My wife had two big babies after long labours, and a c section with our third. So she has lots of stretch marks, and a c section scar as well as an appendectomy scar, done when she was 4 months pregnant with our first, so it stretched a lot as well.
But so what! She's my woman, and we've spent years together loving each other since then.
If ypou have someone who is concerned about these, then he may not be worthy of you.
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OldGeezer
Over 90 days ago
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Its the use of the word "allow" that intrigues me. Like it is something that the OP takes pleasure from. That's more than a prick tease, that's just plain odd.
But of ruining means getting me right o the brink and then stopping, unless it was done as part f a longer sex session, I'd just finish myself off, and try to spray you as much as I could.
But of ruining means getting me right o the brink and then stopping, unless it was done as part f a longer sex session, I'd just finish myself off, and try to spray you as much as I could.
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Sounds like you haven't yet "taken the plunge", Beth. When you do, get some Astroglide, it's what I've used for several years now, moved on from KY.
All the advice so far seems sensible to me, but you can help yourself, give yourself some idea of what it might be like, and when you do, it'll make it easier. Just get a slim dildo and lube and play. Maybe in time, but a butt plug and use it first at home only, then maybe progress to using it all day. By then you'll have "educated" your anal sphincter to accept he presence of a long round foreigh object, so taking a cock, though different, should be a lot more fun from the start.
Enjoy!!
Oh, if I can help further, just ask....hehe
All the advice so far seems sensible to me, but you can help yourself, give yourself some idea of what it might be like, and when you do, it'll make it easier. Just get a slim dildo and lube and play. Maybe in time, but a butt plug and use it first at home only, then maybe progress to using it all day. By then you'll have "educated" your anal sphincter to accept he presence of a long round foreigh object, so taking a cock, though different, should be a lot more fun from the start.
Enjoy!!
Oh, if I can help further, just ask....hehe
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Got to disagree with most, and say no of course it isn't, and it doesn't matter whether your partner knows or not.
It is no more being unfaithful than looking at a sexy woman in the street, pub, at a party or theatre, or film, and thinking about what you would like to do when fucking her. Most men do this, and more women now are admitting that they do the same about a hot bloke. It's actually better in some ways as it can help improve your own sex lives, as you pick up things which you might do. OK, there are dangers as well, but if your own sex life with your partner is an open enough pone, so you can talk about sex with her/him, then no issue.
It only becomes unfaithful if you actually engage in sex physically with another. That's the real betrayal, in my book, though I know for many people more open relationships are possible and endure.
It is no more being unfaithful than looking at a sexy woman in the street, pub, at a party or theatre, or film, and thinking about what you would like to do when fucking her. Most men do this, and more women now are admitting that they do the same about a hot bloke. It's actually better in some ways as it can help improve your own sex lives, as you pick up things which you might do. OK, there are dangers as well, but if your own sex life with your partner is an open enough pone, so you can talk about sex with her/him, then no issue.
It only becomes unfaithful if you actually engage in sex physically with another. That's the real betrayal, in my book, though I know for many people more open relationships are possible and endure.
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It is so hard when the one you love is for whatever reason unable to fulfil your sexual needs. It happened to me after my wife had cancer and the drugs she had to take just killed her libido stone dead. Until then we had had a pretty good sex life, and it was hard for her to remember how good it had been, unable to rekindle any of that feeling. She knew it was pretty hard for me too, and for a while she did the mechanical stuff, but it was the emotion involved in making love to the one you love that was missing, and we soon became celibate. We talked to the doctors, tried different drug options, but nothing really changed.
Then one day, she asked me quite simply if I was going to stay, because she knew that the lack of sexual love had left a hole in our relationship. I didn't just give a glib response, we talked at length about it, and I re-affirmed my marriage vow commitment, until death us do part. Then she said that I should look for someone else to satisfy my physical needs. To be honest, I was entirely taken aback, but as we talked further, what she wanted me to do was to have the physical satisfaction and then come home to her. I didn't know if tis was possible.
I now have two relationships with what I suppose would be called fuckbuddies. They themselves are married women whose husbands have lost interest. In one case the husband is aware, in the other not so. My wife knows both of them, and the relationship works. Yes, its a bit unconventional, but she feels secure, and I have in some ways the best of both worlds.
So if you really can't work through the talking about it, the therapies and possibly medications that are available, then you have to take a hard decision.
