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anon47
Over 90 days ago
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It seems quite common that women on Lush enjoy it. Four I have talked to absolutely adore it, get triggered by it even...
One embarrassing conversation I had here recently:
F sends me hot picture of them, fully dressed at a party. 'What do you think this says about me'?
Me: 'You think you look hot and you would like me to chat you up?'
F: eyes roll: 'Yeah right!'
Me: 'What do you think it says?'
F: It says 'I am an airhead. I love to be used as a sex toy. I want you to fuck my brains out!'
Take really knowing a woman well before I would say that without expecting a sharp kick in the balls!
Just shows that women want it just as much as men, eh..
But we are the dirty old pervs constantly preying on pure, virgin minds who solely dream of tender romantic cuddles and gentle submission, huh?!
As my dear female said......yeah, right!
One embarrassing conversation I had here recently:
F sends me hot picture of them, fully dressed at a party. 'What do you think this says about me'?
Me: 'You think you look hot and you would like me to chat you up?'
F: eyes roll: 'Yeah right!'
Me: 'What do you think it says?'
F: It says 'I am an airhead. I love to be used as a sex toy. I want you to fuck my brains out!'
Take really knowing a woman well before I would say that without expecting a sharp kick in the balls!
Just shows that women want it just as much as men, eh..
But we are the dirty old pervs constantly preying on pure, virgin minds who solely dream of tender romantic cuddles and gentle submission, huh?!
As my dear female said......yeah, right!
Advanced Wordsmith
Quote by ivanka_simkiewisz
That for me?...If not just over look this.
She can wear whatever, it ist casual, unless we meet during Spring or Summer, then we can dress up for a Chanel or Haute show.
I wouldn't mind if she on the wild side or a quiet type. All part of getting to know someone I think.
So ya think my date planning ist long like an exam, und hard to read like Russian?...smiles...ok
Well, it not an over-night if she coming so far to see me ya know, maybe a week thing. So be glad my comment ist not longer...lol
Ya should try Chinese sometime then.
Hey, I was not saying anything other than different girls may need seducing different ways. Any girl can wear whatever she likes! Whatever the mood takes her....
I think you took my German and Russian allegory too literally, lol! I meant: if a girl likes tender and gentle, do not hit on her too hard!
Advanced Wordsmith
I came out of a meeting near Csmbridge Uk with a potential sales channel for a gene therapy report we had written.
On my mobile was an 'end of the world' voicemail from a colleague near Manchester.
I realised no business would get done in the Us for weeks, if not months.
We had a four hour drive to Manchester then a need for a new business strategy.
On my mobile was an 'end of the world' voicemail from a colleague near Manchester.
I realised no business would get done in the Us for weeks, if not months.
We had a four hour drive to Manchester then a need for a new business strategy.
Advanced Wordsmith
Aspergers is still a bit of a bummer in Western Societies, who are basically excellent at things sexy people are less good at but struggle with the things sexy people excel at. They are discriminated against as a result, not legally but in practical terms.
I cannot conceive of a worse way to meet women than getting drunk at the pub and having one hundred decibel noise blaring out in a disco, but that is what UK society suggested growing up. I did rather better leading women on a ski slope with a smart jacket on....it guaranteed one common interest and as I was good at it, confident in resort, it made me relaxed and attractive for some reason or other.
I personally do not see why bartering sex is honourable but paying cash is disgraceful. We buy food to eat in cash, we do not fill shelves at Tesco for five hours in exchange for a weeks food, after all. So you should have no issues with societal hang ups, for that is what they are. After all, if you give an escort two hundred, she gets to choose what to spend it on. You buy her supper, she puts out for a romantic meal. Less empowering....
Go for it, but remember that if you do date normal woman afterwards, do not expect them to be as professional without practice!
I cannot conceive of a worse way to meet women than getting drunk at the pub and having one hundred decibel noise blaring out in a disco, but that is what UK society suggested growing up. I did rather better leading women on a ski slope with a smart jacket on....it guaranteed one common interest and as I was good at it, confident in resort, it made me relaxed and attractive for some reason or other.
I personally do not see why bartering sex is honourable but paying cash is disgraceful. We buy food to eat in cash, we do not fill shelves at Tesco for five hours in exchange for a weeks food, after all. So you should have no issues with societal hang ups, for that is what they are. After all, if you give an escort two hundred, she gets to choose what to spend it on. You buy her supper, she puts out for a romantic meal. Less empowering....
Go for it, but remember that if you do date normal woman afterwards, do not expect them to be as professional without practice!
Advanced Wordsmith
I wish there was a rule that says if you want to be a man dressed as a woman, you can be filtered out of 'Members Currently Online'.
I waste too much time clicking through female avatars to male profiles, not to mention clicking through female avatars to find lesbians who will crush the balls of any man who even says hi.
No problems such folks existing here, but I wish I could filter them out so I can focus on women who are actually interested in men.
