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The dom/sub relationship can be very far-reaching, but it can also be incredibly miniscule in what some might consider "kink".

It can also be incredibly useful as a therapeutic tool, yeah, I said it. People have recovered memories of abuse, , and molestation during BDSM scenes, which have helped them get the help they needed.

I suspect though, that your interest in the "psychology" of it is based on one I hear all the time; "Am I normal for wanting to do this stuff or am I some sick freak?"

Thanks for the input!

Do you find most cases of BDSM are from people looking for interpersonal experiences and development, or do you find them to be used by couples who are strengthening their relationship through it?

I'm actually pretty comfortable with my attitude towards it, it's more of a genuine curiosity.

You'd be surprised how many people do use it as a growth thing. I met a couple who were about as bland as you could be, but they'd expressed an interest in adding some kink to their life after having a baby. I suggested a little role-play, and then possibly see if a tiny bit of bondage might work out for them. It did, and less than a year later they were into all kinds of kink, exhibitionism, and had jazzed up their "regular" lives with dance classes, river rafting, etc. Of course their own relationship was much stronger as well and she'd found that taking the lead in some kink had made her a much stronger person in all areas.

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There's actually a lot of research out there on this very topic. A good place to start may be an Abnormal Psychology class at a local community college. One of the classes offered at one of my schools was actually focused on Fetish and BDSM in a very clinical approach. It was actually one of the better classes I ever took.

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Of Course!! I think it is so hot if the guy licks my pussy after he cums in me. But I think this is a question more for the guys as the guy may object to this more than the girl would.

BTW, there is a thread on "Ask the Gals" already about this, Creampie Eating!!

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The dom/sub relationship can be very far-reaching, but it can also be incredibly miniscule in what some might consider "kink".

It can also be incredibly useful as a therapeutic tool, yeah, I said it. People have recovered memories of abuse, , and molestation during BDSM scenes, which have helped them get the help they needed.

I suspect though, that your interest in the "psychology" of it is based on one I hear all the time; "Am I normal for wanting to do this stuff or am I some sick freak?"

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Adultfriendfinder.com has a sister-site devoted to alternative lifestyles. I suggest trolling a personal ad at one of those websites which cater to such. I mean, you're not going to go looking for her in places she is not most likely to be are you? Unless you're directed and focused, you could go months or years before you meet her.

I've had some luck just outright asking around at parties and nightclubs: "You wouldn't be into wooden ponies would you? Flogging, boot-licking or collared sex slave submission 24x7 ring any bells for you?"