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Leighton
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Male, 55
0 miles · Oxford
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Agree with this absolutely. I think the older you get, the more open-minded you get, and the less you care about traditional boundaries, and what people think.
I also think that, given the right partner, it creates a great amount of trust, and allows you to explore together without fear of being judged. It's really kind of moving.
Verbal put it better than me!
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I definitely think that as we get older we begin to care less about what people think of us. I don't mean we become selfish but I've realised, as I've got older, what I want to enjoy and experience and I don't want to live a life of regret.
Through years of sexual experences, I think we sieve through all the things we don't enjoy and concentrate our time on the things we do. I've also come to realise that sharing your 'kinky' fantasies with someone who is willing to be part of them brings you closer together and builds up a huge amount of trust and openness and helps sustain a relationship.
Through years of sexual experences, I think we sieve through all the things we don't enjoy and concentrate our time on the things we do. I've also come to realise that sharing your 'kinky' fantasies with someone who is willing to be part of them brings you closer together and builds up a huge amount of trust and openness and helps sustain a relationship.
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My first 'proper' girlfriend would fuck to 'When 2 R in Luv' by Prince followed by the full length version of 'French Kiss' by Lil Louis.
I reckon it gave me 20 minutes, which when you're 17 years old and just discovered sex, was plenty long enough!
Whenever I hear either of these songs, it gets my nostalgically horny!!
I reckon it gave me 20 minutes, which when you're 17 years old and just discovered sex, was plenty long enough!
Whenever I hear either of these songs, it gets my nostalgically horny!!
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I wondered whether you've ever had more than one sexual experience and partner within a short space of time, the same night for example, who weren't aware of each other?
Did you ever have sex with a lover and then go home and have unexpected sex with your partner, for example.
Did you ever have sex with a lover and then go home and have unexpected sex with your partner, for example.
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For me, a MMF threesome offers more. Admittedly the only FFM threesomes I've experienced, were when I was younger and they weren't entirely successful because there always seemed to be one spectator. The MMF threesomes I've had more recently have been far more intense and seem to offer more possibilities for everyone to enjoy. That might have something to do with becoming more carefree as you get older though. 
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A partners past makes no difference to me whatsoever. Confidence is huge turn on and a massive attraction. Anyone who is willing to open up honestly and truthfully about what turns them on and what they like sexually is a keeper and it would only make me consider them even more as 'the one'! If a partner opened up about a more extreme past that you mention, it would make me think the relationship was going to be one built on trust and honesty.
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I love 69'ing with the woman on top or if it's with another man, more likely side by side. The one thing that sounds stupid, but is a real problem, is I'm over 6 foot tall and it makes it difficult to give and receive pleasure, particularly with a woman. There's only so many pillows I can stuff under my head! 
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I know it sounds stupid, but I'll only ask to friend someone with a picture on their avatar or on their profile. If it's left as the generic red box, it seems more anonymous and gives me the perception they're not on Lush that often.
When I'm searching for like minded members, using the search options, I'll skim over those that don't have a photo or picture.
When I'm searching for like minded members, using the search options, I'll skim over those that don't have a photo or picture.
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I'm a guy and have been 'pegged' many times, by one particular woman. I've had partners use sex toys on me but one lady had always had a fantasy of using a strap-on so it was an obvious progression. For me, the anticipation of it was more of a turn on than the actual act. I didn't find it as intimate as simply using a dildo. Having said that, the role reversal and having the woman dominate me and treat me a sex doll was incredible. The strap on she would use had a vibrating bullet that sat in a pouch against her clit, so she always had a wild orgasm as she was fucking me.
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I'm thinking more about on going relationships, but if you're partner had a fantasy (that was legal) but that required dressing up or role play or even something as obvious as anal or group sex, is it possible that this would completely turn you off them?
I ask because, generally sex advice is about being open and honest with your partner and letting them know what you like, but I'm not sure if that's true. I've not told my wife about all the things that turn me on, because I know (100%) that she wouldn't be into it and I think it would make her realise that what we do sexually, is not enough for me.
Although I guess I'm leading a double life by having sexual experiences outside of my marriage, I genuinely think it's the only way for me to have that 'release' and keep my wife.
I'm aware how selfish that sounds.
I ask because, generally sex advice is about being open and honest with your partner and letting them know what you like, but I'm not sure if that's true. I've not told my wife about all the things that turn me on, because I know (100%) that she wouldn't be into it and I think it would make her realise that what we do sexually, is not enough for me.
Although I guess I'm leading a double life by having sexual experiences outside of my marriage, I genuinely think it's the only way for me to have that 'release' and keep my wife.
I'm aware how selfish that sounds.
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I had a female sales rep, who had visited me many times and was more and more flirtatious each time. When she came to see me a few months ago, she was sat down and I walked around her side of the desk to lean over and look at something on her laptop. Her face was level with my groin and she looked up at me and began rubbing my cock through my trousers. Clearly, this was more than flirting, so I undid my trousers and she gave me a blow job, while I stood up in front of her. When I told her I was cumming, she took the lot in her mouth and then stood up and french kissed me, sharing my loud in our mouths.
Thankfully my office is the only office upstairs and it's easy to hear anyone coming up the stairs, so there's little danger in being interrupted.
I've seen her again since and although she's told me we can't have sex, she seems very happy to keep doing this.
Thankfully my office is the only office upstairs and it's easy to hear anyone coming up the stairs, so there's little danger in being interrupted.
I've seen her again since and although she's told me we can't have sex, she seems very happy to keep doing this.
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I can understand why she might like being rimmed more than the actual penetration. Although I'm a man, I enjoy being rimmed and fingered and have taken dildos inside me and I would say it's the tongue-ing and teasing of my arsehole that turns me on much much more than the actual penetration. I'm sure I've read that the nerve endings are around the entrance, so I guess it makes sense that that's where the most pleasure would come from.
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My wife knows nothing of my bisexual side and I've never told her anything about past experiences. I've also had numerous sexual experiences since I was married over twenty years ago, particularly in the last couple of years, including oral sex with another man and a MMF threesome, which pretty much had everything you could imagine, including being 'spit roasted' between the man and his wife with a strap-on and bathroom watersports.
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Unfortunately my Wife wouldn't ask me to do anything out of the ordinary, but in previous relationships and extra-marital relationships I've experienced, I've been very happy to do anything my partner(s) would want. To fully share those fantasies and experiences creates an incredible bond and although it's hard to explain, it really does bring you closer together.