I waste too much time clicking through female avatars to male profiles, not to mention clicking through female avatars to find lesbians who will crush the balls of any man who even says hi.
No problems such folks existing here, but I wish I could filter them out so I can focus on women who are actually interested in men.
Advanced Wordsmith
I must say that some women have arms which look stunning uncovered, so a flowing dress, not too tight, can offset the glam arms perfectly. Add to that hair up in a bun to show off a delicate neck and then all she has to decide is whether bare legs or stockings complete the picture. Personally, I do not think really high heels are optimal, so I would say smart shoes which do not give her backache.
Advanced Wordsmith
Age is not important if it is only the two of you. There may be challenges if you want to show each other off to you friends, as most people are more prejudiced.
Issues arise if you want to marry as extreme age differences could leave a woman alone just as she reaches 45-50. Also sex may be wonderful for ten years, then age changes things. Folks need to be respectful about that.
I think there is a lot to be said for young men and women who have had bad experiences to enjoy emancipation with an older partner. Older folks have come to understand hang ups and can free young people from many blocking issues.
Issues arise if you want to marry as extreme age differences could leave a woman alone just as she reaches 45-50. Also sex may be wonderful for ten years, then age changes things. Folks need to be respectful about that.
I think there is a lot to be said for young men and women who have had bad experiences to enjoy emancipation with an older partner. Older folks have come to understand hang ups and can free young people from many blocking issues.
Advanced Wordsmith
Different colours for different moods. Pale blue and yellow show gentle sweetness. Red suggests hot and lusty. Shocking pink suggests nice but naughty girl who wants man to take charge. Black suggests long seduction first. Orange suggests liberated fun. White suggests 'I am a good girl.....'
To me at least.
Variety is great.
To me at least.
Variety is great.
Advanced Wordsmith
Quote by GMOFLEISURE
Happened many times in hook ups. I'm very self actualized & used to making decisions, but am attracted to the same in women.
Had a stormy fifteen year relationship with the same. We made a good team in many situations, but when we disagreed things could go south. Usually the relationship breaks up when the other finds is difficult to manipulate or order me around.
Submissive women, or men usually bore me quickly.
So your ultimate dream is an alpha women who can finally accept you cannot be tamed?!
Advanced Wordsmith
Ultimately this comes down to who is driving things.
Clearly if a man puts pressure on a woman to accept violent things like slapping, whipping etc when she is reluctant, that is my definition of sexualising violence.
However there are plenty of female profiles here who when communicated with, actively desire male treatment including those things. It is pretty hard to argue that they are not fully consented and willing participants.
I have learned of two profiles on here who experienced sexual abuse well before the UK age of consent of 16 years old.
In one case it did not involve sexual penetration, but certainly involved coercive manipulation by older men amounting not to but sexual assault. Rightly or wrongly, they did not wish to take police action. They were certainly struggling to process intense feelings of shame, self-hatred etc, even when I linked them to published work showing their feelings were very common amongst abused people. They appreciated me creating stories to help them process them, including strong elements of female submission, but I wrote a disclaimer at top of one of them in case anyone might say I would consider such things in real life. There comes a point however, when you feel like an unqualified therapist and certain requests I could not accede to as I was not sure they would not do more harm than good.
The second one involved , something I had come across in real life with a female friend. Here the guilt seemed less obvious, but once again one wonders where things might lead. Again, it is an arena where the woman will lead the narrative.....
You do not usually start interactions on here with: 'were you abused as a child?' So if what appears initially to be rather exacting rp turns out to have a darker background, are you guilty for having that come to the surface or should you be commended that they trust you enough to share what must be dark secrets from their past?
Clearly if a man puts pressure on a woman to accept violent things like slapping, whipping etc when she is reluctant, that is my definition of sexualising violence.
However there are plenty of female profiles here who when communicated with, actively desire male treatment including those things. It is pretty hard to argue that they are not fully consented and willing participants.
I have learned of two profiles on here who experienced sexual abuse well before the UK age of consent of 16 years old.
In one case it did not involve sexual penetration, but certainly involved coercive manipulation by older men amounting not to but sexual assault. Rightly or wrongly, they did not wish to take police action. They were certainly struggling to process intense feelings of shame, self-hatred etc, even when I linked them to published work showing their feelings were very common amongst abused people. They appreciated me creating stories to help them process them, including strong elements of female submission, but I wrote a disclaimer at top of one of them in case anyone might say I would consider such things in real life. There comes a point however, when you feel like an unqualified therapist and certain requests I could not accede to as I was not sure they would not do more harm than good.
The second one involved , something I had come across in real life with a female friend. Here the guilt seemed less obvious, but once again one wonders where things might lead. Again, it is an arena where the woman will lead the narrative.....
You do not usually start interactions on here with: 'were you abused as a child?' So if what appears initially to be rather exacting rp turns out to have a darker background, are you guilty for having that come to the surface or should you be commended that they trust you enough to share what must be dark secrets from their past?
