Quote by DLizze
"If I was to have some fun am I a b*stard ...?"
What an incredibly selfish question. How do you know her sex drive is lower? Are you a mind reader? If you are, then you don't need to ask us if it is allright. Just read her mind to see what she thinks of the idea.
Just the mere fact that it is you and not her asking this question tells me that, yes, you are. And I would probably go a little further and say "selfish b*stard", which probably goes a long way toward explaining why she seems to have a "lower sex drive". My guess is her sex drive isn't what's wrong; it's how you treat her. Has it occurred to you her drive might be increased if maybe she felt like you loved her?
And just saying you love her is NOT what I'm talking about. Show her, not with gifts, or flowers, or candy, but with simple things, like washing the effing dishes, or picking up after yourself. And don't expect that to work miracles; it probably took her a while to get tired of having sex with someone who did not seem to love her, so it will take twice as long to make her see that you were just being blind and selfish and stupid.
And if you already DO all of those things, then it is time to get professional help. And by "professional help, I mean a marriage counselor, not a prostitute. So put your little schmeckie back in your pants, and go act like a real man, instead if a whiney little boy who is not getting his way.
Well, there's been some interesting answers and this surprisingly agressive one. Here's the thing, I asked the question in an admittedly provocative way to gauge people's feelings towards the subject. My wife and I have had many discussions about this and things are a little up and down but when we make love, sometimes frequently sometimes not, it is honestly very good and we both take care to give. My question was born out of recent frustration but in all honesty I could never go through with cheating on her or going behind her back for a quick frill, I won't risk our long and 99% very happy marriage. That's why I said give it to me straight, I'm not as stupid as I look you see.
I was only interested in what others felt and have to admit to having had a few drinks when I posted the question so didn't give a lot of thought to how it would come across, but really I just wondered what womens' (and mens') attitudes are toward the subject, rest assured I'm not the bastard I painted myself as and although I have a very healthy interest in sex it has to be within my marriage and I/we will get things back on track even though recent times have been a little flat.
I will still continue to read forums like this and enjoy the stories and pics you all post up though.