No, not whether to cut and run, I'm assuming you love her enough not to do that. But whether to tell her that you just have to find a fuckbuddy or whether you just have to settle for a life of celibacy. Both are difficult paths. I was so lucky, and in some ways our relationship is stronger than it was before, but that really is because of the baring of souls that we had to do to reach, for us, the right conclusion.
Good luck.
Then one day, she asked me quite simply if I was going to stay, because she knew that the lack of sexual love had left a hole in our relationship. I didn't just give a glib response, we talked at length about it, and I re-affirmed my marriage vow commitment, until death us do part. Then she said that I should look for someone else to satisfy my physical needs. To be honest, I was entirely taken aback, but as we talked further, what she wanted me to do was to have the physical satisfaction and then come home to her. I didn't know if tis was possible.
I now have two relationships with what I suppose would be called fuckbuddies. They themselves are married women whose husbands have lost interest. In one case the husband is aware, in the other not so. My wife knows both of them, and the relationship works. Yes, its a bit unconventional, but she feels secure, and I have in some ways the best of both worlds.
So if you really can't work through the talking about it, the therapies and possibly medications that are available, then you have to take a hard decision.
No, not whether to cut and run, I'm assuming you love her enough not to do that. But whether to tell her that you just have to find a fuckbuddy or whether you just have to settle for a life of celibacy. Both are difficult paths. I was so lucky, and in some ways our relationship is stronger than it was before, but that really is because of the baring of souls that we had to do to reach, for us, the right conclusion.
Good luck.
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Have you thought ever of having another woman at home for YOU? If your husband isn't that keen on sex, you could have fun, shed some of the workload from you to her - your life sounds like not a lot of time for you - and he gets some company as well.
Just trying it out of the box....
Just trying it out of the box....
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Yes, and have done. Not as an exhibition, but where there is a risk of being noticed, gives a real buzz. The classic is in a pub or club where she sit son my lap. Little do the rest of them know that my cock is inside her warm body, until she starts to moan...hehe
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"And God Created Woman" was the first film that I saw that in those days would have warranted an R certificate. In the UK, I think it had an X certificate, but I gather even that was censored a bit. I was only 13, but snuck in and boy did Brigitte Bardot sizzle. I wanked for days afterwards.
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There's a nude beach in North Norfolk, which doesn't get much use. Must be something about the North Sea and the east winds 
But I've been there a few times with my mrs, and would be happy to go again if the sun was warm and the wind stopped. The lack of people there does sometimes get you into trouble, as once we didn't hide the fact that we were getting quite aroused, and made love on our towels, only to find two couples peering over the dune behind us. At least we got a round of applause for our efforts!
But I've been there a few times with my mrs, and would be happy to go again if the sun was warm and the wind stopped. The lack of people there does sometimes get you into trouble, as once we didn't hide the fact that we were getting quite aroused, and made love on our towels, only to find two couples peering over the dune behind us. At least we got a round of applause for our efforts!
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You've just come out of a relationship, and according to your profile are looking for nsa sex. Frankly it isn't the best time to start with anal, because, as many have pointed out, it takes time and also trust in your partner. The ideal for you would be to find a fuck buddy, who has some experience and can take you through this. You may not get anything from it, but if you do, then it can be outstanding!! (My Mrs says so too!).
So take it slowly, ease you anus into it - maybe get a butt plug and wear that for a while, starting small and moving up, and again as many have said, diy with a vibe. That should give you some insight into it, and I hope you enjoy it.
So take it slowly, ease you anus into it - maybe get a butt plug and wear that for a while, starting small and moving up, and again as many have said, diy with a vibe. That should give you some insight into it, and I hope you enjoy it.
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Several, lasting from 3 weeks to 6 years. I didn't keep them secret, no point. My wife also has had a few. Our marriage isn't exactly open, but let's just say it doesn't stop us having fun away from home. Just two rules - don't hurt anyone, and don't embarrass either ourselves or our friends.
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I wasn't a virgin, my wife was, when we married over 40 years ago. We'd been going out for 3 years, and once the honeymoon was over, she told me that she wished she hadn't waited. That wasn't any for of bait to trap me into marriage, but the way she had been brought up. Happily, we've fucked all ways ever since and still do, and it was as though she'd shed a real load of inhibition with her virginity.