Advanced Wordsmith
Depends whether you first see her from front or behind
i guess! As I walk faster than most women, I tend to pass a lot of female legs. Some are attractive, so you find a way to see if the front view also attracts.
If your first contact is face to face, I tend to sense an overall shape and if that is nice, then
i look to her eyes, her smile, her hair.
Not being obsessed by one part of female anatomy, I do not seem to have a check out order of doing things....
i guess! As I walk faster than most women, I tend to pass a lot of female legs. Some are attractive, so you find a way to see if the front view also attracts.
If your first contact is face to face, I tend to sense an overall shape and if that is nice, then
i look to her eyes, her smile, her hair.
Not being obsessed by one part of female anatomy, I do not seem to have a check out order of doing things....
Advanced Wordsmith
Is not the whole point of lingerie that taking it off signifies that a man has been invited into a woman's most intimate space?
From a man's point of view, the more effort a woman puts into wearing a wide variety of sexy lingerie just for him, the more masculine he will feel as a man. She wants to offer him a whole range of sensual experiences, a huge compliment in the tango of love.
It is like a man taking the time to organise a wide variety of dates, not just same old, same old which gets boring. A woman feels flattered that he cared enough to make the effort.....
From a man's point of view, the more effort a woman puts into wearing a wide variety of sexy lingerie just for him, the more masculine he will feel as a man. She wants to offer him a whole range of sensual experiences, a huge compliment in the tango of love.
It is like a man taking the time to organise a wide variety of dates, not just same old, same old which gets boring. A woman feels flattered that he cared enough to make the effort.....
Advanced Wordsmith
There is nothing wrong with this question, despite protests from some. Women are not obliged to agree with answers, nor conform to any expectations expressed. Women after all have strong opinions about the difference between a boy and a man.....
In my opinion, the difference is one of emotional and spiritual maturity. It has very little to do with sexual development, as the majority of 15 year olds could easily give birth.
A woman has explored her inner self, reached conclusions and is comfortable with those conclusions without expecting all to agree with her.
A girl is still exploring her inner world, is still very sensitive to the opinions of others and may still hold some rigid views courtesy of upbringing.
Those are my opinions as to how I view females and as a result, who I would label a girl or a woman.
Any woman is free to disagree with me, however no woman can tell me I have no right to evaluate women from the perspective of a man.
The interesting time comes when male perceptions and female perceptins are brought together. Either a deeper understanding emerges or a shouting match ensues.....
In my opinion, the difference is one of emotional and spiritual maturity. It has very little to do with sexual development, as the majority of 15 year olds could easily give birth.
A woman has explored her inner self, reached conclusions and is comfortable with those conclusions without expecting all to agree with her.
A girl is still exploring her inner world, is still very sensitive to the opinions of others and may still hold some rigid views courtesy of upbringing.
Those are my opinions as to how I view females and as a result, who I would label a girl or a woman.
Any woman is free to disagree with me, however no woman can tell me I have no right to evaluate women from the perspective of a man.
The interesting time comes when male perceptions and female perceptins are brought together. Either a deeper understanding emerges or a shouting match ensues.....
Advanced Wordsmith
Depends to an extent on a woman's trunk. If she is relatively broad hipped and with a broad rib cage, larger breasts fit that better. If a woman is more petite/waif like, huge breasts are out of place.
Not flat chested and not enormous breasts is my preference. More petite rather than a bigger woman is my preference.
I must say I tend to focus initially on a woman's face, not her chest. Whether her eyes, smile, hair make a pleasant vista.
Not flat chested and not enormous breasts is my preference. More petite rather than a bigger woman is my preference.
I must say I tend to focus initially on a woman's face, not her chest. Whether her eyes, smile, hair make a pleasant vista.
Advanced Wordsmith
Perhaps the question you need to ask yourself is why your heart is unable to heal and needs to continue believing what will never be?
Sometimes you have to face up to other experiences in life which are what is behind your current predicament.....
I took 18 months to get over something once. Really, if there hadn't been something in the background, it was the sort of situation you could get over in days, certainly weeks.
Something else took a decade. That was guilt associated, not hurt associated, though.
Maybe a question you should ask yourself is this: is there a reason I am falling in love with the wrong women? What are my actions telling me about where I am in life and what will I have to do to bring myself to the place where I will be attracted to the right women for me????
Sometimes you have to face up to other experiences in life which are what is behind your current predicament.....
I took 18 months to get over something once. Really, if there hadn't been something in the background, it was the sort of situation you could get over in days, certainly weeks.
Something else took a decade. That was guilt associated, not hurt associated, though.
Maybe a question you should ask yourself is this: is there a reason I am falling in love with the wrong women? What are my actions telling me about where I am in life and what will I have to do to bring myself to the place where I will be attracted to the right women for me????