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ankara1
2 months ago
Lesbian Female, 154
0 miles · Glasgow
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I always ware my Mistress' collar, it makes me feel wanted and reminds me I am loved. I was a little worried when I first wore it, wondering if people would notice it and know what it was, but no one has, or at least they don't comment on it.
My Mistress has written a part on collars on her BDSM 101 thread on here (I can't post links yet, but it is on the second page about half way down)
My Mistress has written a part on collars on her BDSM 101 thread on here (I can't post links yet, but it is on the second page about half way down)
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Quote by sprite
*bounds in at time speed, skids to a halt across the linoleum floor and smile, purring, looking a little dizzy* did somebody call me? *playfully circles kitten dancer, eyes sparkling* a little kink? sometimes more then a little! *giggles*
Sometimes a lot more
Hehe
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The other thing I wanted to bring up: a few times people have told me they don't think subs/slaves are their own person
I too have been told this, both in real life and on here, and, I am very sad to say, I have heard those who claim to be a Dom/me say it as well.
It is completely wrong, a sub chooses to submit, we are choosing to be like this, and as such we are being who we want to be. People telling a sub they are not being their own person and telling them to live differently are actually doing the very thing they seem to think is wrong. And all I can say is don't listen to people who tell you a sub is not being their own person as they are, just these people don't understand why people choose to be sub and think we are forced into it.
Sprite is completely right when she says a sub has the control really, many wont think like this, and it isn't immediately apparent, but even when a Dom/me is commanding a sub, the sub has to choose to submit to what they are told to do ultimately they have the final say, if they really don't want to do something then they wont, sadly there are some who don't understand the sub has limits to and may force them to do what they don't want to, if that is the case then they have crossed a line, it is no longer a D/s relationship, it has became abuse.
I will add here, as said before, limits can be split into three groups:
1. Things a sub will happily do
2. Things they will do but may require a gentle push to do, and a Dom/me must be very careful not to push their sub too far, a good Dom/me will be able to tell where their sub's limits are and what ones they will and will not cross.
3. Things a sub will NEVER do, these are set limits that a sub will never cross, no matter what. Again, a good Dom/me will know where their sub's limits lie.
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I am MistressS' sub, she and others have asked me to give my views as well here.
Too add to Mistress' and sprite's points on punishments, for me, the idea that I have upset my Mistress is far worse than my actual punishments. Often if I break a rule, I will actually tell Mistress I have, I see the punishment as a way of being forgiven for what I have done, I don't like being punished, but being let away with breaking a rule is far worse.
I am not good with pain, so my punishments aren't usually physical, I may be spanked occasionally, with Mistress' hand, a paddle or a crop if I really step out of line, but my usual punishment is a time out, I have to sit in the corner looking at the wall and in silence while Mistress will go about whatever she has to do, until, she calls me out of the corner, another one that I get if we are out usually, is if I have really misbehaved I am not allowed to kiss Mistress and she doesn't give any signs of affection those two while not being physical still feel really bad and I'd often wish she would spank me so it was over.
Some try to say that punishments are abusive, this is not the case, as I have said, I will often tell Mistress I need punished when I break a rule, I feel I need it, and she NEVER punishes me more than I can handle, if anything Mistress is lenient in her punishments compared to others I have seen, she hates having to punish me, and I hate having given her a reason to have to.
Edit: I have re-read this, and should add, during my times out, while I hate it, it does give me time to reflect and relax, to think on why I misbehaved and to work on being better in the future. Ultimately, I want the punishment if I break a rule, and it is for my benefit, not my harm.
Too add to Mistress' and sprite's points on punishments, for me, the idea that I have upset my Mistress is far worse than my actual punishments. Often if I break a rule, I will actually tell Mistress I have, I see the punishment as a way of being forgiven for what I have done, I don't like being punished, but being let away with breaking a rule is far worse.
I am not good with pain, so my punishments aren't usually physical, I may be spanked occasionally, with Mistress' hand, a paddle or a crop if I really step out of line, but my usual punishment is a time out, I have to sit in the corner looking at the wall and in silence while Mistress will go about whatever she has to do, until, she calls me out of the corner, another one that I get if we are out usually, is if I have really misbehaved I am not allowed to kiss Mistress and she doesn't give any signs of affection those two while not being physical still feel really bad and I'd often wish she would spank me so it was over.
Some try to say that punishments are abusive, this is not the case, as I have said, I will often tell Mistress I need punished when I break a rule, I feel I need it, and she NEVER punishes me more than I can handle, if anything Mistress is lenient in her punishments compared to others I have seen, she hates having to punish me, and I hate having given her a reason to have to.
Edit: I have re-read this, and should add, during my times out, while I hate it, it does give me time to reflect and relax, to think on why I misbehaved and to work on being better in the future. Ultimately, I want the punishment if I break a rule, and it is for my benefit, not my harm.