So I recently had a posting (can be located in Relationship Help) asking for help with my BF. He had changed his passwords and was acting very odd. To all of those who read and commented on that post...... I WAS RIGHT!!!!
He had been watching porn, going on dating sites, and even posting on CL for another man to suck him off...... I have not been able to trust him for sometime now and this only makes it worse. I have had very recent talks with him about him needing to prove himself to me again; which he has promised to do. However, there has been almost no improvement (sure he is more 'lovey dovey' but that does nothing for earning trust). He still refuses to share his passwords with me and avoids the topic at all cost, even knowing how hurt I still am. We have been together for over two years but I dont think he is really trying for me.... I catch him oogling other women regularly (anytime we are out in public).
Guys, can you please help a heartbroken girl? I need some insight as to why he doesnt seem like he cares about my pain or that he is facing losing me.....
So I recently had a posting (can be located in Relationship Help) asking for help with my BF. He had changed his passwords and was acting very odd. To all of those who read and commented on that post...... I WAS RIGHT!!!!
He had been watching porn, going on dating sites, and even posting on CL for another man to suck him off...... I have not been able to trust him for sometime now and this only makes it worse. I have had very recent talks with him about him needing to prove himself to me again; which he has promised to do. However, there has been almost no improvement (sure he is more 'lovey dovey' but that does nothing for earning trust). He still refuses to share his passwords with me and avoids the topic at all cost, even knowing how hurt I still am. We have been together for over two years but I dont think he is really trying for me.... I catch him oogling other women regularly (anytime we are out in public).
Guys, can you please help a heartbroken girl? I need some insight as to why he doesnt seem like he cares about my pain or that he is facing losing me.....
So I recently had a posting asking for help with my BF. He had changed his passwords and was acting very odd. To all of those who read and commented on that post...... I WAS RIGHT!!!!
He had been watching porn, going on dating sites, and even posting on CL for another man to suck him off...... I have not been able to trust him for sometime now and this only makes it worse. I have had very recent talks with him about him needing to prove himself to me again; which he has promised to do. However, there has been almost no improvement (sure he is more 'lovey dovey' but that does nothing for earning trust). He still refuses to share his passwords with me and avoids the topic at all cost, even knowing how hurt I still am. We have been together for over two years but I dont think he is really trying for me.... I catch him oogling other women regularly (anytime we are out in public).
Guys, can you please help a heartbroken girl? I need some insight as to why he doesnt seem like he cares about my pain or that he is facing losing me.....
OldGeezer, that is really great advice. The insight helps me alot.
Belthazor, you obvioulsy didnt read the whole post. We were open about those things and suddenly it changed. Do not assume I was imposing because you cannot read the whole posting.
Thank you all. I have tried to talk to him about it but we never really get anywhere in the talk. He never explains why or says its going to change. Like I said we had a very open relationship to begin, then the changes came. Once he changed his things, I changed mine as well, feeling it only fair and hoping it would make him open back up, but he didnt seem to care. This whole thing started when I found out he had changed MY email password without telling me. I dont understand it and it hurts me deeply. Just the other day he left his comp open and I took a peek, finding that he had been looking at porn sites, and confronted him about it. (Him and I have a deal that if he could prove he didnt NEED porn, that I would watch with him as an occasional thing). It turned out bad and ended in a fight. There have been things I have found on his phone as well.... More insight is appreciated =)
So when my BF and I first got together we were very open as far as sharing passwords to email accounts, computers, ect. The past few months he has been changing his passwords and will not allow me access to anything of his (phone included. I have caught him doing things in the past that he wasnt supposed to be doing). Can I have some people please comment and give me some insight as to why this has suddenly started? I am afraid of the worst but dont want to jump to conclusions. PLEASE HELP!
Yeah. Well my biggest fear is that he wakes up, gets on his comp for awhile, then decides to come and wake me.... He takes it upstairs with him and hides away but when I ask he says he was in the restroom....
So when my BF and I first got together we were very open as far as sharing passwords to email accounts, computers, ect. The past few months he has been changing his passwords and will not allow me access to anything. Can I have some guys please comment and give me some insight as to why this has suddenly started? I am afraid of the worst but dont want to jump to conclusions. PLEASE HELP!
