I'm not a fan of anal. I can't imagine anything being hotter than vaginal intercourse between the two.
Intelligence.
If I could pick more than one thing, I'd add creativity and a man who's articulate, but all of those things tend to go hand-in-hand.
I LOVE receiving them, especially when it's an unexpected surprise!
Once while blindfolded, my lover placed a new pair of nipple clamps on me. It led to some of the hottest sex ever!
Has your partner indicated how he/she wants you to be more dominant? Does it involve BDSM or just being more aggressive? Has he/she mentioned anything specific that he/she would like?
Start out slowly, pay close attention, and see what things he/she gets excited about and enjoys. In your spare time when you're not distracted and have the time to talk and possibly follow up with some sex play, pull out some erotic photos, videos or stories on the spicier side and ask, "What do you think of this?" Better yet, flat out ask, "What would you like me to do that will really turn you on?"
Responsible partners entering BDSM relationships will go over a checklist of things they have done, would like to do, and things they would not like to do (hard limits). It sounds unromantic and very impersonal, but it will help you gauge how far you can take things.
Good luck!
It really depends on the mood between me and my partner. There was one night when the tension built up for about an hour of rough and wild sex followed y a break and went back for more. There have been times when it was an entire evening of touching, holding, exploring and finding every magical way to have intercourse.
There's a guy I've had my eye on. I would love to have an entire evening of tantric sex with him.
What makes me squirt is all about the man I'm with. He has to know what he's doing and he has to be aggressive.
It doesn't happen all the time, even if the sex is great. I've had it happen as many as three times in one night when I've soaked the sheets all the way through the mattress pad.
It depends on my mood. If I'm in a down and dirty mood, it's either Closer by Nine Inch Nails or Dirt by Depeche Mode. If I'm in a really sultry mood it's either In Your Own Sweet Way or Nuit Sur Les Champs Elysees by Miles Davis.
I love to gush! I only wish I could do it every time. I was on the brink several times this weekend and it just wouldn't happen.
Good question.
I've thought about that a time or two, although I try not to think when I'm the throes of orgasms. When I can, I try to say something more creative, but "Oh my god!" just seems to blurt out better without much thought or too many syllables.
I'm so loud that my neighbors light up after we have sex.
Thank goodness no one has complained or dialed 911 ... yet!
My guy is incredibly seductive and romantic, but he can get pretty rough and wild when he gets caught up in things. I shouldn't complain, but I'd like for him to start off rough and wild in the beginning once in a while, too.
I have two days out of the month in which I don't go ballistic, but all the Paxil and martinis in the world can't make that kind of ugly go away. Is it that time of the month for her?
My s/o knows exactly what's going on. He'll take about a half hour to be very patient with me and address whatever situation I'm having until I calm down. He's a gem.
I'm sure he's probably grateful that we live 2,700 miles from each other at those times, too!
With my lover, absolutely yes! He is incredibly responsive.
However, there are times I've felt that it was an absolute chore ... like when a man just sits there or lays there and doesn't move around or say anything or moan or make any kind of noise that signifies that he's enjoying it.
If I could get away with it, absofuckinglutely!
I clench my entire body from the outside in.
Not only does this help me from letting go of my orgasm too quickly (I happen to love that feeling of being on the edge for as long as possible), but it gives an extra squeeze for my man when he's inside of me.
I enjoy talking about sex and relationships, preferably on a forum.
I have no use for cyber sex or sexting with strangers. It's not my thing. It doesn't turn me on. I don't have time for it.
I just published a post on my blog about this about a month ago.
In case the link doesn't post, here's the article:
Gushing. Squirting. Female ejaculation. Whatever you call it, I’m baffled by why there’s so little information there is about it, and the information I have found ranges from doubtful to misinformed (see Wikipedia) to downright crazy (it’s ancient?).
Personally, I’ve only gushed a relative handful of times, and only with my current lover.
This past weekend, it happened three times in the same session. All we could think was, “Wow!”
Having gushed like that and only having gushed with him, I didn’t know anyone I could ask besides him how common it is. He said it’s only happened with two other women, and that one of them could do it on demand. (I really didn’t want to hear that exact detail, but I did ask.)
I wish I could say how and why it happens to me. I really can’t. I can’t will it to happen emotionally or physically like I can when I orgasm. I can’t feel a specific buildup like I do when I come, although it does come at times of extremely intense arousal and when my lover is making contact with my G-spot with his fingers or his cock. A gush of hot, watery, clear fluid just blasts out of me and thoroughly drenches him, me and the sheets. I’m not talking about a tiny spot; I’m talking about both of us having to sleep on a pretty large section of the bed that’s soaked well through the sheets and the mattress pad. After it happens, by no means am I mentally or physically drained after I gush.
I came across one video by a man who purported to be able to teach men how to make their women gush. I’d say he has the technique down, but as a gusher, I can’t say it’s a surefire way. It doesn’t always happen according to his directions, even when our lovemaking is scorching-the-sheets hot.
What blows my mind most is that physicians and other scientists know little about female ejaculation. According to Dr. Laura Berman, “Since 2000, an increasing number of researchers have suggested the liquid may come from the Skene’s glands, which are located on the anterior wall of the vagina around the lower end of the urethra. But the truth is we simply don’t know where ejaculate comes from …”
Excuse me … “We simply don’t know where ejaculate comes from”??? Hell, it sounds as if the medical community isn’t even sure if Skene’s glands exist. The lack of findings and credible explanations I have come across is simply mind-blowing … almost as mind-blowing as gushing three times in less than a half hour … almost as mind-blowing as how I could gush that much and that often yet not gush for months, if not years at a time. What kind of answer could I expect from my gynecologist? In this day and age, is the female anatomy still that much of a mystery?
At the same time, having gushed the way I did was quite an extraordinary experience for both of us … as was the all the fun that led up to it.
Financially unstable men/moochers.
The emotionally needy.
Men only looking for a booty call.
Luckily, I have the world's greatest lover.
Nuit Sur Les Champs-Elysees - Miles Davis
1. A man who is fond of me and treats me decently.
If a man can't afford to pay for a woman and/or himself when he asks her out, he shouldn't be dating.
If a man has a large penis and doesn't know what to do with it, that's a problem. (My ex-husband of 12 years.)
Yes. It's happened to me. Twice, and I'm currently seeing a man I first met on a non-sex discussion board 16 years ago. It's complicated (long-distance), we only get to see each other two months, but it's the most wonderful (often we say unbelievable) love affair imaginable.
Online, not likely. I don't mind having a private conversation OUTSIDE of cyber/phone/text/ sex, but I don't have time to waste getting sexy with someone who lives hundreds or thousands of miles away I'll never meet. It's not my thing.
Offline, get to know the whole me, not just the erotica writer/sex blogger side of me. Flirt with me, romance me. Make an effort to woo me in an effortless way. If common interests, personalities, values and chemistry don't mesh, the sex thing is never going to happen.