other than the fact that as far as the second daughter is concerned, I simply have no doubt that I am the father... to this day she is my mother's side of the family reborn in looks as well as persona.
I sincerely sympathise and empathise with your situation deeply and your words strike chords and open memories like it was yesterday... and in truth, life is so short it really was only yesterday. We were at the point that we were considering adoption negatively... in other words, if we could not have children, then that was the way it was meant to be.
I love the list of things you wrote that I did as a father, because despite geography and distance, they are wise words and 100% accurate.
It is the last two paragraphs I do not agree with. I don't have to tell my daughter anyhting morally or otherwise. It is my own desire to know the truth that counts here and I do believe I have the wisdom to accept the results without destroying the love of my children... blood or oherwise. At least, that is what I sense.
Thanks Buz, wise words that I totally agree with. Not so sure about the masochistic fetish but I have no intention of forcing the pain on my child and family, I just want the knowledge for my own. The odds seem to beg the question and I really feel knowing would be more peaceful than guessing.
My wife and I switched to an 'open cuckold' lifestyle back in 2008 on the back of infidelities causing her guilt. No problems with that -it seemed a natural progression.
But as more facts have slowly emerged about those previous infidelities, nearly 30 years on I find myself wondering about our first born child.
A few facts, (let's call mt wife J and me G):
June 1986 – contraception dropped, 'let's make a baby'
October 1986 – G gets a virus
November 1986 – Baby not happening - G referred for sperm count: Result = Very Low
April 1987 – second opinion sought
July 31 1987 – Sperm Count looking a bit more like normal, virus may have had an affect, J referred for investigation (long waiting list)
December 18 – J begins affair with R
R is very virile, has two kids and his wife is pregnant with third
January 5th onwards, J's sex with R gathers pace - moves from back of car to his house within three weeks of first fuck.
Mid November - Baby born, two weeks overdue
Likely time of conception - January 25
J insists R used rubbers but their sex was frequent and intense?
What concerns me here is that I remember clearly how desperate we were for a baby, J especially. Could she have assumed my sperm count was never going to be enough and sort a real life proven donor? Or could R been made aware of J's desparation (circumstances would suggest a real possibility) and offered to help... I have since learnt in the cuck world that many men get a thrill from impregnating other men's wives?
I now feel I need to know if I am indeed the father, but I have no intention of messing up my daughter's mind.
I am poised to order a DNA testing kit for my own peace of mind... because I feel I knowing is better than not knowing. Am I right?
My wife and I switched to an 'open cuckold' lifestyle back in 2008 on the back of inidelities causing her guilt. No problems with that -it seemed a natural progression.
But as more facts have slowly emerged about those previous inidelities, nearly 30 years on I find myself wondering about our first born.
A few facts, (let's call mt wife J and me G):
June 1986 – contraception dropped, 'let's make a baby'
October 1986 – G gets a virus
November 1986 – Baby not happening - G referred for sperm count: Result = Very Low
April 1987 – second opinion sought
July 31 1987 – Sperm Count looking a bit more like normal, virus may have had an affect, J referred for investigation (long waiting list)
December 18 – J begins affair with R
R is very virile, has two kids and his wife is pregnant with third
January 5th onwards, J's sex with R gathers pace - moves from back of car to his house in three weeks
Mid November - Baby born, two weeks overdue
Likely time of conception - January 25
J insists R used rubbers but their sex was frequent and intense?
What concerns me here is that I remember clearly how desperate we were for a baby, J especially. Could she have assumed my sperm count was never going to be enough and sort a real life proven donor? Or could R been made aware of J's desparation (circumstances would suggest a real possibility) and offered to help... I have since learnt in the cuck world that many men get a thrill from impregnating other men's wives?
I now feel I need to know if I am indeed the father, but I have no intention of messing up my daughter's mind.
I am poised to order a DNA testing kit for my own peace of mind... because I feel I knowing is better than not knowing. Am I right?
My wife and I switched to an 'open cuckold' lifestyle back in 2008 on the back of infidelities causing her guilt. No problems with that -it seemed a natural progression.
But as more facts have slowly emerged about those previous infidelities, nearly 30 years on I find myself wondering about our first born.
A few facts, (let's call mt wife J and me G):
June 1986 – contraception dropped, 'let's make a baby'
October 1986 – G gets a virus
November 1986 – Baby not happening - G referred for sperm count: Result = Very Low
April 1987 – second opinion sought
July 31 1987 – Sperm Count looking a bit more like normal, virus may have had an affect, J referred for investigation (long waiting list)
December 18 – J begins affair with R
R is very virile, has two kids and his wife is pregnant with third
January 5th onwards, J's sex with R gathers pace - moves from back of car to his house within three weeks of first fuck.
Mid November - Baby born, two weeks overdue
Likely time of conception - January 25
J insists R used rubbers but their sex was frequent and intense?
What concerns me here is that I remember clearly how desperate we were for a baby, J especially. Could she have assumed my sperm count was never going to be enough and sort a real life proven donor? Or could R been made aware of J's desparation (circumstances would suggest a real possibility) and offered to help... I have since learnt in the cuck world that many men get a thrill from impregnating other men's wives?
I now feel I need to know if I am indeed the father, but I have no intention of messing up my daughter's mind.
I am poised to order a DNA testing kit for my own peace of mind... because I feel I knowing is better than not knowing. Am I right?
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